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DH charged me for Steak...but I'm a Veggie!

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atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 20:04

Not irate/upset/annoyed but just wanted to see how others would feel if it were them...

DH is a lovely guy but has his quirks (don't we all). For context, we split the household bills and big purchases 50/50 so he transfers the money into my account on the 1st of each month. For anything else, we just buy what we want/need out of our own money.

A few weeks ago, DH and I had some beauty treatments by a self-employed beautician who has a beauty room at home but is also mobile. I've only visited her a handful of times before, so we're friendly, but not friends. Before we left, she was telling us about other treatments she does, so DH and I booked in for a massage at our home (DH said he would pay as a treat) which took place a couple of days ago. As we were leaving, DH asked her if she liked steak, to which she said yes, so DH told her that he would make a steak dinner for her (DH loves to cook). I thought it was a bit odd offering to make dinner for her when she was coming over to work, but it was a friendly enough gesture by him. Please note this was his gesture, not mine. I would've just given her a tip at the end!

Anyway, the day of the massage arrived; DH went to the butchers and bought the steak. While I was enjoying my massage, he was cooking away in the kitchen. Beautician ate and enjoyed the steak and DH was loving the compliments.

Yesterday morning, 1st of the month, direct debits due, I checked my bank account and found that DH had transferred £20 less than he should have. When I asked him why, he told me, "for the steak!" I wouldn't have minded but I'm a vegetarian so I don't even eat bloody steak!

Yes, he paid for my massage...thought it was a treat, but it cost me £20 in the end. Still a bargain I suppose! What would you think?

OP posts:
Frazzled2207 · 02/09/2021 20:39

This really is bonkers. But is it possible that with you being veggie he just wanted to share a good steak with someone? I can sort of get that. But not the charging you £20 for it.

Tlollj · 02/09/2021 20:39

Hang on who washed up?
Heard it all now.

katieak · 02/09/2021 20:39

@MysweetAudrina

Are you sure it was steak and not pulled pork?
Grin
MorganKitten · 02/09/2021 20:39

£40 steak = London prices!

Where in London are you shopping? Never spent anywhere near that and I’m central London!

HonoreDeBallsack · 02/09/2021 20:40

@SummerHouse

So much weird to dissect here.
Bloody Hell, you're not wrong there.
willithappen · 02/09/2021 20:40

Nothing wrong with keeping separate finances but a bit strange to detail every little thing, when it comes to food as well. If you buy a twix and you both have a finger each do you split that too? 🤭

Excelthetube · 02/09/2021 20:41

Oh lord OP you have cheered me right the fuck up.

Now when you book the plumber in, serve him a 5 course meal with truffles, lobster and champagne and then charge your DH half of it.

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 20:41

@GreyhoundG1rl fillet steak from the local butcher. Not sure where you get yours from but maybe you could recommend some cheaper London butchers?! Would be most grateful!

OP posts:
5128gap · 02/09/2021 20:42

I think you're all as daft as a bag of brushes. Beautician too. Hilarious.

ShimmyYay · 02/09/2021 20:42

Sometimes I read these things and honestly cannot get over them, how can a “man” be so petty !

Firstruleofsoupover · 02/09/2021 20:42

@SummerHouse

Love your comment re. the prawns.

Kitchendrama1 · 02/09/2021 20:42

@ohidoliketobe

Sorry, I can't answer your question about the steak. I'm still really confused that he cooked a steak dinner for the therapist who had just given you a couples massage... And she just sat and ate it? In your home? Confused
Yep lol.
SonicStars · 02/09/2021 20:43

Don't forget to tip the bin men at Christmas. A BBQ should do it. Perhaps you could charge the in laws for it as they will be putting some wrapping paper in the recycling.

burritofan · 02/09/2021 20:43

maybe you could recommend some cheaper London butchers?!
Bloody hell, you’re going to do it AGAIN? You’ll get a reputation.

QueenHofScotland · 02/09/2021 20:43

I desperately need to know if you all ate dinner together or if she sat and ate a steak dinner while you watched or waited?!

I think the separate accounts and transferring of money is a weird set up overall tbh. Transferring money back and forwards. We’ve had a joint account since we got married, so that’s maybe why I find it strange. I couldn’t be bothered working all of that out.

Excelthetube · 02/09/2021 20:43

My butcher central as in central London charges about that for two very large very fancy fillet steaks.

MintyGreenDream · 02/09/2021 20:44

Well your massages didn't come with a happy ending did they? Your £20 down Grin

RiversideAnne · 02/09/2021 20:44

Literally everything about this is bizarre. Cooking for the massage therapist, splitting money when you’re married… all weird AF

VouisLuitton · 02/09/2021 20:45

Is this for real!? If so, you’ve made my night. I can’t stop laughing 😆

MrsSkylerWhite · 02/09/2021 20:45

He offered someone massaging you both at home dinner?

Do you have pampas grass? Grin

atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 20:45

I don't detail every penny. I don't have time for that. It's just the household bills and say a holiday at a 5 star resort; although I paid for the last one and I covered the household bills during first lockdown. Not expecting repayment at all!
Grocery shopping, going out etc. is not 50/50.

OP posts:
ChargingBuck · 02/09/2021 20:45

Blimey.

Get her back, tell DH it's your treat this time, & cook her some cheese on toast.

Then charge him £21 for your generosity.
(I need you to make on this deal.)

Maassi · 02/09/2021 20:46

Weirdos

RaininSummer · 02/09/2021 20:46

Hilarious. So will you feel obligated to cook her dinner next time?

SonicStars · 02/09/2021 20:46

@burritofan

I'm crying with laughter here

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