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DH charged me for Steak...but I'm a Veggie!

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atleastthepoochlovesme · 02/09/2021 20:04

Not irate/upset/annoyed but just wanted to see how others would feel if it were them...

DH is a lovely guy but has his quirks (don't we all). For context, we split the household bills and big purchases 50/50 so he transfers the money into my account on the 1st of each month. For anything else, we just buy what we want/need out of our own money.

A few weeks ago, DH and I had some beauty treatments by a self-employed beautician who has a beauty room at home but is also mobile. I've only visited her a handful of times before, so we're friendly, but not friends. Before we left, she was telling us about other treatments she does, so DH and I booked in for a massage at our home (DH said he would pay as a treat) which took place a couple of days ago. As we were leaving, DH asked her if she liked steak, to which she said yes, so DH told her that he would make a steak dinner for her (DH loves to cook). I thought it was a bit odd offering to make dinner for her when she was coming over to work, but it was a friendly enough gesture by him. Please note this was his gesture, not mine. I would've just given her a tip at the end!

Anyway, the day of the massage arrived; DH went to the butchers and bought the steak. While I was enjoying my massage, he was cooking away in the kitchen. Beautician ate and enjoyed the steak and DH was loving the compliments.

Yesterday morning, 1st of the month, direct debits due, I checked my bank account and found that DH had transferred £20 less than he should have. When I asked him why, he told me, "for the steak!" I wouldn't have minded but I'm a vegetarian so I don't even eat bloody steak!

Yes, he paid for my massage...thought it was a treat, but it cost me £20 in the end. Still a bargain I suppose! What would you think?

OP posts:
woodfort · 02/09/2021 20:24

If I was going to come to someone’s house to work and they asked me if I liked steak or whatever for dinner I would feel SO AWKWARD about it, probably say yes because I wouldn’t know what else to say and then feel forced to stay and pretend to enjoy the stupid steak.

Tell him it was bloody weird of him to offer and cook her steak and then to charge you for it is out of order. Finally, tell him that if he is really that cheap you and him need to have a real assessment of how you manage your finances because that is not normal.

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/09/2021 20:24

@SummerHouse

I normally tip the hairdresser but maybe I will offer to grill her some garlic prawns next time.
Proper LOL
IWasBornInAThunderstorm · 02/09/2021 20:24

@Oogachuckachopsy

I'm still really confused that he cooked a steak dinner for the therapist who had just given you a couples massage... And she just sat and ate it? In your home? Confused

🤣 I agree with the above. Weirdest fucking thing ever.

Is your DH new to massages? Does he think you’re all in a polygamous relationship now she’s touched you both?! 😬

Yes this sounds like he was expecting something else from the beauty therapist. So weird.
ThisBeTheName · 02/09/2021 20:25

Twenty? Quid? For a steak??

(Never mind the rest of the nonsense Grin )

MrsBungle · 02/09/2021 20:25

How extremely strange!

MondayYogurt · 02/09/2021 20:25

She knew the steak was coming and she didn't try to escape the steak? Even weirder.

HavelockVetinari · 02/09/2021 20:26

This is the weirdest OP I've read since snapped and farted! Grin

OP, it is v weird to cook for a beauty therapist (I'm surprised she accepted!).

Also not acceptable that he charged you for the steak, but that's nowhere near as unreasonable as cooking for her in the first place!

willithappen · 02/09/2021 20:26

Splitting every purchase like that sounds like a LOT of hassle
Me and my partner split our bills but if it came to food/shopping we both just get as and when.
Maybe you should have a joint account to make it easier.
Do you keep receipts and then check it's split evenly?

Excelthetube · 02/09/2021 20:27

How can anyone even concentrate on the financials of it?
Aside from half a steak dinner for 1 was £20

TweedePrik · 02/09/2021 20:27

Bloody expensive steak!

IWasBornInAThunderstorm · 02/09/2021 20:27

@SummerHouse

I normally tip the hairdresser but maybe I will offer to grill her some garlic prawns next time.
Omg omg I just spent ages laughing at this and struggling to catch my breath.
MichelleScarn · 02/09/2021 20:27

@TeapotCollection

£20 for ONE steak 😮
Is that not £20 for her share so only half, so £40!!
MorganKitten · 02/09/2021 20:28

@lunar1

What kind of paid for massage ends in a steak dinner!
One with a Happy Ending
OliverBabish · 02/09/2021 20:28

He’s not quirky, he’s weird.

Quartz2208 · 02/09/2021 20:28

THis surely isnt real?

MyGhastIsFlabbered · 02/09/2021 20:29

Absolutely weirdest thing I've read on MN since the woman shrieking at the Sistine Chapel

Neverrains · 02/09/2021 20:29

This is so… odd.

Did you eat with the masseuse or did you both sit and watch her while wearing your his ‘n’ hers robes?

Excelthetube · 02/09/2021 20:29

Tbf I have spent £20 on a steak before but for my partners birthday meal.

Not as a tip for a random beautician

CoRhona · 02/09/2021 20:29

He said he was treating you to the massage. Therefore he pays for the steak or whatever other weird currency you pay for the massage and tip with.

LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow · 02/09/2021 20:29

this is like something out of a 1970 Play for today....along with a subtext of The Fast Show ....did she like it, Sir, did she, DID she ??? DID SHE like it??

Weird AF.

IWasBornInAThunderstorm · 02/09/2021 20:30

Beautician ate and enjoyed the steak and DH was loving the compliments.

What were you doing? Was he just sat staring at her eating a steak?a!

steff13 · 02/09/2021 20:30

I think it was weird to cook a meal for her. But, since she was there to perform services for both of you, I think you both "fed" her and therefore are equally responsible for the cost of the meal. Even if you don't eat steak yourself.

Oblomov21 · 02/09/2021 20:30

Fast show clip Grin

KeyboardWorriers · 02/09/2021 20:30

This is incomprehensible on so many levels!!

Excelthetube · 02/09/2021 20:31

Total fast show!