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CF part two. Voldemutt and the philosopher's bone

436 replies

Purplewishes · 27/08/2021 15:12

Can't actually believe this has needed a second thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4331756-CF-DSD-DSDs-mum-and-dog

For any new stragglers jumping on for the ride I will try and summerise.
DSD has a dog at her mum's. Dog pisses and shits on the floor.
I'm up to my tits with my own kids with a toddler and newborn twins.
DH ex asked me to walk dog, I said absolutely fucking not.
Been lies and twisted truths about who's looking after dog.
DHs ex has fucked off on holiday anyway.
dSD has taken responsibility for walking dog but need DH to ferry her back and forward
Dog has now been renamed as voldemutt
DH has been told if voldemutt crosses the door he will be drop kicked out the door.
Once again to reiterate I'm having fuck all to do with voldemutt and plan to just sit back and watch the drama unfold (while drinking wine)

So where did we leave off?
DH took DSD at half 5 to her house to walk the dog before school no problem. The plan we were told was that a nice caring neighbour was going to walk voldemutt while DSD at school.

I was out with twins today with a friend with the buggys and we went a scenic route (this was about half 11) and who do I see walking voldemutt??????? DSD.

DSD should be at school (were in Scotland) so I'm guessing that DSD has dogged school in order to be there to walk voldemutt and there was never a neighbour involved. Now DSD didn't see me and I haven't mentioned it to her or to DH yet but I have full intentions of asking her how her day at school was when she gets home and then firing a million detailed questions about her day to see at what point she admits she was not at school.

OP posts:
Walkingalot · 27/08/2021 19:05

Surely they are home now? Getting impatient for the next update!

selflove · 27/08/2021 19:05

Haven't rtft but if DSD didn't show at school today, the school would have rang whoever is named as contact to find out why.

Which means DSD's mum either rang in "sick" on DSDs behalf, or knows DSD didn't show up for school because she would have got the call.

Purplewishes · 27/08/2021 19:08

@noroiscoming one mutt to rule them all?
Sorry I'm a bit rusty on the lord of the rings

That's them home. Be right bark.

OP posts:
rockaround · 27/08/2021 19:10

If it does turn out that there was no NDN I would be tempted to post on ex's facebook page asking if any of her friends can take her dog as she has left it home alone as she was too tight to pay for a dig sitter. At least that will embarrass her. Cheeky stingy cow.

YouJustDoYou · 27/08/2021 19:10

I'm astonished that DSDs mum thinks it's appropriate to firstly suggest she land you with a yapping terrier so she can have a dirty weekend away, and secondly that she has now evidently arranged that DSD skive off school in order to walk the voldemutt

^This

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 27/08/2021 19:11

@Noroiscoming

All the Harry Potter trash talk is going straight over my head. Could you do Lord of the Rings instead?
I'd prefer Vikings please.
Queenoftheashes · 27/08/2021 19:12

[quote Purplewishes]@boatingforthestars oh come on I can take being called immature, evil, shite parent but PLEASE do not put me in the same category as Umbridge.[/quote]
I’d take umbrage at that too

maddening · 27/08/2021 19:13

I think ask how was school ( she may have gone in the morning and slipped out at lunchtime) and then ask if she was at school all day. If she went in the morning and tells you school was fine she is.still telling the truth.

Queenoftheashes · 27/08/2021 19:14

@Noroiscoming

All the Harry Potter trash talk is going straight over my head. Could you do Lord of the Rings instead?
The ex is sauron, OP is Gandalf. DH is saruman. Think the dog is the one ring?
BluebellsGreenbells · 27/08/2021 19:15

Your going to ask her awkward questions later to get her to fess up? She is in a situation where she cannot win regardless what she does and you are proving to be a bully making matters worse for her and also enjoying it

What rubbish. At 13 is is responsible for knowing what’s right and what isn’t, either she’s skipped school. Possible. In which case she’ll need to face the consequences or her mother called her in sick leaving a young teen home alone whilst she went away for the weekend.

If her mother knowingly left her alone, then that’s a real issue. If she’s skipped school and they haven’t alerted her parents, that’s another issue, or quite possible, they have let Mum know she’s missing and mum hasn’t followed it up with a call to dad.

Ex isn’t looking good here.

For the record I saw my own DD skipping school and I did ask a lot of questions so she felt bad enough not to do it again.

Anon135798642 · 27/08/2021 19:15

Actually watching Harry Potter now, been thinking about it aaaaalllllll day after reading these threads!! 😂😂😂

Coffeepot72 · 27/08/2021 19:15

I know you could have cats and owls at Hogwarts, but not sure about dogs?

Congressdingo · 27/08/2021 19:19

@Noroiscoming

All the Harry Potter trash talk is going straight over my head. Could you do Lord of the Rings instead?
No, deadpool. Ta
CraftyYankee · 27/08/2021 19:20

@Coffeepot72

I know you could have cats and owls at Hogwarts, but not sure about dogs?
Only Padfoot. (Siriously)😎🤣
Queenoftheashes · 27/08/2021 19:21

Cats owls or toads only. How scabbers got in i don’t know.

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 27/08/2021 19:24

Starting to really feel for the DSD now. She's already crossed the line granted by missing school but from the previous posts by the OP she's most likely been put in an impossible position by the mum. Don't see how she can win either way.

messybun101 · 27/08/2021 19:27

Be right bark Grin

Chitchatchatter · 27/08/2021 19:27

Don't see how she can win either way.

This.

TimeForTeaAndG · 27/08/2021 19:30

OP you sound like my kind of woman. If you're near the West coast can we be friends?

FedUpAtHomeTroels · 27/08/2021 19:31

@Coffeepot72

I know you could have cats and owls at Hogwarts, but not sure about dogs?
What about Fluffy, only he was massive and had three heads?
Hertsgirl10 · 27/08/2021 19:32

@Chitchatchatter

Don't see how she can win either way.

This.

She will win in the end by understanding that she must stick to the rules and boundaries, not lie and hopefully will also win by not turning out like the devious and entitled mum of hers.

Can’t believe people think that she’s done nothing wrong by skipping school.
She’s 13 and knew that it is wrong.

JenniferAllisonPhillipaSue · 27/08/2021 19:33

OP, do I get a prize for correctly predicting that DSD wouldn't be at school today? Grin

Hiphopboppertybop99 · 27/08/2021 19:38

Wow just wow !!!
Loving the puns op !!

Purplewishes · 27/08/2021 19:38

@JenniferAllisonPhillipaSue 50 points to gryffindor for the prediction.... I assume you are actually in gryffindor

OP posts:
Jumpingintosummer · 27/08/2021 19:38

[quote Purplewishes]@noroiscoming one mutt to rule them all?
Sorry I'm a bit rusty on the lord of the rings

That's them home. Be right bark.[/quote]
Be right bark Grin