CF part two. Voldemutt and the philosopher's bone

[Purplewishes]

Can't actually believe this has needed a second thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4331756-CF-DSD-DSDs-mum-and-dog

For any new stragglers jumping on for the ride I will try and summerise.
DSD has a dog at her mum's. Dog pisses and shits on the floor.
I'm up to my tits with my own kids with a toddler and newborn twins.
DH ex asked me to walk dog, I said absolutely fucking not.
Been lies and twisted truths about who's looking after dog.
DHs ex has fucked off on holiday anyway.
dSD has taken responsibility for walking dog but need DH to ferry her back and forward
Dog has now been renamed as voldemutt
DH has been told if voldemutt crosses the door he will be drop kicked out the door.
Once again to reiterate I'm having fuck all to do with voldemutt and plan to just sit back and watch the drama unfold (while drinking wine)

So where did we leave off?
DH took DSD at half 5 to her house to walk the dog before school no problem. The plan we were told was that a nice caring neighbour was going to walk voldemutt while DSD at school.

I was out with twins today with a friend with the buggys and we went a scenic route (this was about half 11) and who do I see walking voldemutt??????? DSD.

DSD should be at school (were in Scotland) so I'm guessing that DSD has dogged school in order to be there to walk voldemutt and there was never a neighbour involved. Now DSD didn't see me and I haven't mentioned it to her or to DH yet but I have full intentions of asking her how her day at school was when she gets home and then firing a million detailed questions about her day to see at what point she admits she was not at school.

NRTFT but been loosely following and read ops updates.

my issue would be that anything could happen to DSD while at home and you and DH would have no idea as you think she is safely in school. I remember a story a few years ago of a school girl staying home from school and killed by an intruder, from memory he killed her as he knew her family and she recognised him. It’s completely different when you know where she is and your regularly checking up on her. While you and your DH are responsible for her care you need to know where she is.

From what I’ve read I’m guessing her mother has got her to do this, especially if DSD isn’t the sort to nick off school.

If the plan all along way that she'd mitch* school then she's already lied to you OP.

• mitch = Irish for missing school

It didn't take long to get to policing people's grammar and spelling.

You know that some people can't spell because of a disability right? Do you mock people in wheelchairs too @DrJohnZoidberg?

way = was

Op please be my friend 😂🙏this is hilarious 😂😂

The fact that DSD had been spotted dogging school presumably to walk Voldemutt was in the OP of this thread

@jellybeanteaparty ahhh your theory is flawed, if I WAS Mrs Weasley then my wall clock would have showed DSD wasn't at school!!!!!

If it were me, I'd be treading very carefully here. Yes, your DSD may have bought into her mum's subterfuge hoping you might come round to taking the dog in, alternatively she could be choosing the least worst option after being stuck in the middle of what should be a discussion amongst the adults in the family. Telling a lie in order to keep the peace between you all and not be the cause, as she might see it, of any arguments.

Purplewishes I applaud you for your humour while you deal with this situation, you are very funny

I really feel for you because I'm sure this is actually pretty stressful. I'm glad the wee dog wasn't alone all day but it's not on that your DSD was cutting school in order to do it by herself. I hope DSD was just trying to do a nice thing for the dog rather than exW telling her she had to.

FWIW I don't think you are being harsh in how you plan on dealing with any lying that might be told and it's great that there will be no punishments for DSD if she tells the truth, I agree that's how it should be. If she's felt the need to lie to protect her mum I'd be having a chat about how that's not her job in life though.

@boatingforthestars oh come on I can take being called immature, evil, shite parent but PLEASE do not put me in the same category as Umbridge.

And wanting to please you all.

I'm astonished that DSDs mum thinks it's appropriate to firstly suggest she land you with a yapping terrier so she can have a dirty weekend away, and secondly that she has now evidently arranged that DSD skive off school in order to walk the voldemutt.

I am also now crossing my fingers that DSD tells the truth about school - she was happy to talk openly with you about the fact that there was no dog care previously arranged, so I would really hope she realises that being truthful will make life easier for all of you....

And this If she's felt the need to lie to protect her mum I'd be having a chat about how that's not her job in life though.

@WhoIsPepeSilva hit the nail on the head there.

@Sparklfairy I was thinking this. It’s alwayssss the rude twats that love to try and be controversial and get a reaction. Like a immature child 🙄😂

@Purplewishes Just to say I think you are handling this very well, and yes of course the questions to DSD need to be neutral. However if it turns out that there never was a next door neighbour, presumably you would have to get DSD stay in her mum's house with the dog and with DH looking after both of them all weekend until his ex returns?

I really hope she doesn’t lie. I’m surprised that fucking up but telling the truth has no consequences, but fair enough, your house, your rules.

All the Harry Potter trash talk is going straight over my head. Could you do Lord of the Rings instead?

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