Do I give him the ring back?

[pingu777]

The man I was engaged to has decided he doesn't want to get married. Or live together. Or have any life together.

He has asked what I'm doing with the ring.

AIBU to keep it?

(Lighthearted, of course, how can I creatively tell him that I won't be returning his gift?)

I'm sorry OP, I assume you are really upset about it. Personally, I'd return the ring. General thinking is that you'd keep it as he broke it off, but I'd not want reminders of him and his broken promises.

Keep it and make it into a nice pendant

Well of course you have to return the ring. It was given as a promise of marriage and if you then decide not to marry then give the ring back.

He has broken his promise to you and the ring was a gift. Sounds like he wants the ring back as well. What a prince.

Would you wear the ring again (perhaps resetting the stone?)

If not, find out how much a jeweller would pay you for it. If it's a good amount, I would sell it and keep the money.

I didn't decide not to marry, it was his decision.

@Slimmer2018 try again

Give that he ended the engagement I wouldn't be returning it!

I’ve still got my old one. It annoys me that I can’t wear it because I like it 😂
I wear my new one though! Which I also like.

My friend gave her snack and he put it on Facebook marketplace, that was a fun bit of drama

Why would you want to keep a memento of a broken relationship?

He ended it? You keep the ring.

Sell it! Spend the money on a subscription to an online dating site

Even if you keep it, are you honestly likely to wear it again? I say this as someone who kept her engagement ring ( i wasn't asked for it back or asked what I was doing with it, if it makes a difference), and no, I've never worn it again, so I think if asked I would have just returned it.

I really loved the ring, but it was definitely an engagement ring style ring, and I felt like people (family, friends) would have judged me if I'd have worn it.

Agreed. He ended it so you keep the ring. I say keep it.... Sell it and buy yourself something you've always wanted, something totally frivolous!

He broke it off = you keep it!

See what you can get for it at a jewellers

It was a gift, like any other. Keep it if you like it

If you're in the UK the giving of an engagement ring is presumed to be a gift and in law it's assumed that the person who receives it should keep it.

Given that he's called it off, he should also feel morally as well as legally obliged for you to keep the ring.

I suggest you tell him that you'll add it to your collection, or that you have a date with a pawn shop on Monday

He ended it. You get the ring. Sell it. Toss it in the sea. Do whatever the hell you want to do with it.

If he's ended it I think it's your right to decide what to do. Keep it, give it back, sell it, whatever.

It was a gift. Keep it.
I can’t believe he’s asked what you’re doing with it!

He broke it off. You keep the ring. Do whatever you want with it.

It is beautiful but yes it signifies a broken relationship, and so I likely won't wear it. I just think it's very cheeky to ask for it back. I'd likely sell it in time.

I'd pawn it and do something fabulous for myself with the money.

I'd also maybe tell him sure he can have the ring back, and give him the pawnbroker's address.

I’d give it back. Why would you want to keep it?

In USA law the giving of an engagement ring is considered to be a contract to marry and, no matter who got cold feet, if the contract is broken the ring is returned to the giver.

Sorry OP. I agree with the sell it and buy yourself something a night away somewhere/dating site subscription when you’re ready (something temporary so you’re not reminded).

In answer to his question ‘it was a gift, of course I’ll keep it. I’d never dream of returning a gift’