Do I give him the ring back?

[pingu777]

The man I was engaged to has decided he doesn't want to get married. Or live together. Or have any life together.

He has asked what I'm doing with the ring.

AIBU to keep it?

(Lighthearted, of course, how can I creatively tell him that I won't be returning his gift?)

Depending on what it is you might not get much money from selling it, but you could have the stones/metal made into a different piece of jewellery for you. He doesn't get it back.

My DH was engaged before he met me, she cheated and broke it off with him (she did marry the other bloke to be fair) and still kept the ring! I thought that was a bit cheeky. In your case though I would definitely keep it.

I kept my rings after my divorce, obviously that is different, but I sold them and went on holiday. I wouldn't have ever wanted to wear them, or another piece of jewellery made out of them, but they were worth (cost) a couple of grand each and i got about a third of that back.

I would flog it and give the money to charity myself.

Given he’s broken it off and you weren’t “at fault”, cheeky of him to ask about the ring. Says a lot about him.

You’ve dodged a bullet.

Technically you could keep it but given his stance, I’d be inclined to give it back and draw a line under the relationship and move on without any reminders.

Keep it, sell it (when you’re ready) and spend the money on yourself- whether it’s a bag of chips, new shoes or a holiday, depending on what you can get for it.

I’d tell him you’ve already chucked it in the sea or whatever though just so he stops asking you about it.

Take the diamond out and replace with cubic zirconia. Then give it back to him.

user1471462428 I love you. That’s genius.

I have an old engagement ring, it has just sat there for 23 years now. I might ask his wife if she'd like it, that should go down well 🤣

The ring was given in expectation of marriage. He is entitled to it back because the marriage isn't going to take place - regardless of who called it off.
Give it back but keep the moral high ground.

Fuck the moral high ground and fuck him. The horrible prick.

Keep it ... it was a gift. Sell it .. but don't expect too much for it , jewellers are brimming over with them !! Buy yourself something nice

I kept my engagement and wedding rings and some diamonds but it was such a waste because I never wore them because of what they signified.
I sold the lot and bought myself a ring that has no significance to any man.

He ended it you keep it, you end it you return it so keep it. Hope you ok op x

I'd give it back. Not for any moral reason, but for the fact that I would want nothing to do with him and a totally clean break, and any connection to him, including any proceeds from selling the ring, would still inveigle me.

I'm not sure what I would do. On the one hand I wouldn't want anything to do with him again so wouldn't want the reminder with having the ring, but on the other hand why should you give it back if he's the one who broke it off? Have you spent any money on the wedding yet OP? Have you booked honeymoon, deposit on the venue, bought a dress, deposit on flowers or caterer, etc? Are you financially affected by his decision to move out or changing the living arrangements? If you've spent money on the wedding he's cancelled then maybe keep the ring to pay back expenses?

Keep the ring! You didn’t call it off, he did. Sell it and go on holiday.

Well he sounds an absolute charmer doesnt he? My thinking would be that you keep the ring .If you want to sell it /keep it for a rainy day /stamp up and down on it ! Its yours .Tell him you are keeping it, and cant speak for long as you are off to meet someone new! In the past engagement rings were seen as a promise to marry ,and in those days still expected women to be a virgin on wedding day .If the engagement was broken off by the man he could be sued for "Breach of promise"!

I think if the man breaks it off the women keeps the ring (unless a family ring) if the woman breaks it off she gives back the ring. So in your case you keep the ring op. What you do with the ring is then your choice if you keep it or sell it.

I did know a couple where the man broke up with the woman and kept on asking for the ring back in the end they agreed to sell it and split the money[grin - maybe a idea?

I have also heard a man asked for the ring back so that if he got engaged again he could give the new wife to be the ring...I just hope I’m never that new women

In law the ring is a gift so belongs to op. Keep it and flog it.