Do I give him the ring back?

[pingu777]

The man I was engaged to has decided he doesn't want to get married. Or live together. Or have any life together.

He has asked what I'm doing with the ring.

AIBU to keep it?

(Lighthearted, of course, how can I creatively tell him that I won't be returning his gift?)

Keep it.

It's only in the US that rings are given in anticipation of marriage and if the marriage doesn't work out, then it goes back whoever bought it.

In the UK they are considered gifts and you can do whatever you want with it!

He's not going to wear it and I doubt you will so why let him sell it and keep the money when it's yours?

I had a similar situation, I kept it and had it made into a fabulous pendant, reminded me never to fall for a scumbag again.

My husband knows the history behind my pendant as isn't worried about it at all

Is it expensive enough to sell to go on holiday?

Figure you can have a broken heart in the UK or a broken heart on a beach with a cocktail.

YANBU

Keep it and sell it
Neither of you should return any gifts you gave each other
A gift is exactly that - the giver has no right to it

and he's a CF for asking when he broke off the engagement

He broke it off so keep it. Sell it. Of course you are not going to wear it but neither is he. You deserve the money more than he does.

I think if you break off the engagement you return the ring, but if he does, then he can fuck off you get to keep it.

I wouldn't return it. I'd sell it and keep the money as it was he who broke it off, not you.

Sell it and give the money to a Women's Refuge to support other women let down by men.

Legally it’s yours, it was a gift. Stuff him, keep it.

No way I’d give my engagement ring back.

I always think it's the height of tackiness for a man to mention the ring after a break up no matter WHO broke up with who.

Keep it.

I know legally you can keep it but I would feel I was keeping something that wasn’t mine and I’d be a bit superstitious about keeping it or benefitting from it.

If his actions has cost you actual money then I think you do have the right to sell it and tell him so.

Otherwise if he just ended things because he genuinely didn’t think you would be a good married couple for life, I’d give it back with good grace, to thank him for being honest with his feelings and letting you down before things got any further.

I’d 100% keep it.

He broke it off - keep it, sell it, buy yourself something lovely.

He has asked what I'm doing with the ring.

Say, "I'm listing it on eBay as we speak. If you're interested in buying it then let me know and I'll send you the link".

Is it worth enough to sell it? It’ll have lost masses of value, sadly...

I’d give it back, I wouldn’t want the reminder and most rings aren’t ever going to feel like you get enough for them, but it’s your call, unless it’s a family heirloom or something.

I hope you’re alright

I gave mine back.

I didn't want it as a reminder of a sad time (he broke it off.)

Return it

I'd sell it and go on holiday.

I'd definitely sell it and keep the cash for myself.

I had to give mine back as he hadn’t finished paying for it (it was from Argos and I was 17)

That's classy on his part! You will look back and be glad you didn't marry such a little man.

Although it would be fun should you meet him down the line and see it on another woman's finger: "Oh, how sweet, he gave you my ring. Lovely, isn't it?'

Give it back. Bad karma. Let him have it.

Is it a heirloom or have sentemental value to him / his family?

If not, I would sell the sing....