For saying my partner is shit in bed ?

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NC for this one.

So.. myself my dp and my ds who is 2 years old went to the park today this afternoon , having a lovely time etc .

I take ds on the round bowl type swing that you can lie in and gently swing, me and ds are swinging gently , and my dp comes over and starts pushing and pushing higher and faster, I tell him politely to stop please .. as I don’t particularly like it and neither does DS, he keeps going and keeps going and is not listening to me tell him to stop - by this point i have asked him to stop nicely around 5 times , as now feeling sick and light headed, and I’ve jokingly said ( to attempt to get him to stop) right , no more sex for you then. He just starts laughing it off , and carries on.. and said “thats Rubbish” and I said “Well it’s shit anyway” (it isn’t , but the one Way to get him to actually stop pushing was to say something he was not expecting )

He stopped almost immediately.

The only way I could get him to stop pushing the fucking swing was to insult him!!!

He is now not talking to me and thinks this is all my fault and has said how horrible I am.

He just wasn’t respecting myself and our ds when I repeatedly told him to please stop pushing.

Have I been completely out of order ?!

No

YABU! Sexual prowess is totally unrelated to the situation that annoyed you, and that (untrue) comment obviously is going to affect/sting the recipient in a way that imo doesn’t fit the “crime”.

Yes.

Are you both 12?

RizzoFromGrease How the frig was I meant to get him to stop without swearing in front of a park full of kids and my ds he was not listening to me or respecting anything I was asking him?!?

I’m 29 and he is 40

People live like this ?

Are you both actual adults?

You were both BU. He should have stopped as soon as he realised your & your DS didn't enjoy the play, unpleasant behaviour IMO. You were unnecessary in your response to him, surely there were other things you could have said to get him to stop pratting about!?

He’s an immature idiot who doesn’t know boundaries or when to stop! Unfortunately everything I was trying wasn’t working .

Does he do this a lot - ignore your boundaries & requests? Was he just being an immature idiot, do you think, or does/did he do it to exert control over you?

Would you actually recognise the difference?

He does this a lot and I frequently get upset over it ! Then unfortunately when I say something not very nice back, I feel like the whole thing is my fault.

Just Grey Rock him when he acts like a dick and consider seriously if this person is the one for you

I would have said anything to make him stop the swing, I feel quite sick thinking about it.

He sounds like a real Prince Charming.

You said that in front of your 2yo?

It would have been more effective, and appropriate, to have vomited all over him.

You both sound really immature what a strange convo to have expecialy the no sex for you comment could you not have stopped the swing yourself ?

That is really the only thing u could think of? No more sex? You would rather say that in a public place than swear a little bit?

Can't swear in the park but can threaten to withhold sex in front of your toddler...

Cool story bro.

Did you say that in front of your child at a park?

How exhausting. Yes YWBU but so was he.