For saying my partner is shit in bed ?

[Isitsummeryet123456]

NC for this one.

So.. myself my dp and my ds who is 2 years old went to the park today this afternoon , having a lovely time etc .

I take ds on the round bowl type swing that you can lie in and gently swing, me and ds are swinging gently , and my dp comes over and starts pushing and pushing higher and faster, I tell him politely to stop please .. as I don’t particularly like it and neither does DS, he keeps going and keeps going and is not listening to me tell him to stop - by this point i have asked him to stop nicely around 5 times , as now feeling sick and light headed, and I’ve jokingly said ( to attempt to get him to stop) right , no more sex for you then. He just starts laughing it off , and carries on.. and said “thats Rubbish” and I said “Well it’s shit anyway” (it isn’t , but the one Way to get him to actually stop pushing was to say something he was not expecting )

He stopped almost immediately.

The only way I could get him to stop pushing the fucking swing was to insult him!!!

He is now not talking to me and thinks this is all my fault and has said how horrible I am.

He just wasn’t respecting myself and our ds when I repeatedly told him to please stop pushing.

Have I been completely out of order ?!

@WorraLiberty

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He was pushing the swing so hard that his ds was crying and he ignored him and you?

What a tosser.

Have you asked him why he carried on?

He sounds awful.

A 40 year old man who has been pushing his partner and 2 year old son on a swing to the point that the toddler is crying and his partner feels sick, and the only thing that gets him to stop is being told he's shit in bed?

He sounds like a dick. And a sadistic one who likes to see women and children cry. (Are you sure the sex isn't rubbish?)

Perhaps he is using this quiet time to re think your relationship.

Here's hoping. I only need that snapshot of their relationship to know she - and the baby - deserves way better.

You both sound like a couple of bellends. Grow up. 🤦🏻‍♀️

So, why are you with him? And PLEASE don't trot out the bullshit line about him being 'a brilliant dad'. A person who disrespects their partner is NOT a brilliant parent. As a wise person once said "The best thing a father can do for his child is to love and respect their mother". (And that goes for mothers, too)

If you have to insult your partner in order to get them to listen to you, there is something seriously wrong in your relationship.

How utterly odd.
So in this whirling swing weirdness, the best course of action is to slate his performance in bed.
If that is truly the only way to get him to listen, you’re fucked. Not well enough it seems.

Pair of prats.

stay classy OP

Ds didn’t hear as he was crying !!! Hence the reason why I wanted him to stop so much . Out of interest what could I have said ?

YOU'RE MAKING YOUR SON CRY. STOP NOW!

How about that?

I think you're getting a ridiculous amount of stick on this thread, OP.

Reading between the lines, I think you're asking whether he's a keeper or not. Well, from what you've written, he definitely is not.

You were both in the wrong.

I'm trying to envisage you being swung round in a swing, with a screaming toddler, whilst shouting at your partner about sex.
Not great

You were both in the wrong and clearly your communication needs a lot of work. I’d apologise for your comment but go on to say that he needs to realise his behaviour was awful too. Ask him what he thinks happened today- what is his version?

“Just Grey Rock him when he acts like a dick and consider seriously if this person is the one for you”

Well I suppose a stupidly immature situation did call for ridiculously immature advice 😬

If you put your feet down, you can jump off a swing. It’s very straightforward.

This is one of the most immature threads I’ve read, and conveniently it took place in a playground. I’m not sure either of you are mature enough for a relationship, let alone to bring up a child.

Isn't the word shit swearing?

How the frig was I meant to get him to stop without swearing

Says

Well it’s shit anyway

Out of interest what could I have said ? I couldn’t physically get off myself

IF YOU DON'T STOP RIGHT NOW I AM ENDING THIS RELATIONSHIP. I MEAN IT would have been my go to. I have been a riding instructor though and I've spent a lifetime around horses so I can shout in a way that stops pretty much anything.

That comment would not be understood by a normal two year old brought up in normal circumstances. A two year old exposed to a lot of sexually inappropriate material? I don’t know. Maybe some of you can advise us. A typical two year old would be distressed by shouting and swearing. Not the swearing per se, but the accompanying raised voice, unless of course shouting and swearing is a normal part of their everyday life.

I can understand the OP saying whatever came to mind in an attempt to get him to stop pushing the swing. It sounds like she was getting desperate, having asked him respectfully a number of times to stop. But surprise surprise, the most important thing here, according to many posters, is to preserve the man’s ego. It’s no wonder so many women are used and abused by men.

He sounds like a dick, imagine doing that, I'd have been really angry. What you said is not the best thing but if he wasn't stopping and you were feeling ill then of course you probably couldn't think clearly.

You both sound like silly kids.

sorry, Op, but you chose to say that in a park. Presumably there were other kids/people about. Poor choices, all round. You both sound like you are 2 year olds. Your poor DS.

BTW Your DH is a nasty shit for not stopping when asked, then continuing when his DS cried. Piece of work; I'd be seriously questioning this relationship.

It's not surprising that you didn't enable the voting buttons.

Gloria, is that you?