For saying my partner is shit in bed ?

[Isitsummeryet123456]

NC for this one.

So.. myself my dp and my ds who is 2 years old went to the park today this afternoon , having a lovely time etc .

I take ds on the round bowl type swing that you can lie in and gently swing, me and ds are swinging gently , and my dp comes over and starts pushing and pushing higher and faster, I tell him politely to stop please .. as I don’t particularly like it and neither does DS, he keeps going and keeps going and is not listening to me tell him to stop - by this point i have asked him to stop nicely around 5 times , as now feeling sick and light headed, and I’ve jokingly said ( to attempt to get him to stop) right , no more sex for you then. He just starts laughing it off , and carries on.. and said “thats Rubbish” and I said “Well it’s shit anyway” (it isn’t , but the one Way to get him to actually stop pushing was to say something he was not expecting )

He stopped almost immediately.

The only way I could get him to stop pushing the fucking swing was to insult him!!!

He is now not talking to me and thinks this is all my fault and has said how horrible I am.

He just wasn’t respecting myself and our ds when I repeatedly told him to please stop pushing.

Have I been completely out of order ?!

What you said was hurtful and cruel. You realise everytime you have sex from now on he is going to be thinking ' am i really crap? Is she enjoying this? Perhaps she will sleep with someone else'

I dont imagine those words will leave him for a very long time.

Yes he sounds like he was being a dick but no excuse to be so insentive.

If badruby is right and not the op trolling this is really sad

has he threw your hamster in the pond yet?

I have a friend called Gloria who is the same age as the OP apparently is with a DP who is about 40 and a toddler. It's been a nasty, toxic relationship from day one with similarly bizarre, petty and immature scenes.

Good grief, imagine being in a relationship that is so ridiculously shit that you're identified on an anonymous forum used by millions of people.

@Charis1503

He once strangled the op, did you read that??

Well I hope your IRL friend can help you through this, because he sounds like a nightmare. Good luck, I hope you can be happy in the future.

Good grief, imagine being in a relationship that is so ridiculously shit that you're identified on an anonymous forum used by millions of people.

I once recognized someone from the way they were complaining about the length of their driveway.

I’m sorry but your relationship sounds toxic. He’s an idiot for pushing you but you are teaching your kid to lie and be abusive to a partner? If my husband was being an idiot I would not even think of what came out of your mouth - you need to have a long think where that came from. Most people would have just yelled at their husbands.

Oh my god is this is actual “outing” in the wild?! I’ve never seen one before!!!

Also- OP- leave your partner. He sounds like an abusive dick, and your kid is getting caught in the crossfire.

Isitsummeryet123456

Gloggs please don't be spooked away from this thread if it really is you. It was a stroke of luck that I read this and recognised you. If you want me to message or call you then I can.

But you need support and help. He will never improve, there will be other times, and your son will continue to be exposed to this unhealthy and damaging dynamic.

@BadRuby I hope your friend listens to you. You sound very sensible. And caring.

@Isitsummeryet123456 take your friend up on the offer of support. Your son - and you - deserve better. Truly. You know that, right?

@Charis1503

You seriously need to get some counselling if Hus ‘hurty feelings’ are what’s bothering from this scenario.

@BadRuby I hope the OP takes you up on your offer of support

You both sound absolutely delightful. Looking forward to next instalment at the swings.

He’s an immature idiot who doesn’t know boundaries or when to stop!
Clearly not. How long have you been with him, & how much of his "unwanted pushing" mentality spills over into your & DD's everyday lives?

Unfortunately everything I was trying wasn’t working
On the swing, or in bed? (sorry, couldn't resist)

sorry, DS not DD.

I really hope you leave him OP. He sounds appallingly abusive.

He sounds like a twat.

Your raction was bizarre. The only way to get him to stop making you feel ill and making his child cry, is to randomly tell him he is shit in bed. The thought process that led to this..I don't think I would ever understand

Thing is, abusive men can lead their partners to some crazy seeming behaviour.

Yes you are being unreasonable but I’m not suggesting he isn’t either.

OP I’d apologise genuinely for what you said there, I certainly wouldn’t take that as a joke it’s a personal insult. It’s a horrible thing to say which could potentially cause some insecurities in the future.

After you have sorted that issue out I’d explain how the swing thing made you feel and see if you can come to some compromise that he doesn’t push boundaries