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AIBU weird game at Hen Party

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Nips01 · 15/01/2020 14:18

It was my friends hen last weekend and there were 12 of us together in a large flat we had rented - including the grooms sister.

MOH had arranged a stripper / butler in the buff type guy and we were playing some "naughty" hen type games - nothing unusual - until MOH gets out a Twister set and announces we were going to be playing Twister with this guy! Oh and the catch was every time you got a new pose there was a second spinner (kind of like the one in the game where it says left foot yellow etc) that had a body part on it and the guy would then tickle u in that spot for a few seconds to try and make u fall over! The first person to lose then had to do a forfeit like take a shot.

Now I don't mind silly hen games but don't really want to be tickled by a randomer! The spinner even had "bum" on it as one of the options! So I sat out but I was one of only 2 people to do so and the others all called me a prude! Some of the girls who played were married / had bfs as well!

So is it just me or is that really fucking weird! Have hen party games officially gone too far?

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JosefKeller · 15/01/2020 16:04

As long as they are all consenting adults, who cares?

You didn't feel comfortable, refused to join in, end of the story.

Of course there's the usual double standards, but there always is.

Funguy · 15/01/2020 16:13

It sounds both pathetic and utterly inappropriate.

CoraPirbright · 15/01/2020 16:16

Actually the tickling wouldn’t bother me so much as the twister when this bloke is naked. I dont want my face near any random man’s dangly bits! Urrgh!

BigFatLiar · 15/01/2020 16:17

At least with genitals on the outside you'd be able to tell if he was having fun Grin

Scrump21 · 15/01/2020 16:18

Grim, but I am recovering from an assault within the past 18 months so I feel my view may be a bit tainted... But the thought of a stranger tickling me makes me a bit sick in my mouth!

katy1213 · 15/01/2020 16:19

Tacky.

Scrump21 · 15/01/2020 16:19

@BigFatLiar.... Could have your eye out!!

Beautiful3 · 15/01/2020 16:20

Not judging but not my cup of tea I would have sat out as well. Hmm

BlessedBeTheFruitCake · 15/01/2020 16:22

Twister fine, being tickled by a Randomer. No thanks.

Shimy · 15/01/2020 16:33

I just googled the game of twister ( as I didn’t know what it was). I’ve seen it and I don’t know wether to shriek in horror at the thought of doing that with naked man or just wet myself laughing 😂.

Redonion123 · 15/01/2020 16:35

Twister, with semi-naked man, okay (not fully naked though).

Tickling on random body parts - not so,good, unless it was something innocuous like your arm, or foot.

StormcloakNord · 15/01/2020 16:38

I'd honestly rather shit in my hands and clap than try and manoeuvre my heifer like figure around a twister mat only to be tickled by a stripper while a bunch of "hens" whooped and cheered.

Nope, no thanks.

dottiedodah · 15/01/2020 16:38

I would hate this TBH. Apparently Twister injures a lot of people each year Who knew! I am not keen on Strippers anyway, and feel it is demeaning for Men to be heckled by drunk groups of women .I would be sitting it out with you if I were there!

PandoraJack · 15/01/2020 16:44

Stripper - nope. Wouldn't be okay with that at all.
Twister with stripper - double nope.
Being touched/tickled - absolutely no fucking way.

Ponoka7 · 15/01/2020 16:52

"imagine the reactions if it was a load of pissed up men doing this with a female stripper!"

The women taking part might be OK with that. You don't get to decide what's OK in other people's relationships.

You said yourself that it was funny, that's how they viewed it, as a laugh.

As for the pictures being used, are the high ranking professionals? Otherwise no one will care.

Ponoka7 · 15/01/2020 16:53

Just to add, I can't stand strippers and wouldn't have wanted to be there. But I wouldn't be sitting in judgement about it.

Blacksackunderthetreesfreeze · 15/01/2020 17:05

I cannot abide being tickled, by anyone in any situation ever. So yanbu for that alone.

And I feel for the Butler - surely this is more than stripping!

Original poster
Nips01 · 15/01/2020 17:18

Thanks for the replies everyone! A few answers to the people who have asked:

Mike (not his real name) was there for the whole afternoon and evening and most of the time was naked except for what I can only describe as a thong lol - chest and arse on display but the only time he got properly naked was for thirty seconds of the big finale of a "life drawing" game we played! The only other game that involved touching was when we were blindfolded and had to pin post it notes on his chest / bum cheeks etc. He was the only one being touched if that makes sense?

During Twister he was either directly playing the game wearing boxers or was sitting doing the spinning and the tickling.

Mike tbf was very... professional (if I can even call it that lol) and I dont think anyone was touched inappropriately. Everyone was tipsy and a bit giggly and people were protesting in a "Noooo not my feet hehehe" kind of way but he was very clear about asking the girls if they were ready to be tickled / touched and e.g. someone said they didn't want their tummy tickled so he tickled her knees instead.

The spinner options for where you would be tickled were stuff like knees / feet / tummy / sides / underarms / neck etc. The bum one was the one that really stuck out to be and I just felt it was a bit dodgy lol.

I wasn't judging, more just not getting involved and just laughing from the sofa. I guess I'm just surprised so many of the other girls were up for it. Of the 12 of us, one girl sat out completely with me, and another 2 played but didn't get tickled (1 refused, the other was the brides 18 year old sister who wanted to but got told in no uncertain terms she wasn't allowed!)

Like I say I wasn't really judging and yes it was all consensual etc so its fine, more just surprised it was so popular!

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IdblowJonSnow · 15/01/2020 17:22

Wouldn't bother me but completely understand where you're coming from.
I think as well that although its meant to be a laugh, if it was a load of blokes with a stripper I would think that was creepy. So I guess its double standards but I think it is just a bit different. Really cant imagine any woman getting turned on by being tickled anywhere be it knee or bum by a cheeky butler on a twister mat...

Original poster
Nips01 · 15/01/2020 17:23

Mike was chatty and seemed to be fine with everything that was going on. He was almost like the master of ceremonies calling out whose turn it was He didn't exactly encourage anyone to get involved ifsyim? But kind of playfully called to me if I was ticklish and wiggled his fingers at me from across the room (and got told to fuck off lol)

The girls were mainly wearing pj bottoms / trackies and strappy tops etc (girls night in) nobody got naked as fair as I'm aware lol!

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Thinkingabout1t · 15/01/2020 17:33

I think there's a kind of competitive element in hen parties, trying to be more and more outrageous. Sounds dangerous. And OP, I'm glad you weren't identifiable in the photos. Great for blackmailers, but possible career suicide for those taking part.

RuffleCrow · 15/01/2020 17:36

Sounds awful. You're no prude, you just don't want a random man tickling your bum. Like most people!

Gertrudesgarden · 15/01/2020 17:39

I'd sit that one out, too! If its not for you, its fine. All the more turns for those who did actually want to do it!

BigSandyBalls2015 · 15/01/2020 17:42

Jesus Christ ... twister with a naked person that’s the stuff of nightmares Shock

BiBiBirdie · 15/01/2020 17:45

This is exactly why I'm not having a MOH or a hen party
Total ick.