AIBU weird game at Hen Party

[Nips01]

It was my friends hen last weekend and there were 12 of us together in a large flat we had rented - including the grooms sister.

MOH had arranged a stripper / butler in the buff type guy and we were playing some "naughty" hen type games - nothing unusual - until MOH gets out a Twister set and announces we were going to be playing Twister with this guy! Oh and the catch was every time you got a new pose there was a second spinner (kind of like the one in the game where it says left foot yellow etc) that had a body part on it and the guy would then tickle u in that spot for a few seconds to try and make u fall over! The first person to lose then had to do a forfeit like take a shot.

Now I don't mind silly hen games but don't really want to be tickled by a randomer! The spinner even had "bum" on it as one of the options! So I sat out but I was one of only 2 people to do so and the others all called me a prude! Some of the girls who played were married / had bfs as well!

So is it just me or is that really fucking weird! Have hen party games officially gone too far?

Eurgh.
Forced hilarity + forced intimate contact with a randommer.
No ta.

ohh and if they keep calling you a prude, i would retaliate with:
My DH heard you calling a prude and wanted to know why, I have managed to change the subject but if he hears again, I dont want to have to tell him why

No hen party I've been on has involved doing things you wouldn't do normally. It's supposed to be just a good night out with friends.

I don't think I was too po-faced when I declared I was sitting out... I should have probably explained a bit more about why I found the whole thing fucked up but instead I just made some sort of joke about how I'm way too ticklish and clumsy and would probably fall on my arse, and then took myself off to the safety of the sofa and yes, necked some prosecco ;)

I guess in their defence it was quite funny watching them flail about and fall over tbf! Drunk people have zero coordination...

How strange to involve the staff in playing games. I get my stripper butler to go round with a bottle of champers in each hand and I use his ding-dong as a handy onion ring dispenser.

Actual lol @ "handy onion ring dispenser"

Strippers are grim af, male or female. I’m very glad none of my friends have had one wheeled out on their hen dos.

'I am Lifetime President of the Prude Society.'

need a deputy? I would be happy to oblige!

I think hen nights are utterly grim anyway, but this is totally foul. Dont blame you for being horrified OP. Poor bloke

I'm no prude but even I agree that is gross.

Yuk.

I would have played, but that would’ve been my choice. You had the choice to sit out which you did so I don’t really what the problem is.

Yay! Thanks Ursula

A stripper/butler in the buff alone would have given me the ick and I would have definitely sat out the twister game. YANBU.

A stark naked stripper (I get they peel things off but wandering about naked tickling bums!) My God I’ve lived a sheltered life .

I am glad to say I'm not friends with anyone who would not think this was pathetic and grim.

YANBU, OP, gross. It's being groped by a stranger paid do it for money. Not funny at all.

It sounds awful. I don't know one person in my social group who would hire a stripper/butler, never mind suggest this.

Does anyone actually think that being tickled by a half-naked stranger, on a gameboard, while doing a one-handed backbend, is fun? It sounds mortifying.

YANBU.

The idea was to be up close and Twisted with a naked man?????
Like, have his arse and hairy balls up by your face?

OMG.

That’s grim. I wouldn’t have been playing either.

So your friends played twister with a naked man? I’m not familiar with these butler in the buff people but I’m assuming fully naked?

Gross, gross, gross.

I'd have sat this one out with you, Nips!
Ugh.
I don't like being tickled At All, and certainly not by some near-nekkid bloke I've never met, don't care WHERE it suggested!

I went to a 21st birthday party once where someone had organised the birthday girl a stripper - she didn't know where to put herself and it also put me right off strippergram things.

I don't care if anyone calls me a prude - I'd sooner be true to myself than get unwillingly involved in something that made me uncomfortable just because others were snippy about it.

Butlers in the buff ', ' Strippers' , ' sexy barmen' ...all normal and good healthy fun on hen do's Going to see the ' Full Monty ' stage show or ' Magic Mike ' stage show? - yep all good fun

I don't know anyone who thinks like this, to be honest. I agree with your basic point and I'm aware it goes on, but how common is it really, these days?

Although, yep, fair enough, I'm on a thread where it has literally just happened, so...

I am not bothered either way by this game, might be fun, might be rubbish. But I hate that people call you a prude for not taking part. It's like when people take the piss if you are not drinking or are drinking less than them. Very immature of them.

That's an orgy not a hen do!

It's really not an orgy. No need to be dramatic

As a game it's fine if everyone consents but also fine if you want to sit out.

If this was a stag do with a female stripper playing that game everyone would say it was gross.

Personally I think strippers, butlers in the buff, are all gross at hen & stag dos and a huge no no from me. Unless you're the type to generally hire strippers in your relationship and not care then I don't know why they're appropriate at these.