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CoatZilla and the Barbour Boy- The Second Saga

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LanaKaneIsWeirdedOut · 29/10/2019 11:09

Hey everyone!

Bloody hell, in all my years of MNing I've never had a response like this, I was really helped by loads of your replies, and loads made me giggle (Roast Potatoes!!) and loads made good points.

I'm sorry I can't reply to specific posts but seriously there's so many.

Wine Brew Cake or Gin for everyone who replied and is sticking with me.

So on to the update.....

CoatZilla, henceforth to be known as CZ, text again last night....

Here it is word for word.
mate, your obviously upset and that was never my intention. I'm sorry that we argued, I honestly didn't see the conversation going that way when I brought it up. I think it's better we let the dust settle for tonight in honesty. Probably best to have a calm conversation tomorrow evening?

My reply....
Yeah tomorrow evening much better I think

And she didn't come back last night (good!)

So she's made a mistake anyway......cos Dad was actually out last night ! So we'll all be sitting there when she comes back.

My plan is, to write a list of bullet points for tonight of things she definitely said, so I can't forget and she can't back out of it or claim she didn't say it (I also remembered another bit in the fucking row- where she went "Oh, so a fucking ghost did it?" in that tone of voice- fucking horrible)

Also to sit calmly and let her explain to my lovely Dad and DP that she thinks they might have maliciously cut her coat.

Then see what she says!

TBH unless she fucking grovels on her knees (not likely after that fucking last text- minimization or what??) I'm going to be asking her to pack her stuff.

I'm not being "spurred on by hysterical posters"

I have read all the replies, some have opened my eyes, some have been excusing, some have told me not to rock the friendship boat....overall I have taken a middle(ish) ground.....but tbh it's clear she is
a) weird/horrible enough to think that of her oldest friend and her family
b) fucking vicious in a row
c) now backtracking massively

So....thoughts???

And again for the troll hunters in the back......my username currently is always "LanaKanesomething", and I've had various other names going back years.....so bloody well report me and see what MN has to say, yeah?

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Taraswell · 30/10/2019 10:50

No of course I wasn't forced, don't be silly now.
What I'm saying is we've all got caught up in this thread and the last one.
We're all typically left hanging now, and the OP seems to have loved the MN drama over last few days. I hate when I get sucked into these drama drama threads but I still do it even when I'm a bit suspect about the OP

timshelthechoice · 30/10/2019 10:54

What jessica said. Because the OP and her partner and dad are softies and lovely mug they'll continue to pay to house someone who has a good job and can support herself, eats out of the £30 they have feed themselves and a child and slags them to others. Friend will buy the house and then OP will post a thread wondering why she, such a close, dead friend, never contacts her, invites her out (she doesn't now) etc.

highheelsandwitcheshats · 30/10/2019 11:12

Also agree with @jessicafletc

It'll be all sorted and OP will be bracing herself for the ensuing outrage.
The friend lost her temper, screamed at OP and went out to rage to RL friends. OP came to rage on here. Talking about her friend behind her back in the same way her friend did to her.
OP is probably mortified at the horrible comments made about her friend, when we were getting one side of the story. It got out of hand and now has blown over.

There are three sides to every story.
Mine
Hers
The Truth.

GiantKitten · 30/10/2019 11:12

“dead friend”

That would explain no contact Grin

fazakerleyjackie · 30/10/2019 11:17
Hmm Message to self. Thread bare. I need to get out more.

In other news.
It's Mischief Night here.
I'll be in the nuclear bunker.

SandAndSea · 30/10/2019 11:18

Hope you're OK, @LanaKaneIsWeirdedOut .

atlanticblueandgreen · 30/10/2019 11:21

I think given the OP hasn’t updated maybe leave it.

WillLokireturn · 30/10/2019 11:23

On no!! I've rtft (both). Is my tablet lagging ? as I can't see update from OP from last night....
Silly hurtful accusation for friend to have done ,made worse by the "I've spoken to all my friends about how it must have been deliberately done" .... Barbour sabotage in leafy town in England (?)... maybe a spy was planting a listening device or needed to retrieve the memory stick the Russians had been smuggling in via her coat. It's rather far fetched isn't it. ?.. I'd be laughing it off now and saying "possibly your friends meet the criteria for diagnosis of a paranoid disorder if it is true they've suggested that! It's also rather offensive. We're your friends and have always been supportive. Bizarre .why your even think that rather than the likelihood you snagged it on something when out. Friend, just apologise and we'll leave your weird accusation there. "

TanselleTooTall · 30/10/2019 11:26

Just be patient, guys. Confused

Chloe84 · 30/10/2019 11:37

The weird thing is OP kept saying on the other thread that she’s been on MN a long time and knows how it works and would therefore never leave people hanging for an update. She was bizarrely adamant about that Confused

AdobeWanKenobi · 30/10/2019 11:47

The weird thing is OP kept saying on the other thread that she’s been on MN a long time and knows how it works and would therefore never leave people hanging for an update. She was bizarrely adamant about that confused

Or, the flip side, she's been on MN long enough to understand how to wind em up and watch em go and how to complete an exercise in creative writing...

Taraswell · 30/10/2019 11:49

Exactly Adobe ! Exactly

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/10/2019 11:51

A haiku:

Roast potatoes gone.
Accused of Barbour harming
Lana innocent.

AnybodyWantAChip · 30/10/2019 11:56

Roast potatoes gone.
Accused of Barbour harming
M N left hanging

QueenoftheDay · 30/10/2019 11:58

Maybe she did snip the coat.

SchadenfiendeUnmortified · 30/10/2019 12:04

Message to self. Thread bare. I need to get out more.

Same here Jackie - but what if we go out and there's an update and we miss it?

Winterdaysarehere · 30/10/2019 12:26

Would snipped and farted work??

Clutterbugsmum · 30/10/2019 12:28

Or perhaps as it half term where OP is and she actually spending time with her DC and not rushing to update strangers.

DartmoorDoughnut · 30/10/2019 12:33

Meh, there were regular updates yesterday 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m voting for she’s forgiven friend (totally up to her, as long as OP is happy I don’t give a fig if she’s forgiven her or blown up at her and chucked her out) and doesn’t want to tell everyone

fazakerleyjackie · 30/10/2019 12:33

Same here Jackie - but what if we go out and there's an update and we miss it?

Excellent point Schaden
Worse scenario. What if we go out and someone turns up with roast spuds? Doesn't bear thinking about.

Enjoying the poems and haiku. Not having the benefit of a classical education, I'm more inclined to:
"There was a mumsnetter called Lana....

fazakerleyjackie · 30/10/2019 12:35

Would snipped and farted work?? Grin

Happityhap · 30/10/2019 12:35

:-0
OP said she knows how things are on MN!
How could she bail out on us, in favour of a few games of Ludo?
Priorities.

atlanticblueandgreen · 30/10/2019 12:35

Is op still using ‘fucking’ as a filler?

IAmPrettyWisdomous · 30/10/2019 12:37

My goodness some of you are so impatient. This isn’t your weekly soap opera, it’s someone’s life. You accuse the OP of getting sucked in and yet you all do the same and think this is your moment to show how clever you are. Some of you should be very ashamed of the nasty accusations you’ve made and the comments you’ve left. because OP simply has not responded. It wouldn’t surprise those with common decency why the OP may not come back. Why should anyone put up with some of these posts?

If OP were a troll MN would have been removed the thread. It’s very easy to sit and make comments but you all need to remind yourselves there are real people involved and none of you truly know who they are and what they’re going through.

Whether OP comes back or not, many of you need to address your attitude, it’s unnecessarily unkind.

PenelopeFlintstone · 30/10/2019 12:38

QueenoftheDay Maybe she did snip the coat.
Ha ha Grin

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