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CoatZilla and the Barbour Boy- The Second Saga

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LanaKaneIsWeirdedOut · 29/10/2019 11:09

Hey everyone!

Bloody hell, in all my years of MNing I've never had a response like this, I was really helped by loads of your replies, and loads made me giggle (Roast Potatoes!!) and loads made good points.

I'm sorry I can't reply to specific posts but seriously there's so many.

Wine Brew Cake or Gin for everyone who replied and is sticking with me.

So on to the update.....

CoatZilla, henceforth to be known as CZ, text again last night....

Here it is word for word.
mate, your obviously upset and that was never my intention. I'm sorry that we argued, I honestly didn't see the conversation going that way when I brought it up. I think it's better we let the dust settle for tonight in honesty. Probably best to have a calm conversation tomorrow evening?

My reply....
Yeah tomorrow evening much better I think

And she didn't come back last night (good!)

So she's made a mistake anyway......cos Dad was actually out last night ! So we'll all be sitting there when she comes back.

My plan is, to write a list of bullet points for tonight of things she definitely said, so I can't forget and she can't back out of it or claim she didn't say it (I also remembered another bit in the fucking row- where she went "Oh, so a fucking ghost did it?" in that tone of voice- fucking horrible)

Also to sit calmly and let her explain to my lovely Dad and DP that she thinks they might have maliciously cut her coat.

Then see what she says!

TBH unless she fucking grovels on her knees (not likely after that fucking last text- minimization or what??) I'm going to be asking her to pack her stuff.

I'm not being "spurred on by hysterical posters"

I have read all the replies, some have opened my eyes, some have been excusing, some have told me not to rock the friendship boat....overall I have taken a middle(ish) ground.....but tbh it's clear she is
a) weird/horrible enough to think that of her oldest friend and her family
b) fucking vicious in a row
c) now backtracking massively

So....thoughts???

And again for the troll hunters in the back......my username currently is always "LanaKanesomething", and I've had various other names going back years.....so bloody well report me and see what MN has to say, yeah?

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Apolloanddaphne · 03/11/2019 10:19

I am quite sure the OP has not been banned. There is no obligation on posters to keep updating threads. Just leave it and accept she isn't coming back. (I am not the OP btw)

magpiebadger · 03/11/2019 13:46

No ones saying she’s been banned because she didn’t update. I think Mn have dug around behind the scenes.

Long term user doesn’t = non troll.

EverRenEssence · 03/11/2019 17:11

So irritating

Lizzie0869 · 03/11/2019 18:23

I think that if they had discovered that the OP had become a troll, MNHQ would have deleted the thread and left a message explaining this. I suspect that the OP's friend (who the OP stated knew that she was on Mumsnet) discovered the thread and was extremely upset, making OP feel really guilty. She might therefore have stopped posting. She might have asked for the thread to be deleted and been turned down. Maybe she's left Mumsnet as a result.

Whatever the reason, the chances of us finding out are very small indeed IMO.

magpiebadger · 03/11/2019 18:28

Mumsnet don’t always take down troll threads and it was probably to avoid speculation and accusations.

If the friend hadn’t found the thread OP would have asked for it to be taken down.

My money is on a banned troll. I’m sure she’s been around for years. Proves nothing.

Hepzibar · 03/11/2019 18:59

Thread was killed days ago when posters started with the song lyrics/poems, photos and other such shite.

PlatoAteMySnozcumber · 03/11/2019 19:04

It was a pretty unexciting story and not that interesting but the OP played it for drama and carried everyone along with her so that made it very entertaining. Sadly OP had decided for whatever reason not to continue which is particularly disappointing when the only reason it was interesting in the first place was because the OP was so invested and baiting us.

Let’s move on with our lives people, nothing to see.

JangledBat · 03/11/2019 20:41

Just why? 🤷‍♀️

ItsAlwaysSunnyInPhiladelphia · 04/11/2019 11:05

I do wonder how this ended...

Turtletotem · 04/11/2019 11:49

Sounds like it was all made up for OP to get some attention and unless we hear otherwise then I'm assuming that's the case...

BourbonAndTea · 04/11/2019 13:30

Devastated, read both full threads and no more updates..

Far too much procrastinating for a Monday but hey-ho!

mummmy2017 · 04/11/2019 14:22

I think OP, sat and chatted to her friend, who said sorry they hugged and made up, that there may have been some years, and OP decided she doesn't need us to have a go at her over it, so has decided not to return.

MarioSisters · 04/11/2019 16:04

mummy2017 but how many years? 17 or 20? That's the real question...

daisychain01 · 04/11/2019 16:08

Whatever the outcome the OP doesn't owe anyone an explanation. It doesn't make them an attention-seeker or a troll. They've just decided to cut loose. It all got rather intense.

We can only hope there were hugs, friendly words and a few happy tears.

nespressowoo · 04/11/2019 16:09

@LanaKaneIsWeirdedOut you have us all over-invested in this. Will you put us out of our misery FFS.

OneTwoThreeDoeRayMe · 04/11/2019 16:18

Wow, people, get over it.

She's not coming back, and it's really not all that intriguing a storyline, anyway.

Some OPs really know how to whip up the drama from absolutely nothing.

Lizzie0869 · 04/11/2019 16:31

I agree with you, @mummmy2017 posters on here love the drama of friends falling out big time, and I think that maybe her dad calmed her down and helped her see the bigger picture of a friendship of 17 years standing. She decided she didn't want to cut her friend off and didn't want to have to justify her decision to a group of strangers online. It's her life, not a soap opera.

A lot of posters start threads and then regret it; I've done that myself in the past.

Roussette · 04/11/2019 17:20

Whatever the outcome the OP doesn't owe anyone an explanation. It doesn't make them an attention-seeker or a troll. They've just decided to cut loose. It all got rather intense.

We can only hope there were hugs, friendly words and a few happy tears

Totally agree. The poster owes us nothing, who are we... just randoms ona forum.

All I know is... if I was driven to post ona forum about someone that troubled me, and the thread went on and on, then in real life it blew up in some way, so much so I felt uncomfortable typing out the outcome, I would probably not feel I owed anyone on here anything.

Roussette · 04/11/2019 17:21

ona... should be 'on a '

Sotoes · 04/11/2019 18:02

"Everything's sorted, I won't be posting again" would have sufficed. OP knew that.

Mountainash · 04/11/2019 19:33

Has anyone else made the connection with Barbour’s Christmas advert?
Hmm

AloneLonelyLoner · 04/11/2019 20:33

Interesting @Mountainash

Though I must say it hasn't made me more likely to buy a Barbour coat. If anything it's put me right off. If it's a SM stunt, it has failed dramatically.

Felyne · 05/11/2019 10:03

I agree AloneLonelyLoner. If a cat merely jumping across the back can rip a hole then they're not brilliant quality are they!

SchadenfiendeUnmortified · 05/11/2019 12:41

The Cat
The trouble with a kitten is THAT
Eventually it becomes a CAT.

Ogden Nash

Ogden Nash was a wise man Jackie.

BumbleBeee69 · 05/11/2019 14:42

still no update OMFG ?!