Child maintenance and swimming kit saga returns!

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He's driving me insane.

Swimming is now on the day of contact. So swimming kit goes home to dads and never gets returned. Apparently I've stolen too much from him and I owe him, so I am not allowed it back.

I've had to provide a new swimming kit every single week since Easter!!

Why are you buying new kit every week.

Let him tell DD why she can;t go swimming.

How mature. Its not as though he could have a use for 10 swimming kits so he's doing it solely to annoy you. Talk to the school and try and find a way around the kit ever getting anywhere near his house.

Because he leaves from my house to do swimming. So if I reverse the logic from last time, I have to provide the kit. And I can't do that to DS - because it won't make exh provide it.

Sorry, I can't get the link to work but - asking the obvious I'm sure - if swimming is always on his day and he has kit there, can't she just use that?

Drop DD if to him after swimming. He can't have her to disrupt her hobbies

What a shit.

Do you have a court order for access and maintenance?

Cross Post, sorry. Could you get school on board and ask them to get your child to leave their swimming kit in school? Then you collect it the next day?

Swimming used to be on his day so I had to send kit the day before so it was ready.

Swimming is now on the day he leaves me and sleeps at exh after school swimming day. So he refuses to return it.

It's driving me mad. I know it's only a few quid. But Every. Single. Week.

Could your DD leave her swim kit in school at the end of that day and you collect it the next day to rinse/wash?

Have a quiet word with her teacher and explain why that's necessary.

Yes get ds to leave the kit at school and bring it home the next day.

But it's not you doing it to your child, it's the father.

How old is your child (can't get the links to work) are they old enough to hide their kit from their Dad or can you go pick up the kit if it's left with reception by your child for example?

I could have wrote all this myself he's a dick

School say they won't get involved.

This is the same school that has different collection arrangements for contact nights, to ensure that DS doesnt run away

School swimming or private lessons?

If school swimming then tell her teachers the kit stays at school and u will collect it

Tell dd to leave it at school

*DS sorry.

Is it school swimming lessons? If so leave her kit at school and you collect it?

School swimming during school hours.

School say children's items are not their responsibility.

Mrs Mozart. Court ordered contact against DC wishes.* Maintenance via CMS.*

My dc leave things on their pegs at school all the time. I have to retrieve swim kits quite often. Could dd not.leave it on her peg, forgotten, then u lift it when u collect her

School say they won't get involved.

They won't have to get involved if your DS just leaves his swim kit on his peg that day and his teacher knows not to remind him about it, he'll take it home to you the next day.

Sorry, I posted on your old thread before I realised you'd started a new one.

Can he not leave the kit in his locker /drawer / on his peg at school until the following day?

How annoying op. He sounds delightful.
I can imagine him sitting at home counting up swimming trunks and towels.

All else fails. If you r not working and say swimming on the morning then I'd go in just before lunch or after and ask for swim kit.

Can you imagine?! Tit!!

Along with all the other items that I have purchased that he refuses to return.