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To ask how you met your DP?

109 replies

Coastalcommand · 02/03/2018 17:29

My lovely friend is very down. She’s been Internet dating for a few months and now believes all men are, as Bridget Jones once said: alcoholics, workaholics, commitment phobics, peeping toms, megalomaniacs, emotional fuckwits or perverts.

She’s deleted all her accounts and is now looking for real life alternatives.

Could I ask you clever lot how you met and wooed your partners please?

OP posts:
LimonViola · 02/03/2018 17:37

Tinder :) and he's perfect.

The 'all men are shit' attitude is a bit offensive and a bit of a repellant tbh. And if she's just meeting and getting close to nonstop fuckwits she may be the common denominator! She maybe needs to work on her picker, I met loads of lovely normal men on tinder before my OH.

marymoosmum · 02/03/2018 17:39

I met mine at college, by really much wooing done tbh. He is a workaholic though, turns up half an hour earlier than he needs too, but spends time with the DC in the morning and puts them to bed.

tenbob · 02/03/2018 17:40

Match.com
I'm still unsure as to why he even signed up. Drop dead handsome, successful sportsman and interesting job
The clincher was the first time I stayed and noticed all his bedding and towels were White Company, and he then cooked a roast that was better than any I'd had in a pub

They are out there but I had to kiss a few weirdo loser frogs before I found him

xLeanne128 · 02/03/2018 17:41

Facebook! 8 years later and happily married x

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 02/03/2018 17:42

DH and I are childhood sweethearts; we met, became friends and started dating in school Smile

We’ve been together ever since; I love him with all my heart and he’s a truly wonderful man.

DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 02/03/2018 17:42

Bumble. Met some utter loons on tinder first though!

fortywinksfortyblinks · 02/03/2018 17:42

In the pub

luelle · 02/03/2018 17:43

I met DP through work and although we don't work together anymore the flirting definitely made the first few months in the job more enjoyable haha

Jaygee61 · 02/03/2018 17:43

I joined a choir.

TiredMumToTwo · 02/03/2018 17:43

First husband - school (not helpful), second husband work.

Tink2007 · 02/03/2018 17:43

Through a bands website when it was more frowned upon to meet over the Internet. 16 years and going strong - 11 years married this year.

Theresasmayshoes11 · 02/03/2018 17:44

He was at the boys grammar and I was at the girls. 1980! Aged 16 in those days when anyone could get into any pub Grin

Married 30 years this year Grin

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 02/03/2018 17:44

In a bar/club but we are talking over a decade ago when people used to talk to one another...crazy times

IllBeAtTheBarIfYouNeedMe · 02/03/2018 17:44

He came to fix my car.

I was totally uninterested in looking for a relationship and had been very happily single for 10 years so I suppose I wooed him with my natural nonchalance and relaxed persona.

AnnaleeP · 02/03/2018 17:47

In a rock bar, friend of the friend I was meeting after my original Friday night plans fell through. Lucky!

falsepriest · 02/03/2018 17:51

Through work, kept ending up at the same events and said hello one day.

OakIsBetterTho · 02/03/2018 17:53

A mutual friend set us up, and he's beyond wonderful.

Baubletrouble43 · 02/03/2018 17:54

Pof

Kerantli · 02/03/2018 17:55

Caffe Nero at a write in for NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month)

chocolateiamydrug · 02/03/2018 17:55

work

isseywithcats · 02/03/2018 17:56

POF and four years later still together

whoareyoukidding · 02/03/2018 17:58

OLD but I met a lot of weirdos before I met him

Commuterface · 02/03/2018 17:58

I met my DH online. First ever online date either of us went on too. I realise I (and he!) probably just got lucky.

eggsandwich · 02/03/2018 17:58

I met my Dh 31 years ago through an add in the local newspaper, I’d put an add for friends and got loads of replies which showed that there were a lot of people that wanted friends in their life.

To cut a long story short my dh’s letter stood out as the envelope was bright yellow, I rang him and we arrange to meet at my local train station as we were going to have a drink in the pub next door.

I still remember now walking towards the station entrance and my Dh got out of his car and for me it was love at first sight and been together ever since.
I always remember saying to my mum how did she know my dad was the one and she said she couldn’t explain it she just knew, that’s how I felt about my Dh.

Welshmaenad · 02/03/2018 17:58

Tinder! We've been together 18 months and I absolutely adore him, he's lovely.

You have to develop very very strict parameters for tinder to work IMO. Or it just gets depressing.