AIBU...to want one proper orgasm!!

[LoopyLou1981]

I’ve never had a proper orgasm during sex. I always have to be ‘helped’!
I’ve got 2 kids so I know everything works I just feel like I’m missing out!

How do you mean, helped?

Disclaimer...I might have had a couple of Xmas eve proseccos 😂

Can I ask what you mean by "helped"? I'm a bit confused because I don't think many of us can orgasm without some kind of help, either from our partners or ourselves?

But no, you're not unreasonable for wanting to orgasm.

Well either me or my oh have use fingers. I can’t orgasm just through penetration 😳

Helped?? They don't just happen on their own you know? All orgasms need help - we'd never get through the day otherwise.

V few can!

Thats very common. Same here.

Films/porn are very misleading

Orgasm through penetration alone is rare. Very very rare. So, I wouldn't worry about it. That's how most people orgasm. Your clitoris is external, not internal ;)

Meh, I haven't had a proper orgasm in years (sleep deprivation). At least you still have proper orgasms with 'help'.

What has having kids and being able to orgasm got to do with each other? 🤔

It's very rare to orgasm purely from intercourse.

I just really want one of those ‘throws of passion/don’t have to think about it’ sort of orgasms!
I’m cracking up writing this! It just struck me tonight (while my oh is passed out after too much wine) that I’ve never had one 😂

Most women can't, this is totally normal.

I’ve got 2 kids so I know everything works

Umm, what?? We’re you not sure if you had a vagina before you gave birth? I’m really not seeing the connection to kids and having an orgasm.

It took years for me to find how to orgasm with penetration only. Clearly there's just one specific way it can happen for me without help.

It makes you wonder how many women fake it if men don't get that penetration alone often doesn't lead to female orgasm.

It isn’t ‘very very rare’ to orgasm through penetrative sex. Just saying.

If it’s ‘very very rare’ in your world, it doesn’t mean it’s that rare in everyone’s world.

Bobbins... your clitoris is both. The external bit is just the tip of the iceberg so to speak.

It’s rare to get it from penetration unless you use the CAT technique but to be fair that can hurt a bit. I have had one from penetration and to be honest it wasn’t quite as good imo. I haven’t had kids so apparently I might not ‘work’

justvent it is actually rare to orgasm through penetration. Just because you manage to, doesn't mean other people do.

Get busy on the clit with your fingers or a toy!

Unusual maybe. But describing it as “Very very rare.” Is just plain ridiculous.

the CAT technique ? what the devil is that ?

I can orgasm through penetration only easily

I didn't think it was very very rare either. Just that everyone is different. Easiest way for me.

CAT stand for coital alignment technique. I can’t be arsed googling and linking. It helps to stimulate the clitoris during penetration.