AIBU...to want one proper orgasm!!

[LoopyLou1981]

I’ve never had a proper orgasm during sex. I always have to be ‘helped’!
I’ve got 2 kids so I know everything works I just feel like I’m missing out!

This changes every year or two for me but right now there is only one position. (Me on top) that this can be achieved, multiple times it's amazing but as soon as dp mixes it up then back to losing it

Just relax and don't chase it, mess around and hopefully it'll just come one day but from what my friends say they can go years without having one at all so least you can with "help"

I can orgasm via penetration but it's not often!

I have only ever managed a few times, with me on top.
my orgasms tend to be from cultural stimulation - my partner knows what to do, as do I, tbh I’m normally just glad to be having them

Hahahaha clitoral - not cultural!

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Everyone really really is different OP. The point is how you feel. You seem to want to explore something that you feel you haven’t experienced yet and that’s fine - that quest is part of your personal development, it’s something you wish to seek. Only bear in mind that it’s a bit of an elusive goal because - I repeat - everyone is different and knowledge is evolving. Anyone heard of the A-spot? It’s another spot internally, not the G-spot. Clue - it’s in the wrinkles! A lot of this is about understanding the female body and your own version of it. I suggest having sex with a woman at least once or twice in your life - helps you understand where everything is. And it’s nice! Now don’t get me started on my nipples. It’s a full-body experience if you let it become that!

I only can if I am on top as I can then rub against him during sex

get on top op! only way I have ever got an orgasm hands free. Failing that, oral all the way.

except this one time I was with a girthier man with piercings and every way he did it worked.

would your husband get some piercings?

Only people on fucking mumsnet could argue over how other people reach orgasm.

I have officially seen it all. 😂😂😂

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Dying laughing at this!

I’ve had maybe one vaginal orgasm ever, circumstances, warm sea, honeymoon, all very exciting

Same - penetrative orgasm is v rare I think.

lemony rare for you maybe...assume you don't think you're speaking for everyone?

Given up trying to have an orgasm with DP. I bought a rampant rabbit and that is AMAZING.!!! Buy one of those, they're brilliant.

Definitely not rare for me, dh is girthier I believe and I agree about the nerves from the clitoris going further inside (with some women aka me). I have to say the combination of clitoral orgasm with vaginal/ g spot orgasm is mind-blowing and far more pleasurable than masturbation/ clitoral alone and far more likely to trigger multiple orgasms. I do think you need to experiment to find the right position, i.e pillows under the bottom and be completely and utterly turned on. There are lots of different vibrators/ toys on the likes of love honey where you could experience orgasm via penetration/ g-spot.

I do find it strange how many people assume that it is very, very rare for women to orgasm by penetration alone! Is this based on your own experiences? I would reword it to say that it is common for some women to struggle to orgasm by penetration alone.

This should really be in the sex forum.

Everyone is different but in my experience clitoral (contractions) only happen when I'm half asleep and it's not about a partner, stimulation or awareness. It just does it by itself unexpectedly.

G-spot is different and I love it a lot more, it's like being a cat on catnip and happens during sex.

YMMV as they say (you mileage may vary)

well,,,the best thing to do,,is after years of a somewhat non event husband or partner who cannot satisfy,, is get a younger model. Some women can go on forever, but some older men fizzle out much earlier

I am glad orgasm is achievable by penetration as I have never, ever managed to have one any other way.

I find it very difficult to orgasm without penetration, even on my own I need something to "hold on to" IYSWIM. My orgasm definitely start in the vagina and like a PP too much foreplay bores me.

Well, this is a strange thread. Women trying to 'out orgasm' each other.

OP some women do through penetration (I don't but have no reason to assume someone is making it up), some don't. There isn't a 'better' way IMO.

Hahaha @ cultural stimulation

There's only one way for me more of a grind than a in out in out hahaha

Plenty of foreplay and CAT technique does it for me every day.

My experience suggests that at about 40-50% that can orgasm through penetration. Not a majority, but certainly not 'very rare'.

Everyone's different though. Some achieved orgasms easily in any position, whereas others needed everything to be just right: mood, position, foreplay etc. I had one girlfriend that only started to have orgasms when we got ourselves tested and stopped using condoms. The mental stimulation that a man was about to ejaculate inside of her was her trigger.

I can orgasm from PIV sex but only in one position missionary .... but once in a blue moon have on top. Nice when it happens!!

There was some research recently that showed the vast majority of women (c90% IIRC) require stimulation of the clitoral nub to orgasm. It’s completely normal