AIBU...to want one proper orgasm!!

[LoopyLou1981]

I’ve never had a proper orgasm during sex. I always have to be ‘helped’!
I’ve got 2 kids so I know everything works I just feel like I’m missing out!

Exactly everybody is different. I can - BUT its the one plus from having messed up insides due to endo.

Try different positions, stimulate the mind first! Have oh tease you with naughty texts all day, tease yourself with naughty thoughts and long sensuous prep like a nice long bath, lots of nice body lotion after, sexy (for YOU) lingerie or indeed other clothes, explore your sexuality.

May I ask your approx age? Women tend to come into their sexual prime later than men. My sex life with ex was boring, but that was partly my fault for not being open minded and speaking up.

Now in last few years I've had fwb and I'm having a fantastic time.

banana
Vaginal orgasms can feel very different to clitoral orgasms. Not better. Not worse. Just different

^This^

I find clitoral orgasms better than vaginal (to use a PP's terms). I don't think you're missing out.

Pay no attention OP. Many women on here will claim they have orgasms during intercourse, but the plain fact is that the vast majority of women don't.

Oh and you can have clitoral and vaginal orgasm at the same time

You might need peeling off the ceiling or to apologise to neighbours afterward though

What's with the "claim"?? As if we're lying! Bizarre conspiracy theorists on here.

It's not a "vast majority" that don't orgasm through penetration. There aren't many studies on it for obvious reasons but the evidence suggests about 25% can orgasm from penetration alone.

I have never had a orgasm with penetration always need other simulation but I can sometimes wake up having one when I have had a vivid sexual dream

See if you are both ok with trying/using a rabbit kinda thing to help you 'get there'
Then incorporate it nearer the 'time'?

Pay no attention OP. Many women on here will claim they have orgasms during intercourse, but the plain fact is that the vast majority of women don't.

Yes. This is indeed the case.

Most isn't ALL. By definition most is 'the majority'. Not every single woman

Surely it's not beyond the wit of (wo)man to conceive of the fact that 'most' doesn't mean 'all'

The minority of women are likely to be piping up disproportionately loudly on this thread in response to being told they're fictional!

What about positioning your partner in a certain way so your clit gets rubbed whilst he’s thrusting?
Thats how I get “there”
😀or at least I did this morning! ....... realised I feel a bit giddy!

Bizarrely being told I'm not telling the truth about something that is no-one else's business anyway. Sheesh!

nobody has an orgasm just through penetration

Well. I’d be surprised if just sticking it in there was enough for most people... kissing, foreplay, the right mood...

It’s not very rare to orgasm with penetration - is this anothe of those mumsnet myths???

There's no actual difference between "clitoral" and "vaginal" orgasms. The clitoris is a large set of nerve endings, the bit you can feel is just the outside part. It can be stimulated externally or internally. All orgasms come from the clitoris.
Whichever way you get them, it's all good, surely?

Nope you are entirely normal. I’ve come through penetrative sex about 4 times, I’ve had many partners and tried all sorts.
IMO it’s 99% mental state.

Well. I’d be surprised if just sticking it in there was enough for most people... wink kissing, foreplay, the right mood...

Conversely if I'm not in "the right mood", haven't had adequate foreplay, then neither penetration nor clitoral stimulation will work. So the point is none of us can achieve orgasm (either penetration or clitoral) without 'help' (If we're calling foreplay and mood help).

What hungry hippo said. That's what I do.
I've noticed that with penetration I come from a position in slight difference in angles than what makes DP come; so I try and get my angles in first.

Nobody really has an orgasm thru just penetration.

Bollocks.

To the women calling others liars, they aren’t, they are just lucky. My BF comes if someone looks at her funny!

Oddly tho I do sometimes have it in my sleep, which supports my theory it’s mainly mental in my case.

Buck yup, that’s what I meant.

This thread has made me horny. But I’m so lazy 😒 (the main event is on the 24th in my family and I ate soo much...)

Mumsnet seems full to bursting with women who can orgasm at the mere sight of a penis. Lucky them!

OP, your experience is the norm, outside of MN obviously.

I remember the second time I had sex I had about seven orgasms thru penetration alone. Then it didn't happen for about five years then I had three orgasms during penetration. Now I have multiple nearly every time without any kind of foreplay. Foreplay bores me. I've realised for me its all about the mindset. Before sex I have to make myself feel like the most desirable woman alive and I have to think of him as some kind of sex god and then with that comes a sense of awe that takes my mind to another place where orgasms are easy and come quickly over and over again llike waves

I can really only orgasm through penetration. It's absolutely not a lie (what on earth would be the point?!). But it's by getting into certain positions (easiest with me on top) where my clitoris is stimulated externally with each movement. I do also need the penetration as well though as can't get there either alone- maybe helps me get the right angles? Maybe this is the CAT technique someone mentioned up thread?? I def don't need lots of foreplay but have to be in the right mood. I would say I orgasm this way about 3/4 of the time.

Also it never happened with previous bfs, only DH. Not sure if it's because we are especially physically compatible or whether I just worked out better what worked for me.

Not had sex of any kind for far too long
I’ve always found penetrative only orgasms rare for me, I either need stimulation or a combination
However my best orgasms come from nipple only stimulation
They all feel different though
Very rarely I orgasm through dreams