AIBU...to want one proper orgasm!!

[LoopyLou1981]

I’ve never had a proper orgasm during sex. I always have to be ‘helped’!
I’ve got 2 kids so I know everything works I just feel like I’m missing out!

We’re talking as if there’s some fixed group of women (size to be determined) that can orgasm through penetration and another fixed larger group that can’t. But some people are also observing that it’s only with a current partner that they’ve been able to have an orgasm during penetrative sex.

In my own experience, it depends mostly on the shape of the penis or at least the angles it can find. Completely straight = can’t orgasm through penetration. Some sort of upward curve = can.

A couple of my friends say they can come easily through penetration alone, but only if they're on top. I can't but have come close. DH said one of his exGFs could but her cliteras and vaginal opening were very close together. So maybe it's an anatomy thing, the closer they are the easier it is to come through penetration as you're getting the stimulation anyway??

IME it's also helped by a really rock hard erection ( maybe more upward tilt) 😜

I thought it was an anatomy thing.

hopsalong Completely straight = can’t orgasm through penetration. Some sort of upward curve = can

omg just the other day I said to DH it looks like Gonzo's nose.

I find that my clitoral orgasms are very intense... Almost too intense. I have to get my DH to be quite gentle otherwise it's so powerful I almost don't like it and come way too quickly.

On the other hand, when I come during penetrative sex, it's much less intense, the feeling travels throughout the whole area more and is only achievable when him or me are moving in a particular way to simulate the right spot inside... He's learnt where that is. It's sometimes pretty hard work with what I can only describe as me doing quite a lot of clenching (not a very sexy word!) but very nice in the end.

I think there is a possibility it's stimulating the clitoris from the other side, but it does feel quite different and like it's coming from inside. I learnt how to do it in my late 20s from chatting with a friend. I said 'sometimes I find an angle where it feels quite nice but I never come from penetration". She said "get him to do it more and for longer then." She was right!

Nobody really has an orgasm thru just penetration. What you see as an ‘orgasm thru penetration’ is usually a woman who has been fingered, and / or eaten out for half an hour to an hour before penetration

Absolutely not true!

I can only orgasm during penetrative sex if I'm on top. Try it OP.

What has having kids and being able to orgasm got to do with each other?

Quite. People who don't/can't have children aren't frigid, non-functioning, asexual unwomen.

And it's throes of passion.

I really hate the phrase 'eaten out'. Not sure why, always made me feel a bit iffy.

BatShit

many colloquial terms for sexual acts are a bit... ‘iffy’ imo.

Blow job, hand job, eating out, fingering, doggy style etc... they sound rather unerotic, don’t they?

Agree batshite it’s grim.

Place a fairly firm pillow under your lower back (to kind of tilt your hips forward) during missionary position and things may (wowsers - did in my case!!!) improve

What has having kids and being able to orgasm got to do with each other?

because orgasms need the brain too and if you're half expecting your kid to run in you aint gonna orgasm because your heads no in the game.

Or you may have had a horrific birth with stitches, tears etc and now your ability to orgasm is lessened because of pain.

just a thought.

I am opposite. .I can only come through sex..not oral or fingers. Just me on top!