AIBU...to want one proper orgasm!!

[LoopyLou1981]

I’ve never had a proper orgasm during sex. I always have to be ‘helped’!
I’ve got 2 kids so I know everything works I just feel like I’m missing out!

Depth and angle? I never knew it was rare. But im not normally wondering about anyone else’s sex life.

So weird that you consider a “proper orgasm” to be via penetration alone. Who told you that, OP?

Crikey, you really have to watch how you word things around here! People are so touchy!
I meant I’ve had penetrative sex, everything ends up in the right place, nothing hurts etc
It really was meant as a bit of fun. Sorry if I offended anyone.x

I only get them from penetrative sex (except occasional ones in my sleep from vivid dreams) if that helps you to see the grass is greener angle. Handy to not need the sex to orgasm I'd have thought. Really they're nice however we get there, no?

Umm -- aftrer quite some years of experence in the matter there are very few women who get off by penetration alone unless they have been very well "warmed up" beforehand;)

And theres the very common problem of insufficent foreplay. A lot of men think that women have an instant start switch and they never find that;(

Nobody really has an orgasm thru just penetration. What you see as an ‘orgasm thru penetration’ is usually a woman who has been fingered, and / or eaten out for half an hour to an hour before penetration.

Many, many women cannot have an orgasm via penetration OP, and there is nothing wrong with you if YOU can't.

You will of course get a whole bunch of mumsnetters saying that although they know many women who can't orgasm during intercourse, THEY have no problem with it. 😂😂😂😂

Wait for it; wait for all the posts from women claiming they frequently have an orgasm during intercourse..............

I don’t think I’ve ever had one just for getting penetrated. I’ve had them during oral, when getting manually stimulated and when I was doing the penetrating.

But however you get your orgasms... they’re still ‘proper’ orgasms, aren’t they?

from getting. Not for.....

Not true at all for me raving roo. That wouldn't work for me. Penetration alone is easiest.

I find it really bizarre that just because people on here can’t orgasm through penetrative sex they refuse to believe that others do.

And no it doesn’t always need hours of “fingering or eating out.”

Believe what you want but I know what my body does and just because you don’t believe it, doesn’t make it happen any less.

What a fucking weird thing not to believe. Why would anyone lie.

I suppose they are all ‘proper’. Sorry, another poor choice of words (I’m blaming the prosecco!) 😂
I’ve just never had one just with penetration and feel like I’m missing out!x

Here they come..... ^

It isn’t ‘very very rare’ to orgasm through penetrative sex. Just saying.

Agree.

If anything, I find it easiest through penetration. It happens embarrasingly quickly if I'm honest!

I too might have had one too many Christmas brandys...

Roo

You speak for yourself

I think about ⅓ of women can come during penetrative sex. Queen Victoria apparently could. I can’t. Hey ho, will just have to struggle on with my ‘improper’ orgasms

But they're very different aren't they, between clitoral and g-spot orgasms?

Someone recommended a site on here, can't remember what it was called, think it was 'ohyes'.

Experiment with different things

olive you are doing exactly the same on another thread, 'here they come, typical mumsnet.' A lot people might just be different from you.

I find it really bizarre that just because people on here can’t orgasm through penetrative sex they refuse to believe that others do.

Yes exactly this!

I didn't realise I was imaginary!!

Everyone's body is different. How is that so difficult to believe?

The clitoris extends very deeply internally, it's not just the bit on the outside. Penetration can provide internal stimulation of the clitoris in some women

https://io9.gizmodo.com/5876335/until-2009-the-human-clitoris-was-an-absolute-mystery

Same with the G-spot

Vaginal orgasms can feel very different to clitoral orgasms. Not better. Not worse. Just different. We all have different experiences and that's part of what makes us human. Why is that so difficult to comprehend?

Youtube

Btw, op, what about ‘both’? Clitoral and vaginal stimulation combined is what gets me... really going, I guess

Why on earth do we have information regarding queen Victoria’s sexual performance!? Who told that story??

"Nobody really has an orgasm thru just penetration"

Cobblers, sorry, roo.

The one I did yavebthrough just penetration didn’t involve ages of foreplay but I think it was situation and anticipation due to the circumstances.

Nobody really has an orgasm thru just penetration Except all the ones who do