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MIL woes

117 replies

InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:43

MIL is 70. She is staying with us until Next Thursday.
We work and won't be in during the day & MlL is planning to go into town shopping when we are at work.
We have given her a key and she can't lick the door. Seriously.
The lock is not stiff, you simply pull the handle up and lock it with a key from the outside. The lock on her door is a Yale - no pulling up handles.
She can't do it and has said that if she can't do it tomorrow she will just leave it unlocked when she goes out as it will be ok for a couple of hours until she gets back.

WTAF???

AIBU to think WTAF????? Am I???

I have gone to bed. I'm fucking annoyed.

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Ttbb · 03/12/2017 20:44

Just tell her not to go out without locking it first. If you don't trust her then take the key away.

InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:45

I'm more annoyed with DH who hasn't said a word. He told me to 'leave it'. Angry

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PNGirl · 03/12/2017 20:45

Well, if she plans to replace all your stolen stuff when the house insurance won't pay out due to an unlocked door, that's fine.

Have you stood her outside the door and made her do it?

InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:46

If I take the key away, she will go out anyway. She does what she likes.

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MsHomeSlice · 03/12/2017 20:47

lock her in by mistake, she won't be able to get out then

Unless dh comes to rescue her, cos of course your phone will be set mysteriously to silent.

InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:48

Yes, we did a practice run. She couldn't do it 4/5 times. She managed it once. She says if she can't do it tomorrow she will just leave it.

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Salvadore · 03/12/2017 20:49

Tell her to go out when you leave? (So you lock the door?)
Stand outside with her til she’s figured it out?
Hope she replaces your stolen stuff?

InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:49

There have been break ins recently where we live. I'm extra paranoid.

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Salvadore · 03/12/2017 20:50

Any nice neighbors to help her?

wwwwwwwwwwwwww · 03/12/2017 20:50

Do you have any neighbours who could give her a hand?

InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:51

salvadore unfortunately, we leave at 7am.
DH is driving me mad. He just says 'It'll be ok'

F'ing hell.

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Gobbolinothewitchscat · 03/12/2017 20:51

Has she actually said this in front of your DH?

magpiemay · 03/12/2017 20:52

Make it very clear that if she cannot lock the door she must not leave! Seriously put your foot down.... and if DH won’t support you... LTB!

InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:52

I wish we had neighbours that could help. They leave for work when we leave orbefore sometimes.
Yes, DH was there throughout the conversation.

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meredintofpandiculation · 03/12/2017 20:52

Do a 1960s seaside B&B landlady trick - kick her out after breakfast then don't let her back in until you're back in the evening. (Not seriously). She probably isn't being deliberately awkward, hands get a lot less strong when you get older.

InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:53

I just give up.
She's so stubborn. She thinks it will be ok so it will be ok.

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InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:54

No she's not being deliberately awkward but still. I want to kill DH for not taking the week off work.

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letsdolunch321 · 03/12/2017 20:55

MEN absolute arseholes majority of them !!!!

GertrudeCB · 03/12/2017 20:55

Is she fucking serious ? Is your dh on glue ??

Littlelambpeep · 03/12/2017 20:57

That is awful. Dh needs to sort this.

InspMorse · 03/12/2017 20:58

Gertrude I can't bear it at the moment. I am in bed now. I just give up.

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Fluffyears · 03/12/2017 21:00

Totally not on. DH has to then stay off work so the house is not left unsupervised.

ElizabethLemon · 03/12/2017 21:00

Lock her in.

Laiste · 03/12/2017 21:02

So DH is ok with the house being left unlocked?

Hmm
VeganIan · 03/12/2017 21:05

Ain't no one got time for that shit! No way Shock She's just going to walk off leaving your house unlocked and uninsured and everyone but you is ok with that??

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