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To go on holiday without DS?

125 replies

BasinHaircut · 03/11/2017 14:57

Me and DH have booked a week away but are leavening DS(4) at home with his grandparents.

We took him away earlier in the year on a ‘family’ holiday that was very child orientated, but now want a more grown up break.

He is at school and we are going in term time. I’ve told him that we are going away for a week and he is having his grandparents come to take care of him and he doesn’t seem bothered.

I’ve had some weird looks and comments about our decision to go away without him but and I realise he will probably miss us (and I’ll miss him) but TBH he is hard work and I could do with a break.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Inkandbone · 03/11/2017 14:58

Honestly? I find it odd when parents do this. I know lots of people will reply saying otherwise, but I think it's too long and I think it's a shame for the kids.

But I am most probably the unreasonable one!

Sirzy · 03/11/2017 14:58

Yanbu.

He is happy and being left with people he knows. He has had a holiday so your not letting him go without so you can have

Enjoy and relax!

SilverSpot · 03/11/2017 14:59

Totally fine.

He get spoiled by GPs. You and DH get time to be adults and a couple.

user1471459936 · 03/11/2017 14:59

I first read that as a weekend and thought - fair enough. But a week? Nope.

Pansiesandredrosesandmarigolds · 03/11/2017 14:59

Yanbu.

PinkHeart5914 · 03/11/2017 14:59

I don’t see a problem with it. Your child will be loved and cared for by his grandparents, he will be at school so the week will come and go in no time for him anyway.

My dc are younger than yours and me and dh have been away without them a couple of times, mil cared for them.

Sirzy · 03/11/2017 15:00

I think what people need to remember with things like this is that just because you wouldn’t do something yourself doesn’t make it wrong.

IncyWincyGrownUp · 03/11/2017 15:02

Fill your boots!

I wouldn’t because I can’t, but that’s just how it is.

Enjoy your holiday.

Inkandbone · 03/11/2017 15:03

True, and it's not "wrong", but then the point of this forum is to get opinions.

I remember being left with my aunt once and I was really upset by it, I was fine until bedtime but cried what felt like half the night.

I'm sure everyone thought I was fine.

Lethaldrizzle · 03/11/2017 15:03

Long weekend maybe

readyforno2 · 03/11/2017 15:04

I've done it and would do it again.

My dc were left with grandparents one time and the most recent time were on holiday with grandparents.
Your ds will be cared for by people who know and love him.

Enjoy yourself and don't feel guilty!

Fruitcorner123 · 03/11/2017 15:07

Every child is different and if you feel yours will be fine with this then whats the problem? Enjoy x

Fruitcorner123 · 03/11/2017 15:07

Sorry its just habit to put a kiss at the end of my messages Grin

Bumbumtaloo · 03/11/2017 15:08

I would if I could. My dd’s love going to stay with their grandparents and would have a whale of a time.

DunkMeInTomatoSoup · 03/11/2017 15:08

I can't see that it's an issue, provided you will actually enjoy the holiday and not be pining for him.

BoredOnMatLeave · 03/11/2017 15:11

I think it's odd but as others have said it doesn't make it wrong.

I did used to annoy me as a child though as my mum would take me to Cornwall then go to the Bahamas without me. I liked stayed with my nan it was more jealously that she went to all these far away places without me.

Notreallyarsed · 03/11/2017 15:12

My parents did this, we had a ball with Grannie and they had a ball as a couple without me and my brother under their feet. Nothing wrong with it at all!
DP and I managed 3 nights away recently, first time in 6 years we’d been child free and it was bloody lovely. We also took the kids for a long weekend too, so like your DS it’s not like they’re missing out.

Oblomov17 · 03/11/2017 15:12

Ha ha. MN at it’s best.
Some will think this is some sort of crime!!

Grin

Plenty of children go and stay with their grandparents for a week, during the summer holidays. How else do you cover the 13 weeks of holidays?

But no. OP going on holiday. Because it’s so ‘selfish’ and self-centred’,probably isn’t ok? Hmm

Inkandbone · 03/11/2017 15:13

I'm flattered you think I am the whole of MN ob

I'm the only one I think expressing a dissenting view.

PandorasXbox · 03/11/2017 15:17

It’s fine. Enjoy yourselves. I’ve just booked a week with DH next year when DS is away on a school trip. Can’t wait.

Loctite · 03/11/2017 15:21

I would do (and have done) weekends without dd but mostly she comes with us and she has been very fortunate to travel a lot over the years.

I love spending time with her and dh in new places and she is almost a teen now so our years are numbered and then it is back to just dh and me..

I would not do a week away

afrikat · 03/11/2017 15:21

We will definitely be doing this when the kids are a bit older. We have a long weekend planned in Edinburgh in December and can't wait!

Sarahh2014 · 03/11/2017 15:22

We used to go to our grandparents for few days when we're kids didn't do us any harm..enjoy your couple time

lorelairoryemily · 03/11/2017 15:27

A weekend, absolutely. A week, no way I could do it

Deemail · 03/11/2017 15:30

He's been left with close family, isn't upset and already had a holiday centred around him earlier this year, it all sounds good to me.

I get people not wanting to do this or been able, I was a bit of both but in the circumstances you described it sounds ideal.

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