To go on holiday without DS?

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Me and DH have booked a week away but are leavening DS(4) at home with his grandparents.

We took him away earlier in the year on a ‘family’ holiday that was very child orientated, but now want a more grown up break.

He is at school and we are going in term time. I’ve told him that we are going away for a week and he is having his grandparents come to take care of him and he doesn’t seem bothered.

I’ve had some weird looks and comments about our decision to go away without him but and I realise he will probably miss us (and I’ll miss him) but TBH he is hard work and I could do with a break.

AIBU?

littlefella that sounds fab.

To whoever said it, I am also if the view that it takes a village. DS is happy to stay with lots of different people and equally he loves having cousins and friends over to stay when we mind other people’s kids.

Sounds lovely! I don't know what my parents did when I was 4 but I used to go to visit family out of the country for a month plus during the US summer holidays (3 months off school) from when I was 6! I can remember anything before that but I know they used to at least do long weekends out of the country when I was less than 4 occasionally.

If your son is with people he is familiar with, it will probably be harder on you than on him :)

We have no surviving grandparents. It makes it easier in a way.

Why on earth not? He'll have a great time! I spent £1000s taking my DD to Disneyland for a week and the next month had five nights away with DH in the Algarve. DD had a great time between her dad's and GPs, do it and have a fab time!

YANBU

Enjoy yourselves. Your husband and wife, not just mum and dad.

Nothing wrong with that at all, I think it's good to have time as a couple and not as parents. Your son is happy, looked after & loved so go enjoy your break. A few odd looks could well be jealousy that they can't do the same ;)

Of course YANBU. We’ve not been in the financial position to leave ours but my parents were and I recall several happy stays with grandparents while they went away. It was a treat and we were thoroughly spoilt.

Its not something I'd do but I definitely don't think there's amything wrong with it. I'm spending one night away from mine next weekend and nervous about that but I've got separation issues. I used to stay at my Nan's every weekend, we all loved it. My parents got some time to chill or work (dad works from home often) my nan absolutely loved having us there and we loved being there. A few of my friends have a family holiday each year but also one without the kids. Personally for me I just wouldn't enjoy it but I never get why others think it's wrong. If you and your child are happy with it then all is well!

Each to their own and all that but I couldn't do it. DH couldn't and wouldn't either.

Doesn't mean it's not right for you though.

Yanbu. Depends on you, the dc and the gp though. Ours keep asking to have our ds for a week but he's just a baby and we are nowhere near ready to part from him yet.

I leave my nearly 6 year old for up to 2 weeks 4 times a year - to visit my partner abroad (European country but non-EU). My situation is a little different in that me and DDs dad are on good terms, he is extremely hands-on, pays maintenance religiously and is very supportive of my new relationship. Of course i miss her and she misses me, but we video chat twice a day and I bring back so many presents that she almost looks forward to me going! I do appreciate it's not possible or even wanted for everyone though

Yanbu. Me and dp are leaving ds with my parents while we go away (4 days)

Im a bit apprehensive but i know hell be fine.

Do it! My parents used to go away for short breaks when I was younger and I loved getting to stay with my grandparents! Was as much of a holiday for me as for them x

Do it!!
The time you will get alone together as a couple is priceless.
Enjoy!

Go and enjoy yourself. It is hard work and I am sure you deserve some me time. Your wee one will probably have a great time with grandparents and it will help him develop independence.

If he has a good relationship with his grandparents then YANBU.

I wouldn’t want to but that doesn’t make it unreasonable for you to.

I feel once you've made the decision to have children you kinda forego the whole 'I need me time, for an entire week ...' thing. I wouldn't do it and I wouldn't want to.

My parents travelled to the US and Canada for 4 weeks when my sis and I were 3 and 7. We stayed at home with my grandparents. We had a ball and have no long term issues.
Go and have a great time.

Your 1 child is hard work?? Have I read that right?? No wonder you get looks! Everyone deserves some adult time but taking a whole week??

I wish I’d had the opportunity to do this when mine were little, go enjoy yourselves. I’m sure your little one will have a whale of a time with his grandparents.

Marriedwithchildren5 Your 1 child is hard work?? Have I read that right?? No wonder you get looks! Everyone deserves some adult time but taking a whole week??

All children are hard work really. Rewarding, but hard work.

As for 'a whole week??' is there a rule somewhere I missed that gives us time slots?

If so I missed the memo, I was blessed with an amazing MIL who would watch our 6 as often and for as long as we liked so we've had regular weekends, and a few weeks over the years.

OP Have a break. Enjoy it

YANBU I try and do this every year

YANBU.

Not something I would or could do as we have no local family and my OH doesn't even like spending evenings/weekends away from the kids, let alone annual leave, but as a SAHM with a 4 year old and a 1 year old I can definitely see the attraction of some "off duty" time to recharge your batteries and have an uninterrupted grown-up conversation. Ignore the cat bum faces. I bet there's a twinge of jealousy behind them, however fleeting.

Nobody to have them so not an option.