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To challenge this note from nursery ?

249 replies

Blankiefan · 12/09/2017 19:32

Leaflet came home with 4yo DD from nursery (it's the school nursery). Note is about benefits of outside play and learning. So far, so good... until...

"Boys, in particular, require a means of testing themselves (and true abilities) in a physical manner, which is impossible in the confined space of a school classroom."

AIBU to think this reflects some sort of belief that the boys should be challenged in ways the girls aren't? It's a philosophy I'm uncomfortable with - why should they make a distinction on gender?

She's only been attending this nursery for a fortnight - she goes for afternoon sessions spending the rest of her time at the private nursery she's been at since she was 6 months old. Am I going to be that parent if I complain this soon into her school career? The nursery is part of the school she'll attend for primary.

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Ratbagcatbag · 12/09/2017 19:35

YANBU. That would drive me nuts and I would have to ask exactly what it was that boys needed challenging themselves in that girls didn't. Bloody bloody ingrained casual sexism drives me mad.

TheSkyAtNight · 12/09/2017 19:36

Yanbu - that should be challenged along with staff attitudes behind it.

Nikephorus · 12/09/2017 19:36

Maybe it's a jumped-up way of saying that little boys need to burn off more energy than girls and so need to run round outside?

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 12/09/2017 19:37

Yes Nike, that is what it's saying. And it's bollocks.

OwlinaTree · 12/09/2017 19:37

I wouldnt like that wording. They are probably under pressure to improve outcomes for boys so have been putting things in place that may appeal to boys more than their current provision. They should be encouraging all children to use all provision though.

insancerre · 12/09/2017 19:37

Yabu
Boys do have different needs from girls

Bluntness100 · 12/09/2017 19:38

Meh, in general little boys in particular do I think. They aren't saying girls don't, I really wouldn't be offended.

Nuttynoo · 12/09/2017 19:38

You should complain to the manager that their leaflets are sexist and irresponsible, and imply girls need less exercise than boys.

zzzzz · 12/09/2017 19:39

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Barbiessharptoenails · 12/09/2017 19:39

YANBU.

GahBuggerit · 12/09/2017 19:39

Wtf?!

Pennywhistle · 12/09/2017 19:40

While it's true that my DS needs a lot more physical exercise a day than his twin sister I don't think that's the case for all boys (or all girls).

I'd certainly raise my eyebrows at that note.

All children benefit from running around outside, surely any qualification is unnecessary.

Pengggwyn · 12/09/2017 19:40

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PurplePillowCase · 12/09/2017 19:40

yanbu
this applies to both sexes.

PokemonDont · 12/09/2017 19:40

What does "a means of testing themselves (and true abilities) in a physical manner" actually mean, anyway? And why wouldn't girls need to test themselves physically? Ridiculous casual sexism

Saysomething88 · 12/09/2017 19:41

It might be a boy heavy class ? But it's worded very badly. I would be annoyed too

Coffeeandcrochet · 12/09/2017 19:42

Fuck that shit!

Nomoresunshine · 12/09/2017 19:42

"We need to make sure the boys get the chance to run wild in the yard to prevent them being little shits in class"

LondonLassInTheCountry · 12/09/2017 19:43

Boys and girls have different needs.

When i worked in a nursery. There was a spefic training day based on boys needs, a big part of the day was physical needs

christmastreewithhairyfairy · 12/09/2017 19:44

Yanbu, that would piss me right off and I would complain!

insancerre · 12/09/2017 19:44

The staff don't need training
They clearly have had up to date training
Its not sexist to suggest boys and girls have different needs
Boys and girls are different
They are not saying that girls don't need physical play that provides risk and challenge just that boys need it more

Hunkle · 12/09/2017 19:45

Confused I got told my DD was boisturous once by a nursery worker

Akire · 12/09/2017 19:45

I be more worried about boys hogging most space and equipment and all the bikes! especially if staff see as boys "need" it over a girl.

QuackDuckQuack · 12/09/2017 19:47

That sort of generalising is pure rubbish. It might be that, on average, boys have slightly different needs, but that doesn't apply on an individual level and isn't at all useful information for parents as by definition they are working on an individual level with their child. I certainly know some girls who are like whirling dervishes and physically demand as much opportunity to 'burn off energy' as any boy I know.

I also wonder why a nursery can't provide the physical play opportunities that fulfil this need, it doesn't sound like a rounded nursery.

Bluntness100 · 12/09/2017 19:49

They are not saying girls don't need exercise. They are saying both genders do, but often boys more. Which is accurate.

''Tis like reading comprehension test on here Grin

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