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To feel let down by One Born Every Minute?

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JonSnowsWhore · 11/04/2017 21:06

This is mine & my partners first baby together, but I've already had 2 kids so I KNOW I don't cope well in labour, I'm a midwife's nightmare 😂

Been making him watch One Born Every Minute to prepare scare him but so far they've all been really well behaved! I need some screamers/swearers/non copers like me to be shown tonight Grin

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Calvinlookingforhobbs · 11/04/2017 21:16

Totally believed I'd push my DC1 out in 10 minutes because of this programme. 2 hours later I was cursing them!

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JonSnowsWhore · 11/04/2017 21:20

Ahh that must be it, they must cut out all of the not coping bits. They just must do. Despite reading loads of comments on here from people who say they didn't mind labour etc, I just refuse to believe that someone can be in that much pain & not be begging for death Grin

Oh god every time I think about it I get more & more scared

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Littlecaf · 11/04/2017 21:20

Yup YNBU. I wanted to write to them after as and shout

WHERES THE FORCEPS?
WHAT ABOUT THE EPIDURAL REFUSAL?
WHY DOES NOBODY BEG FOR DRUGS?
CAN YOU SHOW THE BIT WHERE THE PLACENTA GETS STUCK?
STITCHES? ANY AT ALL?

Grrrr

Apologies for the shouting. It gives me the rage.

throughgrittedteeth · 11/04/2017 21:22

I've got 3 weeks left and I've reached my pregnancy limit now. All I can think of is "fuck those specific women already having their babies" GrinBlush

Barbie222 · 11/04/2017 21:23

I have not and never will watch after two emergency (and one peaceful elective!) CSs.

throughgrittedteeth · 11/04/2017 21:24

little on the one last week or the week before with the Spanish couple they pretty much refused her an epidural. I think this series so far has been much tamer than previous series though.

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JonSnowsWhore · 11/04/2017 21:26

8 weeks to go!! (If induction a week early goes to plan) I cannot live like this for another 8 weeks!
Think I've cried in pain 3 times today alone.

What's going on with tonight's one, I haven't heard a single noise from them tonight Sad if the screamers don't come along soon then he's going to really think I'm making it all up when it comes to my turn!

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RubyGoat · 11/04/2017 21:29

YANBU. I can't watch it any more since I had DD, it gives me the rage. My labour went nothing like most of the ones on that programme.

sailorcherries · 11/04/2017 21:31

I'm sure later tonight one of the women has a bit of a meltdown (her step-MIL works there).

I enjoyed the elcs last week, as well as showing the emcs.

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JonSnowsWhore · 11/04/2017 21:34

I feel so evil, willing these poor women to be in so much pain that they can't cope, just to prove a point to my OH in 8 weeks time. Sorry unknown women!

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sycamore54321 · 11/04/2017 21:36

OP is there a reason you are not planning an epidural? So much pain you are begging for death should not be an inevitability for a woman in a developed country in the 21st century. I know this is a light hearted post but seriously please think about ensuring adequate effective pain relief for yourself. Nobody benefits from you being in agony.

Ginosaji · 11/04/2017 21:37

Agree this series seems tamer, look online somewhere for an episode from the first series, might have more effect Grin

PollytheDolly · 11/04/2017 21:40

My first birth involves throwing jelly and ice cream across the room. 20 hours in I was rather hungry and pissed off at the same time at just being told I'd progressed all the way to 4cm. Would have made good viewing though.

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JonSnowsWhore · 11/04/2017 21:41

I am absolutely 100% planning on asking for an epidural! I just have fears of it either the anaesthetist not coming in time or them not being able to do it. I had a lumbar puncture attempted 2 months ago & it failed because they couldn't get to the right spot due to a blood vessel being in the way. I don't know how similar they in regards to the space they have to get in to, but I am sooo terrified of that!

My first labour they refused the epidural & im honestly traumatised from that birth. Second I had the epidural and although still painful, I coped so much better!

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PollytheDolly · 11/04/2017 21:41

OP is there a reason you are not planning an epidural? So much pain you are begging for death should not be an inevitability for a woman in a developed country in the 21st century. I know this is a light hearted post but seriously please think about ensuring adequate effective pain relief for yourself. Nobody benefits from you being in agony.

Totally agree. After my jelly incident I opted for the epidural and peace and calm was restored.....

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JonSnowsWhore · 11/04/2017 21:43

See polly that's the kind of irrational shit I want to see 😂

Sounds like the earlier series are the way to go! Some bed time viewing on the iPad tonight haha

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Wando1986 · 11/04/2017 21:45

They deliberately edit the clips. Some women have been there for days. They used to focus only on the transition stages and filmed in Midwife led wings too which is why they used to have so many screamers and dramatic births. At Liverpool Womens it's in the Consultant led wing which means the majority are off their tits on painkillers, exhausted or have epidurals so no screamers Grin

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JonSnowsWhore · 11/04/2017 21:47

Ahhh makes sense then. I'll definitely dig up some old series! This dark haired woman isn't making a single bloody sound! Is she ok Shock

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DontTouchTheMoustache · 11/04/2017 21:50

What about the bits where you are bent over a table getting an epidural while farming on the anaesthetist?

BeeFarseer · 11/04/2017 21:50

The crew are a fucking pain in the arse too. We expressed interest in appearing, then changed our minds when sanity kicked in. I was admitted for a few weeks before having DS2 and they were constantly asking if we'd changed our minds. There was a girl in my ward who was appearing, but kept going home without telling the staff and then kicked off at them because she missed seeing the consultant and they were constantly in our room looking for her. I do wonder if she ever appeared on the show in the end.

throughgrittedteeth · 11/04/2017 21:50

Just had jelly and ice cream Grin did not throw it across the room, did shovel it aggressively into my gob though!

peaceloveandbiscuits · 11/04/2017 21:50

OBEM made me believe there was a lot of waiting around in labour. I packed a deck of cards, ffs! Arrived at hospital 4cm dilated and gave birth six hours later. No time for Cribbage.

But DS was taken from me and resuscitated at birth, and I do remember thinking, oh shit, I thought this only happened on TV. He was fine, but scary scary.

PetallyTyrants · 11/04/2017 21:55

I've never understood why women tolerate (or are forced to tolerate) such agony during childbirth. I know some nutters want natural/no drug deliveries but sane people should have pain relief, epidurals or c sections ON DEMAND!!

Wando1986 · 11/04/2017 21:56

They do have them on demand. Though if you've progressed too far in labour a csection is no longer an option.

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JonSnowsWhore · 11/04/2017 21:57

Ha no time for cribbage!

I've always said an epidural if asked for should be administered the minute you get to hospital Grin

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