To feel let down by One Born Every Minute?

[JonSnowsWhore]

This is mine & my partners first baby together, but I've already had 2 kids so I KNOW I don't cope well in labour, I'm a midwife's nightmare 😂

Been making him watch One Born Every Minute to prepare scare him but so far they've all been really well behaved! I need some screamers/swearers/non copers like me to be shown tonight

I had a drug free birth. I also pooed myself. Can't get more natural than that.

@JonSnowsWhore I didn't dilate until the very end so the people in triage were saying I wasn't giving birth. They got fed up of me in the end 'disturbing the other ladies' and just shut the curtain and ignored me. They certainly didn't ignore me when DH went and told them he could feel DD's head lol. Then they had the cheek to say it was a surprise after 15 hrs of agony bloody cheek!!
I am sure however that your experience will be better than mine! Good luck and have lots of pain relief! X

LuluJakey Congratulations!!!! You are not helping by making it sound (relatively) easy:) How lovely to have a newborn to snuggle.

A newborn who DH has taken out round the park to try and get her to sleep as she has been awake (apart from 40 minutes) since about 2 this morning- fed 3 times and is still awake. I knew we would get one that didn't sleep this time because DS was so easy. I could cry.

Lulujakey congrats on your little one. I am intrigued as to your user name and if it's based on your DC names? I have a Jacob (Jakey) and if I get my way me little girl due in July will be Louisa (Lulu) xx

My first birth was not like obem either. Epidural, forceps, poo, sick etc

The thing is we are not all having the same experience/levels of pain though are we? Every labour is completely different. Even with the same person, my first labour was 40 hours of back to back agony with a very long pushing stage. Second I was fine with much lower levels of pain right up until 9cms. Was much quicker though.

I just don't like the 'oh I found it just like a period baby and then the baby fell out' brigade. It's not anything like that for most people and you were just lucky. Nothing to do with pain threshold.

*period pain not period baby!

@KitKats28 yeah I've watched other series but my partner hasn't so was making him watch this series in preparation for a few weeks time & screaming for an epidural at 3 months pregnant is definitely me! God I'd love one now with this spd I tell ya lol!

@Swizzlegiggle see, scaring me again 😄 they'll have to listen to me, I can't go through that burning ring of fire ever again!

@Delatron that's what I don't get, how it's not so painful for some people, like I said before I have to believe people because it's their experience haha but my head just can't work out how something that does that to your body isn't absolutely extricating to some people! It's very weird how every experience is different

JonSnowsWhore it is amazing how different the experience is for everyone. I firmly believe it's nothing to do with pain threshold, it's just down to the labour, some are excruciating some manageable.

In hindsight, I wish I had just taken all the drugs available for my first. I exhausted myself trying to stay upright and have an active labour! Didn't work for me!

I think it is a combination of the level of pain being different and how you deal with the pain. Fear will release certain chemicals that will actually be a hindrance. The book "birth skills" by Jojo sudin is brilliant.

I also watched a friend go from writhing, screaming, agony of back to back labour to total control for about 20 minutes while they put an epidural in. She just said she knew she had to.

Surely everyone is different though.
I was relaxed, and tired to breathe through the pain as much as possible.
Even having my waters broken in the birth centre didn't hurt me at all. There was a student midwife present, and I was so relaxed the midwife done her checks, then asked if I'd go through them again so the student could try. I did.
I'd avoid an epidural if possible personally because I just wouldn't want one if it wasn't absolutely necessary. But then I wanted as natural a birth as possible, tens machine and birth pool helped the most. Even after 4 days of contractions.

See during my first labour they put me in a bath at the hospital to 'help with the pain' I had one contraction & flew straight back out again, back to my bed for the gas & air! It is so weird how everyone is different.

I don't know I was all that scared before my first labour though for the fear to affect it, it was genuinely just that horrific pain wise for me. It was 10 years ago, I'll never forget it. It wasn't even necessarily anything out of the ordinary either, no forceps, no cutting but did tear, no emergency type situation occurred. It was just the pain that made it so traumatic for me.

In my last birth plan I just wrote EPIDURAL in big letters & I'll be doing the same this time

I've had two different epidurals, one which was a spinal block, and one that I could still feel things but not pain (and I could move my legs). Bloody miracle workers them!

Diamorphine made me drunk then knocked me out, again I loved it ha!

Pethidine didn't help much (I've had three lots), wouldn't bother again.

Gas and air was ok, but some people you hear saying it's amazing and really helped... mine made me sick ha!

As you can tell I'm pro pain relief! I'm not even a wimp, but I have had shit labours

I haven't watched it for a while but the main thing I remember thinking was mostly "why are they letting that woman continue lying on her back screaming her head off instead of helping her get upright and do something practical to help the pain?" I saw plenty of epidurals and forceps and emergency c-sections.

Gas & air is good for a while, but doesn't cut it at the end I tell ya! I had the epidural where you topped it up every so often, is that the one you mean? Although I don't remember being able to move my legs so not sure.

I won't be doing pethidine again! I got told off the morning after she was born, apparently she'd been crying in the night & the midwives had to feed her because I just wouldn't wake up. Someone has since told me it was down the pethidine, not sure though. They gave it to me too late anyway but I'm sure it wouldn't even compare to an epidural. Good old epidurals!

I don't really know, there seems to be a good few types of epidural. I know spinal block (I had my legs in stirrups and I was completely immobile). The other one I think was called mobile? (May be wrong).

They tested it by getting an ice cube and running it up my leg, when it got above my knee I could feel the ice cube was there but it wasn't cold.

It was bloody brilliant that epi. I didn't even need a stitch (second labour, first I had a third degree tear). You can still feel the baby come out so you can push better imo.

If you get any say in epidural choices, I would strongly recommend

Yeah I think that's the one. Apparently it doesn't necessarily mean mobile as in you can walk but it's not a complete block so pushing etc is easier. I was happy with that one I'd have it again

I also get annoyed with the argument that epidurals slow down labour. I had one right at the end of my long labour and finally managed to push the baby out! Maybe the fact it relaxes you and you're finally out of pain?

I used my epidural as a chance to sleep then didn't get it topped up during transition and the final stage so I could feel everything.

I did however top it up when they did the stitches!

(We have ours on a pump that we self top
up)

Malboro It is based on my mum's maiden name and the name of a cat and then Mumsnet made me add the 1 to it for some reason

DD has no name as yet. We are still deciding. I think it might be Anna or Mae or Elisabeth or some combination, or alternatively India or Evie........ or possibly Georgina or Eleanor ......or Isabella or Evelyn.

I felt annoyed watching it, had severe pet with premature section with dc1, two weeks neonatal. Dc2 was stupidly overdue, midwives sent me to do daft things like walk up and down the hospital stairs, was in labour for 2 days before having a section for failure to progress. Was off my tits both times with various drugs. Neither birth I have ever seen anything like on OBEM.

Walk up & down the bloody stairs! Oh god I have spd I shan't be walking anywhere haha! I can barely even lift my leg up to get in my car now

See I just tried to slowly shuffle down the bed to lie down, my hand slipped, I fell & knocked my OH's phone into his teeth. Then I sat there sobbing because I was in pain & I'd also hurt him. He looks at me like this a lot lately, please can I have the epidural from now 😫