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To not want the generic Mother's day gifts.

112 replies

MERLYPUSSEDOFF · 23/03/2017 08:26

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not expecting a gift at all other than perhaps something they've made at school (which I'm sure will be lovely but I wont feel any less loved if it doesn't show up), but I can't be the only mum in the UK that doesn't want any of the following that all the stores are promoting:
Prosecco or Gin- (have loads and would rather 9yr didn't buy Grin
Fluffy slippers and night wear
Bath sets or perfume
Scented candles.
Flowers
I'm not the only one am I? (I'd like a decent sleeping bag or something for the garden)

OP posts:
Sparklingbrook · 23/03/2017 08:28

I know what you mean.

But I want a bottle of Southern Comfort, perfume and chocolates. Grin

mumthatruns · 23/03/2017 08:32

I can think of nothing worse. Something simple that he's made at nursery or DH has helped him make would be lovely, but all that stuff in the shops like you've listed is a bit "last minute gift" I think.

chitofftheshovel · 23/03/2017 08:32

Nope, I don't want any of that shite either.

I also don't want the kids to feel they have to buy anything for a made up, commercialised day.

elQuintoConyo · 23/03/2017 08:32

5yo DS makes a card. DH bakes a cake with him.

Vice versa for Father's Day.

That's it.

Picnic, walk in the hills/woods, feed the ducks, chase the dog, collect leaves and pine cones, identify birds, hug trees... Just a normal Sunday for us!

glenthebattleostrich · 23/03/2017 08:33

Amateurs!!!

I start prepping DD in February so she knows what to get me!

This year should be a lovely satchel from Doc Martin, some flowers and tickets to see beauty and the beast together. DH is treating us to lunch too.

Best thing will be the mug she's designed that I'm not supposed to know about 😁

DevelopingDetritus · 23/03/2017 08:34

You'll get what you're given Mrs and be grateful for it. Grin I don't get nowt usually Sad

drinkyourmilk · 23/03/2017 08:35

It's my first mothers day. After years of infertility and ivf I'm scheduled a c section tomorrow.
I just can't share in your sentiments this year- sorry. Bring on all the home made crap in years to come. Bring on the petrol station flowers and cold cups of tea. Smile

I will however agree that these are poor gifts and the reason I find birthdays and xmas awkward. I genuinely never want or need anything and people are so lovely they want to get things. So I end up with piles of stuff I dont/can't use. It generally ends up at a local women's shelter at some point.

Sparklingbrook · 23/03/2017 08:36

My two are 15 and 17. If they don't know by now what I like there's something wrong. Grin

But DH sorts the booze out and it is quite timely because I have just finished the bottle I had for Christmas.

They know I would rather poke my eye out with a stick than go out for a Mothers Day meal.

AChickenCalledKorma · 23/03/2017 08:41

drinkyourmilk all the best for tomorrow. Your post made me well up! Have some dodgy Flowers on me Smile.

iklboo · 23/03/2017 08:52

Lots of luck for tomorrow drinkyourmilk Flowers

I'll happily take any unloved gin & prosecco lush that I am. PM me and I'll give you my address Grin.

DS has got me tickets to a Gin Festival next week, gin tasting set and chocolates. In my defence I've been a gin fan for a loooooooong time.

We're going out for lunch, I get breakfast in bed (thankfully rugby is cancelled this week so it won't have to be too early). DH has to pop out for an hour's lesson so DS & I will snuggle in bed for a bit.

Abetes · 23/03/2017 09:00

I don't want anything from your list either but I do love chocolates (which are another of the standard gifts that shops promote). Ds (aged 11) has told his father that he wants to go shopping to buy me a diamond necklace - that child is so well trained......

kissmethere · 23/03/2017 09:03

I don't ever want the kids to buy into the commercialism of Mother's Day. A day off cooking is all I want and even just a card. Have always said that to the kids. Home made all the way.

Beelands · 23/03/2017 09:04

I absolutely love all the standard tat. I'm never happier than when eating chocolate, drinking gin and prosecco, occasionally together, surrounded by candles, flowers and room diffusers. I love a bath oil. I'd wear new slippers every day if I could. Mothers day was made for me.

LindyHemming · 23/03/2017 09:06

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TiredMumToTwo · 23/03/2017 09:09

I'm with you Beelands, fortunately my DH knows me so well, homemade cards from the kids & chocs, flowers, smellies galore - I'm an advertiser's dream!!

BeyondThePage · 23/03/2017 09:10

not for me either.

My girls will make me scrambled egg on toast - I know, because they have asked me if I would like that and at what time. Smile

JigglyTuff · 23/03/2017 09:13

I bought myself loads of flowers yesterday (am a single parent) and a steak and a bottle of wine for Sunday. DS will make me a card but largely I will be celebrating my own mothering awesomeness :)

Good luck tomorrow drinkyourmilk!

MieMoosMummy · 23/03/2017 09:22

Congratulations drinkyourmilk!! I hope everything goes smoothly for you and you enjoy mothers day with your brand new bundle!!
My DD is 21 months at the moment and just found out we're cooking another so I'm probably expecting some kind of drawing and maybe some home baked goods (help by daddy of course!)

BigApple11 · 23/03/2017 09:26

YABU. just be grateful !

claraschu · 23/03/2017 09:31

I might get myself some flowers when they are marked down on Monday Smile

finagler · 23/03/2017 09:33

I like flowers and a day off cooking including wine in the evening.

Ecureuil · 23/03/2017 09:35

DD(3) has made me a gift at pre school which she has hidden under her bed. First secret she's ever kept! I'll be more than happy with that.
Although we're actually away this weekend, first time since the DD's (3 and 1) were born, and my mum is looking after them...

Enko · 23/03/2017 09:43

I have been very vocal over the years about ensuring the children doesn't buy me " mum" mugs and prosecco I think tastes awful I do not enjoy it at all. (I do like Gin though but I buy my own as and when needed - I am not a frequent drinker)

I do however expect a card. I also expect dinner made for me. DH has been rather slack about these things many times as he works in advertisement and is very " down " on that sort of stuff. I insist on the dinner made though. Last year I erupted in anger when they had done basically nothing for my birthday (less than a week before) and I returned home from work on Mothering Sunday to find nothing had been done. I ended up cooking dinner then they started arguing at the table and I completely lost it.

They are ALL aware to do better this year (Birthday was already better)

I accept Dh's wishes for fathers day (he also thinks this is advertisement hype) however he gets cards from the children (all teenagers) the odd present that one of them found they think he would like. We cook dinner. They all say happy fathers day to him.

Mari50 · 23/03/2017 09:54

I think Mother's Day is a pile of shite.
My DD(8) however, wrote a long list of (generic) gifts she wanted to get for me and saved her pocket money so she could buy me presents. She spent last Saturday with my mum carefully choosing things from her list and wrapping it all. She is so excited and proud of herself that when I unwrap the mug, the chocolates, the range of gifts available from Tesco essentially, I will be absolutely delighted and grateful because my DD has thought about this and put so much effort in, it would be churlish not to.
I still think Mother's Day is commercialised crap.

statetrooperstacey · 23/03/2017 09:55

I like a lie in, tea in bed, a card and some daffodils. Most things in the list I would probably be happy to receive tho. And perhaps will. I have lots of children, some years I do better than others! My eldest ds brought my card round two weeks ago as he often forgets and was determined not to this year. I usually tell them I would like them to get on for the day and not bicker but they can't usually maintain that past middayGrin