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To not want the generic Mother's day gifts.

112 replies

MERLYPUSSEDOFF · 23/03/2017 08:26

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not expecting a gift at all other than perhaps something they've made at school (which I'm sure will be lovely but I wont feel any less loved if it doesn't show up), but I can't be the only mum in the UK that doesn't want any of the following that all the stores are promoting:
Prosecco or Gin- (have loads and would rather 9yr didn't buy Grin
Fluffy slippers and night wear
Bath sets or perfume
Scented candles.
Flowers
I'm not the only one am I? (I'd like a decent sleeping bag or something for the garden)

OP posts:
CakeyMcCakey · 23/03/2017 19:50

I'm pretty sure I'm not getting anything this year. Teen DD is in a mega strop so will ignore it to prove a point.

DS is too young to shop without DD. I might get a card from him but our school is fairly low-key about these things so save upsetting those without mums etc.

I am going to make my mum afternoon tea so will just focus on that really.

jellyshoeswithdiamonds · 23/03/2017 19:55

One year I had a Dyson Confused

This year both mine are working the weekend, instead me and dh are taking the dog for a walk and along the way there just happens to be a bacon butty cafe, bliss Grin

NoncommittalToSparkleMotion · 23/03/2017 20:10

It's not Mother's Day here in Canada yet, but I eagerly await the gift my DC choose for me at the dollar store. Last year was a tambourine, so that's going to be hard to top.

Crispsheets · 23/03/2017 20:12

I don't want anything. Not a card, box of chocs or bunch of flowers. Not remotely interested in a forced lovefest for mothers.

talulahbelle · 23/03/2017 20:17

I had my Mother's Day card/gift today as DD came home from nursery and handed it over. A painted pasta necklace and a card with 4 reasons she loves me on it. They included "I have nice toys" "she likes Thomas and Percy" "Her favourite colour is purple" "she gives me hugs"
Best card ever.

Teepish · 23/03/2017 20:19

I'm looking forward to the lovely card my dd will make at school, and that's it. I don't "do" Mothers Day really, don't feel the need. She will also be with her dad on the day aswell as per our access arrangement so all in all its a non event!

MadgeMak · 23/03/2017 20:21

I'm with you OP. Of course it's all a load of commercialised crap and I don't want or need a present, but my 6 year old is so so excited this year to pick me out something (wine glass with I love mummy printed on it has been mentioned, too excited to keep it secretGrin). Therefore I will open my piece of commercialised tat with complete joy and enthusiasm, because it will make her happy.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 23/03/2017 20:22

That's really sweet Talulah. My son's card from pre school said "I love my mum because...she cooks fish fingers with black bits on" Confused Grin

IlPorcupinoNilSodomyEst · 23/03/2017 20:22

My mum would have been 95 this year and grew up in rural Ireland - she always said that Mother's Day was when you told your mum how much you appreciated her, and she didn't do anything that day, the kids did everything - I think that sounds fine!

JacquesHammer · 23/03/2017 20:25

My ex-husband takes my DD out shopping and she picks what to get me.

I can't imagine not being delighted with anything she picks as she will pick with love.

I certainly wouldn't drop hints. As it is she is bursting with excitement over what she's bought and I can't wait to share it with her

DurhamDurham · 23/03/2017 20:27

My girls are 23 and 19 now, over the years I've had everything from a necklace which had the word 'MUM' in fetching diamanté written on it to a rather fabulous Bowie tshirt.

My favourite of all time is the card that my then 4 year old made me with a tea bag and chocolate inside. I still have it, I think the tea bag and chocolate are probably past their best but it still makes me smile when I see it in my drawer.

Frouby · 23/03/2017 20:28

I bought my gift last week (new bag). Picked cards up with dcs last night in tescos (dd and ds picked, I gave dd money to pay).

Am having my hair done Saturday and a lie in on Sunday and absolutely not lifting a finger all day Sunday.

That will do for me!

silkybear · 23/03/2017 20:31

It's an excuse to get a box of lindors between christmas and easter so yabu Grin

GlitterGlue · 23/03/2017 20:36

I'm not in the slightest bit bothered about Mother's Day. I mean I won't turn down a box of chocolates, but I won't cry myself to sleep if I don't have a PERFECT DAY.

TheKitchenWitch · 23/03/2017 20:40

I've never been keen on Mothers Day, so I'd rather just a homemade card from dc when they're little, and then nothing really. I don't need them to be thoughtful about something so impersonal. Birthdays I expect something a bit more special (not necessarily expensive) and Christmas I'm happy with chocolates and the sort of stuff you've listed.

Keletubbie · 23/03/2017 20:41

My 9 yr old has got me an Amazon voucher. I'm very pleased by this.

DancingDora · 23/03/2017 20:53

I hate buying generic presents for anybody!
For my mum this year I have made a basket for a night in with lots of her favourite things in. It has wine and chocolates so is a bit generic in that way but has other things that she will like and that are much more personal to her. I've also got a DVD of a film we used to watch together when I was younger.

For DH's first Father's Day I made him a canvas with the help of DS with hand prints and foot prints that were turned in to some of his favourite things. I also got him a very rare edition of a comic book that happened to be released the day DS was born and DS is actually named after one of the characters in it. DS also 'made' him a card which DH framed and is now up on the wall in his office.

For my first Mother's Day DH went to buy the present online on the Friday and for some reason his card didn't work so he used my bank card to order me a bunch of overpriced flowers from moonpig that were delivered on the Sunday while we were out and left in our bin so I didn't even find them until Monday morning. They died after a week. And he bought a card from our newsagents and left the price on.

I have made it very clear that I expect a lot more thought in to it this year!

HerBluebiro · 23/03/2017 21:09

Flowers and a card. Living flowers - so in a pot. Seasonal ones like primroses or tulips. And card ideally home made. Although my toddler made an a3 card today, which definitely has impact but may be hard to store for sentimental reasons

gillybeanz · 23/03/2017 21:23

I write a list of lots of different things and they can choose.
Now they are grown up it's easier and they have more money Grin
The youngest just gets me something small, I think it's a plastic cup to take into work with me, this year.
I'd rather just have the family together than presents though, some women make too much of a deal about it though.

gillybeanz · 23/03/2017 21:24

I don't allow flowers as they are a rip off for mothers day, they know I'd be upset they spent their money on flowers.
We usually buy some the week before and they're fine by the weekend.

anna1313 · 23/03/2017 21:56

Bless you drinkyourmilk! Good luck and enjoy your longed for miracle baby!

Tinkerbec · 23/03/2017 22:15

It's a made up day as much as Christmas is. Unless your American they have a different date to real Motheing Sunday

Now isn't Fathers day thats totally made up by the card companies?

Funnyfarmer · 23/03/2017 22:29

I love all those things you mentioned op
I ask for same every year. House work from both dd's all day and a bunch off daffodils. I love daffodils. There's a massive field near our house with hundreds on so they don't have to spend a penny

Sara107 · 23/03/2017 22:31

I remember dD bringing home a 'breakfast in bed' for me from nursery when she was about 3. It was a paper bag containing a Caprisun and a cereal bar!! She was so excited about keeping it 'secret', (despite the fact that I brought it home from nursery, pretending not to notice it). On the Sunday morning, after lots of crashing around and loud whispering with her dad, the bag was presented to me - she then proceeded to drink the juice herself, and eat most of the cereal bar....

SukeyTakeItOffAgain · 23/03/2017 22:34

I'm sure that when we were little it was a homemade card and breakfast in bed. It's become another way to compete and show off.