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To not want the generic Mother's day gifts.

112 replies

MERLYPUSSEDOFF · 23/03/2017 08:26

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not expecting a gift at all other than perhaps something they've made at school (which I'm sure will be lovely but I wont feel any less loved if it doesn't show up), but I can't be the only mum in the UK that doesn't want any of the following that all the stores are promoting:
Prosecco or Gin- (have loads and would rather 9yr didn't buy Grin
Fluffy slippers and night wear
Bath sets or perfume
Scented candles.
Flowers
I'm not the only one am I? (I'd like a decent sleeping bag or something for the garden)

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justbinthefeckinbyebyebox · 24/03/2017 11:38

I too waited long enough, (ivf) so bring the shite on!!!
But I do buy my own presents and give them back to dh,
he has a little collection now, so will still be a surprise.
Was mum for a week before my 1st md.
So much luck to you drink!!!FlowersCakeBear

madein1995 · 24/03/2017 12:23

Yanbu. My mum is very, um particular, shall we say and it used to annoy me. Shed never want the generic stuff but then, neither would i want the generic xmas stuff. She liked perfume etc, up until 2nd year uni me and dad went half on big pressie (swarofski or simioar) and i bought her body shop set. Simce working, Ive been able to afford u0 pound perfume etc. This year I've left my job and only working pt atm, she understands and chose a bag and mug shed like so its a lot less at 30 quid. Ill prob be tge same when older - generic gifts I wouldnt like, and though not the childs responsibility til 18plus, id expect my husband to sort sonething out, as i wouod on fathers day

PerpendicularVincent · 24/03/2017 12:39

DS has made me a fab card and plant pot, which I would be really happy with - i have sensitive skin so hardly use smellies, am not into slippers and can't drink.

I want a new fitbit, so DH is getting that on DS' behalf. Like last Father's Day when I DS bought DH a crate of beer.

OVienna · 24/03/2017 17:53

I like all of the things on that list! Blush

NotCitrus · 24/03/2017 18:15

I never want stuff on gift lists.

Ds and dd did very sweetly say that they would be extra well-behaved on Mothers Day and get up even before I asked them to and get dressed without any nagging.
I pointed out that it's a Sunday not school day so actually they can sleep in as long as they want. But getting dressed when asked would indeed be nice.

They decided to be extra good this morning and get dressed promptly. :)
Went very well until dd spilt her cereal and ds got dressed, ate breakfast, and then got engrossed in a book...

I expect a couple cards, some tea and toast in bed, and then go for a walk in the woods. The next day I'll look for cheap chocolate!

Bestthingever · 24/03/2017 18:50

I'm not really looking for anything, just a token. However yesterday dh told me he was going to take dd (8) out to buy something after school as it was the only time they were both free. When she came home, he said let's go then. She said 'I'm too tired daddy.' He said 'fair enough' and shrugged his shoulders at me. I thought that was a bit rubbish from both of them Sad.

Whatsername17 · 24/03/2017 19:08

I told dh not to buy any supermarket shite with 'mum' written on. Dd is 5 and so excited though. I'm hoping for tea and toast in bed and a box of ferrero roacher.

Funnyfarmer · 24/03/2017 22:32

my dp says I get a lie in, in the morning too as we loose an hour on Sunday so I get an extra hour on Saturday Smile

CjScat · 25/03/2017 12:11

I'd take any gift !
Just been told by my only child that he didn't buy me anything because while I'm supporting him at uni it makes no sense as I would be buying my own grift .
So he didn't bother ....feeling heartbroken
Brought him up alone and so do everything for him.
I missing my darling mum who passed a few months ago so much now that I have no energy to do anything, When he told me I felt like a wave crushed me.
Going to stay in bed tomorrow all day.
I didn't fall out with him or cry, seems to be too mentaly exhausted to do anything but curl up with my mums dressing gown and my cats.
He is pussy footing around me so must know, but if he gets me anything now it will be as a peace offering and want be bought with the correct intention.
Please be grateful for whatever your child buys you!
Their intention and love has gone into that purchase or action of making a gift.....never more have I been aware that it really is the thought that counts!

claraschu · 26/03/2017 05:16

Awww CJScat don't feel bad about your son! You are so right that it is the thought that counts. Your son is just the wrong age to realise that the symbols of those thoughts, even silly gifts and cards, are important to you even if they aren't important to him. He probably wouldn't care about getting a bunch of flowers, so is selfishly thinking it doesn't matter to you. If he is aware enough of your feelings to rethink that, it is a sign he is growing up!

Of course, your sadness comes from losing your lovely mum so recentlySad I am sorry you are going through that huge bereavement. A few months is no time at all, and staying in bed with cats sounds like a comforting day. [flowers}

claraschu · 26/03/2017 05:16
Flowers
BeyondThePage · 26/03/2017 11:01

My Dd's 14 and 16 both gave me a big hug, and scrambled egg on toast WITHOUT BITS OF SHELL (first time deserves capitals Smile ), who needs "stuff".

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