To not want the generic Mother's day gifts.

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Now don't get me wrong, I'm not expecting a gift at all other than perhaps something they've made at school (which I'm sure will be lovely but I wont feel any less loved if it doesn't show up), but I can't be the only mum in the UK that doesn't want any of the following that all the stores are promoting:
Prosecco or Gin- (have loads and would rather 9yr didn't buy
Fluffy slippers and night wear
Bath sets or perfume
Scented candles.
Flowers
I'm not the only one am I? (I'd like a decent sleeping bag or something for the garden)

Pasta necklaces that's what I get, sadly this year they have been painted somthat should be fun.

My best mothers day was about 10 years ago. Dd would have been about 6. I was a single parent at the time so no dad to help out and I was never bothered about mothers day back then, but she'd decided to make me breakfast in bed which would have been lovely but she made me a salad! "Because i like salads" i don't really i only eat them because i know I should but not at half 8 on a Sunday morning! Think I may have been a little hungover too. The best bit I hadn't been shopping since the Monday before so the salad wasn't in the best condition either. But I had to eat it because she was so proud of herself. Although I didn't like the salad I thought it was really sweet. That's the only mothers day I ever really remember. I don't even remember last year

Several posters on this thread have mentioned taking gifts to "a local women's shelter", which is a lovely sentiment and something I would never have thought of. But - and apologies if this is a stupid question - how do you go about finding one? Isn't the whole point about women's shelters that they're, you know, in secret locations? I've lived in my area for donkey's years and have absolutely no idea if there's such a thing nearby. Enlighten me, anyone?

I love chocolates and flowers .

Was in Tesco earlier and they couldn't have presented a tackier, gaudier selection of tat on the Mother's Day aisle if they'd tried.... all cheap faux handbags, teddies with soppy slogans on them, and trendy perfumes.... perfect if your mum is 14, but otherwise....

I still think Mother's Day is commercialised crap

I really don't understand the angst about Mother's day.I assume it is imminent. It seems bizarre to get so worked up about 1 day.

I love chocolates and flowers

So do I. Flowers are a weekly staple of my shopping. Fruit, vegetables, cat food, flowers.

I am expecting something pretty special haha I work bloody hard all year with the kids, I have no babysitters so never get a break, Mother's Day is a day to celebrate and appreciate my hard work, I ain't expecting diamonds haha, a piece of paper with stuck on bits of paper and drawings from the kids would mean miles more to me, but I do expect effort and thought, all year I put everyone else first, make sure both families and friends have special cards and lots of thought into the family, this is my day in return for DH to help DC to put effort into me!

So do I. Flowers are a weekly staple of my shopping. Fruit, vegetables, cat food, flowers

Lucky you. Some people can only justify the expense on special occasions.

Dd1 is 13 now and likes to go to town and buy me a few bits. Usually a lush bubble bar and a candle I've told them all i want is breakfast in bed, but she likes to buy me something.

I have 2 kids and expecting number 3 any time now. Not expecting anything. Never have done. Husband is clueless on these things and ds 1 made me a card at nursery. He is very proud of that and it is lovely. But i wouldnt even notice it is mothdrs day. We dont tend to do these things

I can't believe the tat being promoted in my local Sainsbury's . Sets of mini bottles of pink prosecco with nasty cheap glasses. Pink mugs with a naff pot plant. Do people really buy that shit?

I'm happy with a bunch of English-grown tulips & a card. Even better if it's homemade although now the ds's are teenagers they'd rather just buy one.

YANBU. I detest all that "buy buy buy" for something simple, like Mothers Day. I loved it when DS made a card at nursery but nothing beyond that. It feels all wrong.

As a kid, we'd have Mothering Sunday at church. Little bunch of flowers for mum. That was it. That's all that's needed, imo.

If my son spent his cash on a bottle of gin or a dressing gown for me, I would think I'd gone wrong somewhere along the line. Just my opinion. 😊

DD's school are doing a Mother's Day sale today, so for the first time I'll get a gift she has chosen herself - she's 5, and DS is 2, so DH has got me things from them previously.

I'm really excited to see what she'll pick!

I love flowers and our 5DC and my DH all know that so I'll probably get some lovely flowers,maybe some plants and something else nice for the gardens.

I love gardening!So bits for the garden would be a lovely gift for me..

I usually get a bit of a lay in(which is always readily accepted)breakfast in bed,the children and 3 dogs all clambering over me whilst they're Dad gathers all my presents and cards together.

Sometimes we go out,but not for a Mothers day meal,I've never been keen and I've always presumed that places will be packed and very noisy.

We take a collection of things to church on Mothers day, via out Scout group, and Women's Aid collect them to forward to their ladies, so technically I am not taking anything to the shelter per se.

I tend to get the luxury end of the basic stuff that goes down well. Dove shower gels and nice shampoo, decent biscuits, body sprays, new flannels, little purses, gloves and socks picked up in the sales. I collect throughout the year and also send for freebies of nappies, san pad and baby spoons etc (they go in the weekly bucket) All of these things are really well received as I speak to the coordinator every time I see her. She lets me know if anything was particularly well received. We try throughout the year, as a scout group, to put bits and bobs in the food bank bucket most weeks. Every xmas I personally do a £30 shop for Women's Aid instead of sending xmas cards. My sister does the same too now.

I didn't mean to sound ungrateful with my original post. I suppose I was just shocked at the sea of pink, fluffy, glittery stuff on offer that was in one of the supermarket mags. I reiterate, anything I get from my boys will be cherished but I'd much prefer a sloppy cuddle any day. Hopefully there won't come a day when they are too embarrassed to cuddle mum but you never know....

When I was a kid, I would make my Mum a card and buy her a single carnation from the green grocers. I used to go down the village on my own and count out my pennies....

Like everything else, Mother's Day has turned into over commercialised crap.

I have told DH not to waste his money on crap this year like he usually does!

A handmade card, cup of tea and I told him to get both dd's to pick me the daffodils in the garden. (We are getting it done in a few weeks)
Daffodils are the only thing I want. I still give them to my mum every year and my mum did with her mum

I do not do meals out with DD2 at the moment as she is a bloody nightmare and everything is rushed and it's not enjoyable so Dh will cook and dd1 will help with a cake of some kind.

Then we will go for a walk to feed the ducks.
Perfect.

Oh and if possible a lay in past 5

Oh and dd1 school had a Mother's Day sale and DH gives her a couple of quid to spend there.
Last year was a photos frame and little heart chocolates. I loved them because I knew she had chosen them

Ordinarily I would completely go along with the sentiment of not really being fussed about the general crap in the shops for Mother's Day.
However this year is my first as a single parent and my kids (age 9&5) will be at their Dads house over this weekend so I won't even get to see them, never mind get any form of card, naff gift or droopy flowers. It's the first time I really wish I could have any of that stuff.
I'll be taking my sad self off to work instead to try and forget it's Mother's Day.

We take a collection of things to church on Mothers day, via out Scout group, and Women's Aid collect them to forward to their ladies, so technically I am not taking anything to the shelter per se.

Ah, that makes sense now, thanks. What a nice thing to do.

My ideal Mother's Day is

Breakfast in bed (croissants with butter and jam, coffee, orange juice)
A homemade card and bunch of sweaty daisies and dandelions from the garden
A family day out with a packed lunch (which I do not have to make)
A take away in the evening

Bliss!

It will (hopefully) be my first mothers day being 40+4 I'm fed up grumpy and want this lazy baby out!
On the other side, I once bought my mother a vat of slug pellets for her allotment as that's what she wanted. This year it's a trowel 😂.....

My eldest has bought me a pair of irregular choice shoes for Mother's Day.

I brought her up well

AlI ever asked my kids for on mother's day was for them to have a day without argument. Occasionally I got it. They've now all left home and I'll miss them, well 2 of them who have their own families, the 3rd will be here for a free meal.