AIBU re alcohol

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My DH has drank 3 pints of lager and large red wine tonight. I think this is a lot considering the kids were up and I wasn't drinking. We had been driving last night. AIBU in thinking it's a lot?

Sorry, can you explain what you mean by 'the kids were up and I wasn't drinking'? I mean in terms of what that has to do with him having a drink?

Also, what does driving last night have to do with him drinking tonight?

No, imo that's not a great deal of alcohol for a Saturday night.

*drinking last night not driving

Doesn't seem excessive to me for a Saturday night but I do like a drink (when not pregnant!)

Seems ok for a Saturday night

Oh I see. I'm still not sure why drinking on a Friday night would mean that 3 pints of lager and a red wine on a Saturday night is excessive.

Does he have to get up early in the morning and drive somewhere?

Drinking on a Friday night and then a Saturday? And that amount? I wouldn't worry

Is this going to be a drip feed that he does this all the time?

Are you suggesting it would be OK if you were drinking?

Seems fine to me.

Nothing wrong with that. I often have more than that of a weekend. And in the week.

Yeah seems fine to me too. Unless there's more to it.

My OH drinks most nights a few drinks, and I don't drink, I am always up with the kids and they don't sleep very well, I would only see it as a problem if it was causing an issue like he was hungover the next day and you couldn't all go and do anything? Or if he turned into a pig when he has a drink? But a couple like that on a sat night whilst the kids are in bed, normal life I am afraid

No biggie. 3 lagers and a wine. Not like it was a bottle of vodka. I'm guessing he had a lager early if kids were still up, so over 5/6 hrs. No, not a problem. But that's IMHO

In the absence of any other information it seems fine to me.

Beer before wine feeling fine

Beer before wine feeling fine
Wine after beer...oh dear

A Saturday night? Meh. Doesn't seem a lot to me either. Presuming you don't have to be anywhere tomorrow morning...

If he was drinking the same last night and this is a regular thing, then it sounds like he's generally drinking more than is recommended from a health stand point. Whether it's too much in a social sense depends on how he behaves after that much alcohol, whether you can afford it, how it will impact the family tomorrow, etc. But just drinking that much isn't going over some hard line that he simply shouldn't do.

I also think that is fine but I'm waiting for the all alcohol is an abomination brigade to start up and I find those comments amusing

Unless you mean three pints of lager and three pints of red wine...

How much wine?

Oh okay, a large red wine. It's quite a bit - probably 9 units? It's not ridiculous as a weekly effort.

That's a lot if it's a regular thing. If it's once every few weeks or so absolutely fine.

YABU. Unless he's falling down the stairs or stumbling drunk, it seems like a reasonable amount for a Saturday....

No it's fine and normal.

It would be too much to have every night, but a couple of times per week? Pretty modest tbh.

How are any of you seeing this as not a lot? That IS a lot to have in one night! Especially after drinking similar the night before, its verging on binge drinking, why can people never have just one?