I've watched pausingFlatly's links and oh my golly good god, I'm a bit speechless. I had them on in the background whilst cleaning and tidying up.
He is a man who is so needy it's untrue. First pod goes through his childhood, second one the result of it. He reminds me of an ex of mine from a long time ago who was definitely a sociopath. Always having to win, always having to be right, keeping score of anything that might affect him, never forgetting a person who says or does something wrong to him and paying them back even years later, being unable to show empathy, being unable to accept disagreement... the list is endless. A very very damaged individual.
Well worth listening to, thanks Pausing. 