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To ask how often you do 'it' if married with kids?

124 replies

Ibloodyhatethomasthetankengine · 15/12/2016 19:27

Just that.

DH and I are pretty lazy in this respect nowadays. Just wondered what other people's 'normal' is?

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Ohdearducks · 15/12/2016 19:30

I don't know to be honest, every few weeks on average? Far too tired for anything more than that, he does love a cuddle to go off to sleep though which is sweet.Grin

thecatsarecrazy · 15/12/2016 19:33

Twice in 7 months. Pregnant and totally not up for it

Ibloodyhatethomasthetankengine · 15/12/2016 19:35

That's actually twice more than I managed cats when pg with DS..... That was a loooong 40 weeks for DH.

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thelostboy · 15/12/2016 19:36

Roughly every 28 days. When her hormones overcome our exhaustion. Sad

iamadaftcoo · 15/12/2016 19:37

God not much at the moment (10mo). Maybe 2/3 times a month?

luckylucky24 · 15/12/2016 19:38

Once a week at best when the DC's are in bed.

smEGGnogg · 15/12/2016 19:39

The whole act? At least once a week. Can be 2/3 times.

Usually fill in the gaps with a quick fumble.

stopgap · 15/12/2016 19:39

4-5 times a week. More like 3 times a week if his workload is heavy and he arrives back later than his usual 8pm.

Laiste · 15/12/2016 19:39

2 or 3 times a week. Come what may. Or i go a bit funny.

Grin
Mitfordhons · 15/12/2016 19:39

Most days, they're teens now so not so exhausting the downside is we have to be very quiet.

Stillwishihadabs · 15/12/2016 19:39

3-4 times a month, it's been the same for years except when ttc

AndShesGone · 15/12/2016 19:43

Kids gone to uni so every week. We never did it with them in the house. Got some shags when they went out as they got older though.

JC23 · 15/12/2016 19:43

Twice a week

Schmoochypoos · 15/12/2016 19:45

About once a week. Less when the youngest was still bf and I was up with him in the night

KayTee87 · 15/12/2016 19:45

Have a 4& a half month old baby (had bad stitches and heavy bleeding for 6 weeks pp) and have only had sex 3 times since he was born. Twice in the past fortnight though - once a week would suit me fine TBH.

missyB1 · 15/12/2016 19:46

About twice a week, I know that sounds a cliche but it literally is how often we do it. Used to be a lot more but we've had a stressful year and we are both knackered.

FrankAndBeans · 15/12/2016 19:46

4-5 times a week.

TheBadgersMadeMeDoIt · 15/12/2016 19:48

Once or twice a month at most. It's not the presence of DC that's a problem - she could sleep through an earthquake. It's the sheer lack of energy. Can barely summon the oomph to climb the stairs these days.

MrGrumpy01 · 15/12/2016 19:49

I have a child with asd, he is never asleep before me and when he is awake is noisily roaming the house.

Take from that what you want.

Ibloodyhatethomasthetankengine · 15/12/2016 19:52

Xmas Shock at those of you 4-5 times a week. I had no idea you existed outside of movies and TV

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thegirlinthecar · 15/12/2016 19:55

Twice a week on average . It's the most I can manage when dcs still wake up so much at night

Smartleatherbag · 15/12/2016 19:57

Do it? How coy!
Not often. Both on libido killing meds.

iamadaftcoo · 15/12/2016 19:59

We never did it with them in the house.

Not even when they were babies?

MrsMattBomer · 15/12/2016 20:01

We're married for 23 years and have 15 year old twins.

Probably three times a week on average? DP works away 6 months of the year so we tend to make it count when he's at home.

Ibloodyhatethomasthetankengine · 15/12/2016 20:02

how coy

I know Smart! No idea what the kids are calling it these days......

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