To ask how often you do 'it' if married with kids?

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Just that.

DH and I are pretty lazy in this respect nowadays. Just wondered what other people's 'normal' is?

DS is 15 months. Haven't had sex for 16 months

We probably DTD 2/3 times a week but then we can have times where it's 1/2 times a fortnight. I am 23, he is 30.

Usually once every couple of days... Sometimes more...

My husband doesn't get that he's lucky... He thinks it's completely the norm to have sex at least once a day. We have three children including a baby.

5/6 times a week.

Once a day, Unicorn?

Is he a horny 18-year-old?

Or Italian?

We do it a lot. Tonight my ds basically told me he hears me and my dp. He is 14. I told him that can't possibly be true as we aren't married. He said Mum you clearly don't care about that.

So I told him to mind his own beeswax.

I hate these threads.

I haven't had sex with my husband for over 2 years. I just don't think he likes me anymore. Before that it was probably about once a year.

Been married 7 years, two DC aged 5 and 7 and I'm 44.

Utterly depressed now

Mistress that made me laugh! He can act like an 18 year old sometimes.

He really doesn't get that people are busy... Or uninterested... Or just have better things to be doing.

He honestly thinks that EVERYONE is at it like rabbits! He doesn't believe me when I tell him otherwise.

Unicorn- show him this thread

woof I feel your pain. It's a horrible place to be in.

At least one a week.
We have 5 kids.
Sex is really important in my relationship.

I'm 37, been married 7 years, together 13.

Thanks play
I think of divorce daily.
Anyway won't detail thread.
Happy bonking everyone

About five times a week on average I'd say.

I feel like our sex life gets better the older we get. In our thirties now and been together since fifteen. We are more adventurous and know what we like so enjoy it more. Now the kids are all in their own rooms, aren't babies and sleep through the night, it's easier.

Oh and since he had a vasectomy it's become more regular. As falling pregnant again really freaked me out because I'd fell pregnant with the pill and patch.

Hardly ever :( I'm 39, dp is 40.
Were both on medication for anxiety ( him ) and mine is too long to list!
He's been taking the medication for around
2 years, sex drive was low but looking back it always has been, it's like he's just not interested:(

My libido has suddenly woken up and I'm very aware of how messed up our situation is, I feel massively rejected.

Sorry if tmi but the problem over the last 6 months or so is that he has to "finish himself off " and then I feel worse.
He said he will go the doctors but he won't.

Sorry for derail!!!

I was in a no sex, no intimacy relationship for years, and it was awful. I wish I'd got out much sooner than I did.

DP and I are very close on an intimate level, so when sex is not on the cards for either of us, we are still intimate, sleep naked for example or cuddle. We have sex most evenings, be that a quick one or a longer more sensual one (multiple activity ;) )

We also do it during the day on occasion, in fact a few weeks ago we spent all day in bed and had a dominos :) was brilliant and both felt like naughty teenagers (own our own companies so we can take time out if we need too)

Two DC, have a lock on the bedroom door and have learnt how to be quiet :)

But... we did have a dry spell after miscarriage number 6, I was terrified of getting pregnant, and another loss. We still remained intimate and honestly I think that's the most important thing. If you love your partner and your close then it doesn't matter how often your having sex.

I another one who is utterly depressed at this. My relationship is so broken and has been for so long. We used to do it about quarterly but that was only when I got to the point of crying about the fact we have no sex life. I decided to try to take the pressure off and not mention it and it would appear we don't have sex at all now.

Whenever we get a lie in together, once or twice a week. We are too lazy to do it at night, although I would have initiated it sometimes when TTC.

2-6 times a week. We don't have a tv though

I'm 34, he's 37. Been together 13 years, married for 10. Kids are 9, 3, and 1.5

However it's kind of the only intimacy we have and are currently in counseling to address it.

2 DCs together 6 years. Don't do it for 2 weeks then everyday for a week (hormones) that's just the way it's been since having children. Works for us

PiV never - I got pregnant the last three times (was ttc each time) and my youngest is 9. A mutual fumble 1-2 times a year. PIV never really "worked" for us - well except for getting pregnant when it worked very well! Like some others though I enjoy a bit of non-PIV when we do it but never actually have any interest before we start. DH also has low libido but not as low as mine.

Penguin that's a very good point. We don't have sex that often. But we cuddle, kiss, tell each other we love each other and fancy each other, so we still feel close most importantly we discuss it and if one of us fancies it we do it. I'm not unhappy with our situation. Which is very different to feeling rejected and unloved.

For the first 6 months of our relationship before we lived together, every day and was fantastic. After that his libido seemed to decrease and it was 2-3 a week for the next couple of years. For the past few years (been together 10 years now), it went down further, to now about once every month or two and only ever if I initiate. Not ideal!