Not wanting to socialise on holiday..

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Being on holiday and wanting to rest and recharge, not make friends with every other holiday maker staying at our resort/hotel etc!

Yanbu, I've never spoken to anyone on holiday apart from good morning or nodding

I hear you. Just because we're both disappointed in the standard of tea bags doesn't mean we've bonded. I don't want you to seek me out round the pool and tell me your life story.

I know someone who went to the extent of pretending not to be English to avoid the dreaded holiday friend.

For sure. I can barely tolerate the people I do know, I can't be doing with getting to know more.

get your resting bitch face on and they'll leave you alone

I've never made holiday friends

DP loves making friends in the bar on holiday. I sit there like this --->

YANBU.
I don't socialize much at home so I'll be damned if I'm going to spoil a holiday by talking to people.

This is why we go to slightly obscure places with very few other British tourists . Or rent a private villa.

Mind you, I did make friends with Bruce Foxton from The Jam one holiday, back in my youth when I was more sociable.

I'm the same. Extremely sociable at home but cba on holiday.

I know a few folks though who seemingly make new bffs on holiday with the obligatory weekends away together back in Blighty.

I just don't have the energy for that.

ExP was a nightmare for this. He was always a really sociable person but we'd be away as a couple getting quality time, and he'd happily spend hours at the bar chatting to randomners, and then come back and whinge that I was reading/listening to music and not particularly keen on listening to his drunken ramblings!

YANBU. Holidays are for relaxing, not chatting to strangers!

Hell is other people especially on holiday! All inclusive would be my nightmare, I am shuddering just thinking about it.

All inclusive would be my nightmare fair enough, but not sure what that has to do with anything?

Most places don't allocate a share dining table with your fellow guests. Some even allow you to leave the resort during the day and go exploring the country you are in. Really, they do!

This made me laugh. My mum was just saying the other day how she dreaded our holidays as I would always make friends with some children and then would make our parents all sit together for the rest of the holiday!

DP is warned not to give our address, email or phone number to anyone we meet on holiday. He's a sociable soul. I'm not.

We avoid hotels abroad for this exact reason.

I'm so glad I'm not on my own on this one

Perhaps all inclusive is believed to extend to a compulsory new friends package too, currentlyunavailable

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My PILs always come back from holiday with the entire life story of whoever was in the caravan next to them. Last year they happened to meet some person who works at the same (huge) company as me. They told me all about her and seemed confused as to why I wasn't more impressed/interested. Lord knows what personal information about us they passed on to this stranger.

They always ask who we met on holiday and are surprised when we say "no one, we go on holiday to spend time as a family".

YANBU. I end up making small talk with the DC's new best mates parents. DH never does as he is very antisocial. We go camping for cheapness and most people on family campsites are really friendly. DH just fusses with the tent while I field the friendly chatting before we head out for the day.

I am the same and so is my DP.
My ex loved talking to everyone. We even went camping for a weekend once and he got talking to half the people on the camp site, which meant I had to be vaguely friendly when they came over to our tent to chat. So glad DP is anti social.

I think it depends. If they are the sort of over the top, dominate every conversation, let me tell you my life story, lets be besties even though we don't know each other type then YANBU at all.

However, if they are friendly, understand that conversation is a 2 way street and don't expect to spend every moment of the holiday with you then maybe worth a shot.

Unfortunately, in my experience the former tend to outnumber the latter so best to proceed with caution and have an escape plan in place!!

YANBU at all. Dh was getting friendly with people on our honeymoon!!! don't think so, dear.

Yanbu, of course. My mother has appalling form for this. I once went with her and my father to an uninhabited island off the west coast of Ireland (where you hike to the far side of the island for a wonderful view and good whale watching), dropped behind to look at something by myself, and when I caught back up to my parents, my mother had picked up a German backpacker and shown such a great interest in this woman's itinerary around Europe that she stuck to us like glue for the entire six miles walk across the island showing us her photos ('Here am I with ze Blarney Stone. Here I am at Madame Tussauds. Here I am again at Madame Tussauds with Michael Jackson') despite me saying 'WELL, we must let you get on!' In the end, I said 'Look, we'd like to go on by ourselves', and my mother was horror struck.

I'm the same. I just can't be arsed at all.

My parents go on cruises where they sit you at tables of 8 for dinner. Horror.

My folks went on a cruise and relished dining with the same people three times a day for the week. Fucking nightmare imo.

I do not like to make small talk or try and establish temporary friendships.

Go somewhere popular with Swedes and Germans. Lovely to holiday with, vair civilised and quiet but not sniffy. They keep themselves to themselves and the hotel will have good bread, even in Asia.