Not wanting to socialise on holiday..

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Being on holiday and wanting to rest and recharge, not make friends with every other holiday maker staying at our resort/hotel etc!

I went on holiday to (a slightly downmarket resort) in the Maldives a few years ago where you were assigned a table for 4 with another couple and expected to sit there for the entire week. My worst nightmare.
We would sneak into the restaurant, see if they were there and if so, go and have a drink while waiting for them to leave. A few times we were caught out, we thought they were gone and sat down for dinner only for them to reappear. Honestly, we spent most of the day dreading dinner and strategising about how to avoid or dining companions. Total fucking (first world) nightmare.

' Hoping no one feels sorry for me and tries to start a conversation because I'm very content sitting here alone.'

Too true - people feel sorry for you - they don't get that you want to be alone!

DH's family do this all the time - I'm fine sitting staring into space for two seconds, thank you very much.

I can relate!! Sometimes socializing is just too much work. I like to relax on vacation.

Who said it is morally superior?

It's just a social preference, surely?

YANBU. We are happy to be polite and exchange the odd comment, but don't want to hang around chatting with people every day. We usually self-cater, so not an issue anyway, but on honeymoon we decided to go to a hotel to be a bit special. It was beautiful but the hotel insisted on sitting us for dinner on the first night with another honeymoon couple (wtf?!) so they told us all about their wedding in minute by minute detail, complete with sick-making nicknames for each other and insisted on showing us their wedding album (it was 15 years ago) I mean who takes their wedding album on honeymoon?! We went without pudding to escape and made up for it with pina-colladas (that's not spelt right is it) in the beach-bar. Not a great start, but the rest was lovely though we did spend a lot of time hiding

We generally keep ourselves to ourselves on holiday, and have managed this quite successfully on all inclusive holidays - in fact I can t understand why your board basis has any bearing on chatting to other guests?

But like a previous poster, i recall a fairly expensive Maldives Holiday, when we had to share a dinner table with another couple every night for a fortnight. We hated it, and am at a loss to understand why this is done?

I don't mind chatting to other people on holiday and have even kept in touch with people I've met afterwards.

I also like reading in peace and managed to do both on my last all inclusive holiday.

I thought my marriage might not last the honeymoon when we went to dinner the first day. There were tables within touching distance either side. Think 1950's Butlins. I can laugh now - 13 years on - especially as DW insisted we moved.

I kept out of the way being feeble and panicking about telling DM of marriage failure

We've just come back from a holiday. DD is far more sociable than me and made lots of friends whilst there, whom we spent some time with. Either on holiday or not I like to be with other people less than 20% of the time as I find people quite draining, especially people I don't know.

On this last holiday I wanted far more time alone whereas dd attached herself to various families and even stalked some of them. She's very headstrong and confident and there is no getting away from her. I found it embarrassing.

We keep to ourselves. DH won't book all inclusive for this reason and if we go to a cottage or a villa it has to be on its own - not one of those that comes in a group.
My folks once met a couple on their hols - the couple didn't give them their home phone numbers but mum managed to track them down by the description / location of their house - and popped in to say hello

We hate being sociable on holiday too. Even our boys (4 and 7) only want to play with us and each other. We camp sometimes, and avoid any campsite which mentions a 'clubhouse' or 'entertainment'. We stayed on a campsite once which was a field and a portaloo, and only around 6 other tents. The people next to us clearly wanted to be friends. Poor them. My husband commented that if I had said 'I don't want to talk to you' it would have been more subtle then my (lack of) responses to their attempts at conversation.....

I hate this. As would DP. We are just back from France and were practically the only English people at the pool. It was great.

I don't think AI is downmarket - Club Med is AI and it's pretty expensive.

My mum is a chatter. Drives me mad.

Actually I suppose the times we have socialised on holiday have been while camping in the UK. Helping each other out with tent problems in heaving rain/howling gales can do that sometimes Also the whole carting washing up across the field thing to stand in a queue for the sinks does sort of lend itself to chatting too. Now I'm wondering if we are the people everyone is trying to avoid

My mum was just saying the other day how she dreaded our holidays as I would always make friends with some children and then would make our parents all sit together for the rest of the holiday!

Yes. I encourage DS to play with other kids, but it's to leave me alone, not for me to bond with their parents.

I'm quite proud in having succeeded to get rid of a limpet kid that hung around us all the time on the beach, sitting on my chair (Lweji doesn't share chairs she has carried all the way from the car).

Books and MNetting on phone work quite well.

"My parents go on cruises where they sit you at tables of 8 for dinner. Horror." What fresh hell IS this!

I never knew holiday friends was even a thing. Clearly I have one of those very unapproachable faces where no one has ever attempted to talk to me whilst on holiday. DH is quite quiet too so no worries with him bringing back randoms either. Standing with your arms folded looking slightly unfriendly probably keeps them away too .

We were sat on a table of 8 for our cruise last year & it was fine. You're only together about an hour and a half - and it every night. Sit down, exchange pleasantries about your day, bit of small talk (no 'getting in') then part ways until same time tomorrow.

We were on our own this year & missed it a bit. We had to earwig other conversations instead

And not every night

It is just a social preference but read the thread and see if you can catch the whiff of the superiority complex?

Nope, sorry. Can't see it. Not sure the complex is with others, tbh...

I'm quite happy to chat for a couple of hours during a trip. I've even been known to go to dinner with a complete stranger I met while travelling alone. But, with the implicit assurance that we don't exchange contact numbers or have to reconnect the next day.

I really don't like making friends on holiday, two years ago on holiday a family tried to talk to my family and actually walked away when they realised we were Scouse suppose people stereotyping helps at times!

I'm on holiday to relax and get away from everything not feel pressured to socialise

I don't mind making smAll talk for 10min or so but its my holiday, I don't want to waste it talking to randoms. Unfortunately my DS is Mr sociable and insists we go out with his new Best mates family in the evening. He's an only child so you feel duty bound to indulge

I work in a job where I have to talk to people all day so making polite conversation on holiday is my idea of hell! It's strictly time for me, DH and DC as we get so little of it. I hope I'm not actively rude though!

I'm clearly in the minority here as I do enjoy meeting new people and chatting - I'm not talking about becoming best mates and going out for meals together but I happy to chat at the bar or on a boat trip etc. My DH is a miserable sod though and never bothers to make any effort (and then he wonders why he doesn't make any friends ).