Not wanting to socialise on holiday..

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Being on holiday and wanting to rest and recharge, not make friends with every other holiday maker staying at our resort/hotel etc!

My favourite holiday destination is a place where virtually all the holidaymakers are native to the country.

1. No prejudice I've noticed towards Brits because there haven't been enough to make themselves unpopular
2. Any conversations are generally reasonably short due to the language difficulties and there is no expectation we will be other than ships passing in the night.
3. Communications are invariable friendly with lots of smiles and goodwill

Yanbu I don't speak to anyone either, I'm not there to make 'friends'
I do have a friend though who seems to collect 'friends' whenever she goes on holiday!!!!

Never tried to make pals on holiday and never been comfortable with small talk. Set out to holiday with partner, and spend all the time with him. However,, have met some interesting people on holiday that if we lived nearer to them I'm sure we'd get on.

We have always had holidays where it was 'us'. We aren't rude but didn't get involved in holday friendships or more than polite conversation or seeing friends (we have stayed in a part of France a number of times and got to know a few people). We have just been back to the French village with DS (his first holiday at 20m) and everybody speaks to you when you have a baby. People think it is reasonable to wander up on the beach and sit near you with their baby and get chatting, talk to you in cafes and restaurants, shops, when you are out on walks. DH - who is besotted with DS and can't resist any chance to talk about him- has enjoyed it all and we have come back with photos of DS and us with strangers and their children, some swopped email addresses so we can email people photos and they can email theirs to us and an invitation to York for a weekend.

Oh you lovely, lovely, people. I feel I've found my true tribe. If we ever meet on holiday I'll give the cheery wave and 'hello' and keep right on walking - the same that I would receive from you without worrying about hours of ear bending. Thank you - you are my holiday soul mates.

We met a lovely family on holiday and my dh ended up as one of the child's tutor when we returned, we are huge friends and visit each other regularly.
The dc attend the same school now, yet the family live a good 2 hours away from us.
We will be friends for life now, it's amazing what friendships you find in the least obvious places.
We spend alot of time together though and only one works, so we are happy to chat with others and don't get the holiday stress that we see others get who only have 2 weeks holiday/ annual leave.
That must be horrible and maybe I'd not want to talk to others either.

So if most of the posters here are fellow antisocial fuckers, who are all the hangers on?

Laiste

Breaking news: Internet forum disproportionately frequented by unsociable people

Omg just seen this thread and totally agree op.

We once were hounded by these bloody Germans, man woman and child just because the child was dds age. Dd disliked her as she was a brat.

They sat at our table and obviously spoke perfect English and were total pains. They were the pool game types actually winning rosettes for competitions.

It all came to a terrible halt when dad mentioned that he felt it was terrible that SS 'soldiers' were shot on sight by British troops if they discovered their identity.

That conversation ended badly and they moved tables. Dh is Jewish.

We go away to get away not socialise

Yanbu. We always get a cottage, the idea of a holiday park fills both of us with dread.
Ds wants to go camping but DP won't consider anywhere where there might be loads of people.

Topical thread for me. We are non holiday socialisers but house swapping - in the friendliest country on earth. How to break it to Dh that I have accepted an invite to all American brunch from our house swappers friends? I will have to get him drunk before I break this to him...

I have to be honest I think people that make friends with people every time they go on holiday are weird and a bit desperate. Relax and enjoy ur family or your book. That's a real holiday not having to listen to your new mate Susan who you'll never see again!

I need those rare holiday conversations with other people to feed my soul.

This is what bothers me about holiday chatters.

It's a shame that your soul isn't fed enough, but it's not my job to feed it!

*just using this post as an example.

You can see chatters sitting there eagerly desperately smiling, trying to catch your eye so they can pounce.

I'm not your friend. Do one.

I'm a non-holiday-sociability person (as I said earlier on the thread) but would never pour scorn on people who are more outgoing/friendly than me nor judge them as somehow needy or desperate .

My ideal holiday scenario is for other youngsters to make friends with my kids so that I get an extra bit of p&q. Pefect.

I have hearing problems after meningitis, so it's sign language for me and that usually scares the hi de hi's right off!

I can hear enough to get me by, but I'm totally lost where there is any background noise or multiple convos going on. But other than that I'm fine!

Even before I got sick I couldn't be bothered making small talk. I think it's an Introvert gene or something. But each to their own and all that.

Enjoy all your hols you folk!

Yanbu. I'm definitely private and only like to socialise with people I choose to be with. Although saying that, I met dh on a holiday (while staying in a hostel) and loved making 'friends' when I travelled on my own. However, recently I have had to endure holiday with in-laws 😠 who don't go beyond very dull small talk and spend time babying then telling off dcs. Now that's not fun.

We rarely holiday as too many animals at home. We have come away for a few days as a relative is letting us use their static caravan. Other half has stayed behind as he's working and looking after the animals. His idea of spending a few days just with us is his idea of a nightmare. He'd love to chat to other people and make friends. As for us...I've obviously brought up antisocial children as my oldest was cross when some children in the pool asked him his name. Then back at the caravan children were playing outside and they all moaned at how noisy they were and can't I tell them to be quiet!

Depends on your age . The older I get , the worse I become for bothering . Having said that if you do meet like mindeds , it can mean you don't have to talk to D H . Always a bonus.

Laiste When I think of all the very sociable people I know, they wouldn't even think to join a forum so this is an introverts paradise

Ahhhh I totally sympathise! I hate hate hate making friends in my own country let alone somewhere else! (But I obviously love all of you gorgeous ladies, mama solidarity, woo!)

Yanbu, I am visually iimpaired and have had a pretty interesting life apparently... I also travel on my own and look very young. I used to be very open, but am finding it harder to repeat things as the years go by.

I do humanitarian work in very challenging places and most just can't relate anyway.

I don't mind it. But I have reached the age where I feel comfortable intimating that we'd rather be on our own and tough shit if folk feel offended

DH will talk to anyone and everyone. I could nip to the loo in a bar and return to find him yakking away. We've made some really good friends that way (on holiday) some who we still holiday with and loads we keep in touch with. I quite love this about him. Million miles away from an ex who was so fucking insular he could have modelled lagging

Dh is very sociable. I'm not anti sociable but find it tires me out. We have two kids with autism so I generally just want peace and quiet. I think it's nice if you meet people who you genuinely get on with but not chat for the sake of it. Dh will talk to anyone. It drives me mad as everything takes three times as long as he's off chatting.

Hmm, this thread is bringing some memories, normally I don't mind talking to people but I dread chatty BB owners and waiters that talk non stop.

I know they are trying to be friendly, but if you are paying to have a meal out and have not invited them to sit at your table, why on Earth do they think they can join the conversation and not allow you some time on your own at all?

YANBU, I'm in Zakynthos at the moment. Dh is knackered so has gone up to our room. The DC are all hanging out with their new friends.
I'm sitting with a glass of wine, mumsnet and my best resting bitch face. Hoping no one feels sorry for me and tries to start a conversation because I'm very content sitting here alone

I'm in the same place 😀. I've avoided the best bitch faces so far jjacobb

I'm normally the most socialable person ever. For 2 weeks, I'm on relax mode and if I can avoid talking I will. I won't be ignorant. It is normally quite obvious those that wish to be left alone.