Not wanting to socialise on holiday..

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Being on holiday and wanting to rest and recharge, not make friends with every other holiday maker staying at our resort/hotel etc!

I'm happy to chat and exchange pleasantries. I can even cope with spending half a day chatting to people if we're all doing an activity together (and the people who do things like boat rides really push to get some group camaradie going). But once that's over, a polite 'nice meeting you' type comment and off you go. I would HATE to then arrange to spend the day together, or meet up each evening.

Please tell me there's a happy medium somewhere.
That some people just have a brief chat and move on??!!
Definitely. We had a nice 5 min chat with another family when we got to the bar, then got drinks and sat separately

We both work f/t and have separate time-consuming hobbies at weekends, so holidays are very much an opportunity for quality time together, just the two of us.

I don't mind chatting to local people, to learn about the area and culture but no way do I want to talk to Bill & Maureen from Derby who , after a few beers, will bend your ear about how "that Nigel Farage should be Prime Minister", so we tend to avoid places which are full of British tourists.

We went to the Basque Country last year. No other Brits anywhere. Bliss.

and actually walked away when they realised we were Scouse

Oh, that's useful to know! Up, the accent and, voila, they'll disappear.

I dont get to visit the beach very often. The last time I found a gorgeous isolated spot, did some beach combing and had a sit down to listen to the waves and decompress. And an entire family trudged up and annouced they were sitting next to me to keep me company. I could have cried.

I'm currently agonising over next year, ds (an only) is at an age where he needs to be doing stuff, his ideal would be an all singing hotel with clubs/slides etc. The thought brings me out in a cold sweat, I'm just not sure I could do it.

Is he old enough to send to PGL or equivalent? This what my parents did. Send me to do fun things, they'd spend a week doing grown up things.

jelli that is awful!!

YANBU. I don't make eye contact with anyone in case they try to speak to me.

I agree with Ragwort

I'm finding some of the responses on this thread incredibly depressing.

We are quite anti social on holiday, like doing our own thing. But a couple of years ago we were going to Santorini, staying over in London the night before. We kept bumping into a couple in the hotel, in the lift etc and saw them at airport next day. Turned out they were on our flight. Both hubby's got chatting (worked in same industry) and hubby ended up inviting them to join us on boat we had chartered for one of the days. It actually ended up fantastic. Saw them a couple of times during the holiday and again at the airport on the way home where we parted ways with 'lovely meeting you'. The rest of the time we were there we were back to being our anti social selves.

So no not in the least unreasonable.

Hi. I talk on the phone all day so I like peace and quiet. Kids on the water slides with their cousins, me and sister in law at a the bar or we have our headphones on and ignore everyone!. I never tell anyone I'm a travel agent as you always get someone quizzing you on prices and then tell you my holiday was only£300 bla bla bla! Yeah righto when I paid £700😅😅

Not for me.

The thought of making fake holiday friends makes me want to vom!!

To me it stinks of couples/families who don't really want to spend time with their supposed love ones.

I'm like this! Happy to make small chit chat for a few mins but don't want to spend time with anyone, make friends, share experiences. Socialising isn't relaxing for me and a holiday is for relaxing. I just want to be with my family.. But I get why people think differently! I think I must give this away in my face because hardly anyone chats to me

I'm finding some of the responses on this thread incredibly depressing.

You never heard of introverts?

There's being an introvert and being positively hostile to anyone outside your immediate circle. I think those two things are different.

Who's hostile?

Most introverts do not easily allow people from outside their circle in, and certainly don't want to spend lots of time socialising with people they don't know. Particularly when their jobs and day to day lives already involve contact with people. They rest away from people.
What's so odd about that?

We go on holiday regularly to a resort popular with Brits and English speakers. However the resort isn't a fry up and karaoke type place if you see what I mean. We have struck up friendships with people we met out there. Some we stay in touch with throughout the year but the vast majority we'd have a 5min chat with most days and at the end of the holiday say 'maybe we'll see you next summer'. My oh loves to make friends and can barely go anywhere without knowing someone or discovering a mutual friend. He cannot help himself. I am happy chatting to familiar faces but I don't want to be eating meals with 'new friends' he met 5mins ago. I'm also happy to tag along and join in a conversation with randoms politely, but will excuse myself as soon as possible. Since having children I am more happy to chat tho. I don't get any peace anyway and at home I mostly speak to fellow parents, so nice to speak to someone who isn't so and so's mum. That said we do try, when money and time permits, try to get a weekend away, just us and will rent somewhere in the middle of nowhere. Which is less idyllic with toddlers

I am not an introvert (I don't think).

But like most couples in their 40s - we have a huge number of friends, all of whom make demands on our time (and us on theirs).

We have friends from school, uni, work, sports and those we've met through the children' school.

It's a blessed relief to go away and not have to be quite as sociable!

Glad to people actively dislike making friends- I was starting to think we were giving off bad vibes. I know a couple of people who make oodles of friends on holidays and always feel there must be something wrong with us.

We haven't managed to make in 9 years of holidays. Thought having dc would help, but no. Turns out they're pretty anti social little buggers who don't really get how to meet other kids. Did get on nodding.g/smil i Ng/ pleasantries terms with a Russian fAmily this year though, and I made a friend on the plane home.

BennyTheBall

Not saying all are introverts, but surely that's a group of people who aren't particularly sociable and need time alone. So, it should surprise some people that others will avoid strangers on holiday.

Ups, not surprise.

Yanbu and for some reason I put holiday friends in the same category as all inclusive.

It's not all inclusive thing. We've done it 4 times no one spoke to us. Did caravan park in Cornwall which was even worse though: parents sitting in a dark, noisy room, staring dead eyed at the stage, where dcs jacked up on slashes refused to leave the mini disco.

I like making chit chat around the pool and maybe the occasional, "come to this bar- it's great!" With people but that's as far as it goes. I tend to let them invite as I'm not really into doing it myself.

I'm not hostile I get social anxiety I'm allowed to not make myself feel uncomfortable by talking to complete strangers about nothing in particular