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He said her kids would die

116 replies

Sandbrook · 02/05/2016 20:23

If she didn't give him a BJ last night.
Friends husband. She asked what I thought, she's unsure what to think herself. When she questioned him, he laughed and said he was joking.
She's mulling over it now and that's why she rang me.
I told her I thought he was a prize dick. He's a nice man, so this is out of character in my opinion and not something he would use as emotional blackmail though. She agrees but ended conversation not feeling any better about it

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Goingtobeawesome · 02/05/2016 20:26

OMG. I despair of some women.

ArmySal · 02/05/2016 20:27

Yeah that's not odd at all... Confused

EvansAndThePrince · 02/05/2016 20:27
Shock He obviously doesn't have kids if he thinks that an okay "joke".
DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 02/05/2016 20:28

OMG.I despair of some men!

JonSnowsBeardClippings · 02/05/2016 20:28

What?
He's more than a dick. He's a sexually abusive psychopath.

ThoraGruntwhistle · 02/05/2016 20:28

Hopefully there was absolutely no serious intent behind him saying it, but it really doesn't matter - what a revolting thing to say Angry

LilacSpunkMonkey · 02/05/2016 20:29

He's not a nice man.

A nice man wouldn't say that even as a joke.

He's a prick.

acasualobserver · 02/05/2016 20:29

That's pretty low. Was he drunk?

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Sandbrook · 02/05/2016 20:29

Sorry should have been clearer, they are both their kids.
And apparently his meaning was superstition rather than threat. Like that makes it better

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WonkoTheSane42 · 02/05/2016 20:29

So it was "give me a blowjob or I'll kill your kids," and she's not sure if that's okay or not? How much abuse has she already normalised to think that might be okay?

ChubbyPolecat · 02/05/2016 20:30

Wtaf

HighDataUsage · 02/05/2016 20:30

She should report him to the police on 101 for threatening her kids. Let's see if the shot finds it funny then, the nasty controlling bastard

Pinkheart5915 · 02/05/2016 20:30

He was joking Shock that is a weird sense of humour

anorakgirl · 02/05/2016 20:30

Fucks sake. And I bet she ended up giving him a blow job didn't she?

Helmetbymidnight · 02/05/2016 20:31

I'm in the 'he's a psychopath' camp.

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TheFuckersBitingMe · 02/05/2016 20:31

I'd phone the police. Joke, drunk, high as a fucking kite on Fruit Shoot, there's no justifying or explaining that sort of nonsense. Police, get it logged, get shot of them and change the locks.

AdrenalineFudge · 02/05/2016 20:31

That's a despicable thing to say. Being drunk is not an excuse imho.

expatinscotland · 02/05/2016 20:32

'He's more than a dick. He's a sexually abusive psychopath.'

This ^^.

Only1scoop · 02/05/2016 20:33

What an absolute cunt he is.

Only1scoop · 02/05/2016 20:33

Please tell me she didn't oblige

hobybabo · 02/05/2016 20:34

Of course she would have done Only Sad

Superstition?! Joke? No, sexual abuse.

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Sandbrook · 02/05/2016 20:38

Buggering fuck.
This really is so odd. They have from what I've seen a great marriage and there's never been anything untoward that I've been privy to.

So it was "give me a blowjob or I'll kill your kids,"
No, that's what I asked. He said he meant it as in "did you know if you don't the kids will die" I'm joking kind of way.

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LaConnerie · 02/05/2016 20:40

What a nasty little shit he is.

I would have fucking chopped it off.

Original poster
Sandbrook · 02/05/2016 20:40

only1scoop
No she didn't. She left the room

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Shallishanti · 02/05/2016 20:43

'from what I've seen a great marriage'....
like so many abusive relationships- everything looks OK from the outside
I bet he's really charming, kind, funny etc etc
maybe your friend is looking for some support and to hear 'actually no, that's not OK'- and then she may begin to realise there are other things that aren't OK either.