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to object to MNHQ forcing a MALE/FEMALE gender binary on my account.

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HairyLittleCarrot · 14/01/2016 11:43

I don't have any GENDER.

My MN account forces me to pick from two 'genders'.

I can't even opt out, it's a forced binary choice.

I'm not agender, pangender, cisgender, transgender, male gender, female gender or ANY GENDER.

If you want to know my sex, I am happy to provide that information. But you'll have to add that in as a field, because it doesn't exist currently.

Sex and gender are not the same thing. If you insist on collecting data by gender and making it a forced choice I would like an option as follows:

"Reject gender as a harmful, made up, bullshit concept".

Then when you analyse your account database you can say
X% identify as female gender
Y% identify as male gender
Z% reject gender as a bullshit concept.

AIBU to request MNHQ to alter my account details so that they do not misrepresent me?

OP posts:
Alisvolatpropiis · 14/01/2016 11:44

Yanbu

Samcro · 14/01/2016 11:45
Confused
littlemermaid80 · 14/01/2016 11:45
Confused
BloodyPlantagenets · 14/01/2016 11:46

Oh dear god.

Joopy · 14/01/2016 11:47

Surely it's not just mumsnet....this can't be the first time it has arisen. Does it really matter if an online forum has slightly inaccurate data on you. I have a female friend whose passport states she is male!

TheSecondViola · 14/01/2016 11:47

Yabu.

I'm so sick of this shit. The Emperor has no Gender.

HairyLittleCarrot · 14/01/2016 11:49

Thesecondviola (read the OP - gender is bullshit)

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LurkingHusband · 14/01/2016 11:50

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hazeyjane · 14/01/2016 11:50

So you would like the question to be 'what sex are you?'?

LuciaInFurs · 14/01/2016 11:51

Yanbu.

HairyLittleCarrot · 14/01/2016 11:51

Yep.
I have a sex.
I don't have a gender.

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SurferJet · 14/01/2016 11:52

Op: are you saying that people are born either male or female so there are only two sexes, & that 'gender' is the made up bullshit?

MorrisZapp · 14/01/2016 11:52

Just approach it as if it did say 'sex' . And tick the box.

Then have a nice cuppa.

Stuffofawesome · 14/01/2016 11:53

Yanbu

HairyLittleCarrot · 14/01/2016 11:53

Surferjet.
Yes. Exactly that.

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Sirzy · 14/01/2016 11:53

Bonkers!

DextersMistress · 14/01/2016 11:55

FFS it's just a word. You know what they're asking, are you a man or a woman. Why so aggressive?

ThomasRichard · 14/01/2016 11:55

Biscuit YABU for shouting over a non-issue. Reserve your energy for issues that actually matter.

SurferJet · 14/01/2016 11:55

Well then yes, I take your point.

RudeElf · 14/01/2016 11:56

YANBU.

"Surely it's not just mumsnet....this can't be the first time it has arisen."

I dont even understand what your point is with this comment. That because it happens elsewhere dont bring it up here? Confused

Why on earth wouldnt OP bring it up on a website they use?

0phelia · 14/01/2016 11:56

WTAF
YADNBU

We are being annexed by imaginary stereotyping and it is a serious matter.

UmbongoUnchained · 14/01/2016 11:56

Ergh get a fucking life.

HairyLittleCarrot · 14/01/2016 11:56

Dextersmistress
they are definitely not asking that. I'm sure they'll clarify for you.

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0phelia · 14/01/2016 11:57

MNHQ
You listen now. Gender is made up bullshit. Please respect biology.

ALemonyPea · 14/01/2016 11:57

Have a snickers, and relax.