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Original poster

To put baby in the corner?

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MissTwister · 08/11/2015 13:15

...Or more specifically in her own room before 6 months?

She keeps us awake all night with her little noises and more often than not my husband and I take it in turns to sleep in other room.

We would like to sleep in a bed together again and get some sleep but obviously don't want to put her in danger....

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IndiaRaine · 08/11/2015 13:17

We put our daughter into her room at 4.5 months. She outgrew the Moses basket and the cot wouldn't fit in our tiny room.

We used camera monitors which are excellent, and because I worried about her I woke up every couple of hours to check she was ok.

She was fine! Actually slept far better because she likes to spread out.

Seeyounearertime · 08/11/2015 13:23

She'd be fine.
Baby monitor as close to her as you can safely put it and keep vplum up on receiver etc.

IndiaRaine · 08/11/2015 13:24

We found the Motorola camera monitors really good. Very sensitive to noise, honestly we can hear every little sigh loud and clear!

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MissTwister · 08/11/2015 13:32

I don't have a camera monitor but we have a breathing and sound one.

Hadn't thought about the fact the same sounds might come through on that!

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AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 08/11/2015 13:38

I don't understand what the perceived danger is. Both DD and DS were in their own room from the day they were born. What am I missing?

MissBattleaxe · 08/11/2015 13:40

Nobody puts Baby in the Corner.

Seeyounearertime · 08/11/2015 13:40

I don't know about danger but we keptnour DD in our room for our purely selfish reasons. It's easier when they wake to turn round in bed than get up, gown on, wlk to a separate room. Lol

TuckingFablet · 08/11/2015 13:42

It's your breathing that regulates the babies. So they don't get into too deep a sleep and forget to breathe or something I think.

Archer26 · 08/11/2015 13:44

We put DS in his own room from 8 weeks. He was a noisy sleeper! We used our baby monitor but I found I'd hear him make noises the monitor didn't even pick up.

Do what works for you.

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 08/11/2015 13:45

Oh ok. I didn't know that!

minipie · 08/11/2015 13:45

The SIDS risk is reduced if they are in your room. This is NOT because you can hear them - it's something to do with your presence helping them regulate their breathing - so a good monitor does not so the same job.

That said, ours have both gone in their own room from c. 13 weeks. I couldn't sleep with their noises and had to weigh the (marginally increased) SIDS risk against the risks of having a very sleep deprived parent.

BumWad · 08/11/2015 13:45

Baby should be in your room so you can listen out for hunger cues.

Baby apparently also mimics your breathing.

It has been found to reduce the risk of SIDS.

However many people put their babies in their own rooms without any problems!

Myself and DH are like you OP in that apart from the weekend we take turns to sleep in the other room, but DS is now 24 weeks and I must say it ha gone pretty quick so you could ride it out for another couple of months?

DS was a preemie (32 weeker) and being male has an increased risk of SIDS plus I've had a stillbirth so I'm too scared to put him in his own room. Plus it's going to be another couple of months atleast until he grows out of his Snuzpod.

minipie · 08/11/2015 13:46

Cross posted with Tucking!

Seeyounearertime · 08/11/2015 13:46

www.isisonline.org.uk/where_babies_sleep/room_alone/

Interesting.

bonzo77 · 08/11/2015 13:46

Annie read up on SIDS guidelines. The theory being that the baby needs you in their room while sleeping. Your breathing and other noises help them regulate their breathing. And perhaps disturb them sufficiently that they do not sleep too deep. A baby monitor cannot do this. It also helps you respond to their needs quicker (a baby monitor can help with that).

Op the guidelines are there for a reason. There are some risks you can control (like sleeping environment) and others you cannot (undiagnosed medical conditions, socio-economic status). Increasingly I think "how would I feel if I know only took an avoidable risk and the worst happened". Admittedly this way madness lies, and I acknowledge that I am somewhat anxious about safety. Anyway, my first was in his own room from 6ish weeks. My second at 12ish. My 3rd is still in our room at 10 weeks and I have no plans to move him. He's the best sleeper of them, and probably my last, so I'm going to stretch out the baby phase for as long as possible!

NeedsAsockamnesty · 08/11/2015 13:49

I wouldn't do it but I only get to make those sorts of choices for my own babies

ANiceSliceOfCake · 08/11/2015 14:04

What happens if the baby can't actually hear you breath. My baby is a very noisy sleeper so I struggle to sleep in between night feeds. I was considering sleeping on the other side of our king size bed a his crib is literally next to my face. (DH in spare room on weekdays due to work) But would this mean he can't hear me breath, thus reducing that protective factor?

minipie · 08/11/2015 14:09

I think the protection still applies if they are in your room, they don't have to be right next to you. The scientists don't know exactly how it works, it's not quite as simple as the baby hearing you breathe (otherwise a recording of an adult breathing would have the same effect - but it doesn't)

GoblinLittleOwl · 08/11/2015 14:09

I put my children in their own rooms the night I brought them home from hospital, as did the rest of my generation. We had no bedtime or sleeping problems.

fusionconfusion · 08/11/2015 14:16

No but a lot more babies died of SIDS at a population level in previous generations. It's a small risk. Taking a child in a car is the single biggest risk to their lives statistically but we all do it. It's a matter for personal choice but the guidelines do inform us there is some evidence suggesting it might increase risk.

TowerRavenSeven · 08/11/2015 14:23

Not at all. Ds went into his own room about two weeks in, maybe less. I am a very light sleeper and I was kept awake all night as well. Ds slept better too. We had a monitor that I turned the sound off on, put it under the bed and I could still tell when the light was flashing. Dh couldn't believe it when I told him it was going off but I could. My nights got much better with baby out of our room, as inconvenient as it was I'd swap inconvenience for a bit of sleep any day.

RockinHippy · 08/11/2015 14:37

She will be fine, just follow advice as above re monitors etc for your own peace of mind

Our DD was late going into her own room due to renovation work here, she was also a very early talker.

When we did move her into her own room at 14 months - she proudly told us, WE were too noisy & she liked it better

Flossieflower01 · 08/11/2015 14:40

I couldn't knowingly increase my child's risk of cot death, even if 'little snuffles' disturbed me. It's only for a few months- surely your child's life is worth it?

TheClacksAreDown · 08/11/2015 15:03

Op I would read up very carefully on the research here before you make a decision. Multiple people who say "my baby was fine" is pretty irrelevant - the plural of anecdote is not data. Mercifully SIDS is relatively uncommon but does still happen and the risks can be managed downwards.

Moving pre 6 months does introduce a risk factor that you don't have now. That doesn't mean it is unreasonable to move her but make sure you are comfortable of the science and data so you take an informed approach.

thenewbroom · 08/11/2015 15:15

I never, ever would and don't like moving them until closer to 1. On the other hand, my baby insists on tummy sleeping and I (nervously) do that. Each to their own.

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