You do know that walking into a room and finding a baby who has died does not make a mummy martyr? What a revolting expression to use about people who have experienced loss or want to try and avoid it.
It isn't "a game", it isn't a fad (the six month guide has been around for 25 years), and how many times does someone need to shout "just because you got through unscathed doesn't mean it doesn't fucking happen"? How dare you comment, pp, on whether we are passing neurosis or anxiety onto our children by trying to make sure i never experience anything like that again. I work so hard at making sure my ghosts remain in the background, that they are allowed to fall, to have light-filled days and laughter whenever possible, even when I'm overcome by a wave of dread as they walk away at the school gate. . I know i can't protect them from everything. Don't you think i fucking know that??
You can say whatever you want, to my ears it will always sound defensive or snide.
Anyone who thinks they'll wing it is well within their rights, but don't you dare dress it up as equal to or even superior to decades of scientists trying to work out what the hell the link is.
If you had found an action that we should all stop because it increased the likelihood of babies dying, you'd be on a daytime sofa plugging the book of the film with a sad face.
Thousands of doctors, scientists, WHO personnel etc do not waste their time publishing risk factors because there's nothing better to do.
So distressed by the smug wrong footed self-justifying comments on here. Shame. On. You.