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To have blocked her off FB?

122 replies

Voovinnie · 31/08/2015 20:29

Sorry, I know lots of people cringe at the word Facebook but you don't have to know anything about it to comment, really.

Last Friday I had a miscarriage at 10+ weeks. To cut a long story short, I deleted one of my 'friends' from Facebook because she was always posting about 'need a fucking fag' and people would comment about how their midwives had told them quiting smoking would be more harm than good for their DC, or 'Me and baby girl enjoying a nice cuppa and ciggy' (She is 28 weeks pregnant).

I found her so hurtful and lots of irrational things went through my head, including "why was my baby taken from me, yet she's allowed to remain a Mother?"

Anyway, another friend of mine said I shouldn't have taken her off, and just unfollowed her so I wouldn't see her posts. Thing is though, I found her so shocking, I didn't want her there at all.

Fast forward to yesterday evening, and this is the text she sent me.
Should I have just unfollowed?

Thank you Smile

To have blocked her off FB?
OP posts:
DriverSurpriseMe · 31/08/2015 20:31

That's a despicable thing to say. Really unforgivable.

You're well rid.

Do people really post that they're enjoying a cigarette with their unborn child? Shock

whattodohatethis · 31/08/2015 20:31

What a hurtful thing for her to send. She sounds like a prize bitch

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

Welshmaenad · 31/08/2015 20:31

God no, she sounds like a cunt. Chaff from the wheat and all. So sorry about you MC Flowers

Cheesybaps · 31/08/2015 20:32

Wow, what a cunt. No, YANBU. Vile woman

Cheesybaps · 31/08/2015 20:32

And so sorry about your MC Flowers

PerpendicularVincent · 31/08/2015 20:32

YANBU, you're entitled to have or defriend whoever you like, and her text to you was vile and unkind. She's also wrong to smoke during pregnancy, and i can understand your feelings.

I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

Mintyy · 31/08/2015 20:32

You know you weren't. Why are you even asking? Don't give it another thought and perhaps choose your friends more carefully in future.

Goshthatsspicy · 31/08/2015 20:32

My god. What a prize bitch.
You have done the right thing. Flowers
I hope you find peace soon.

scarlets · 31/08/2015 20:33

She's selfish, cruel, and common. You're far better off without her in your life. But I think you know that.

mrssmith79 · 31/08/2015 20:33

What an utterly vile creature Shock
Believe me my lovely, you neither want nor need this woman in your life.
I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

monkeysox · 31/08/2015 20:34

She's a twat. Ywnbu

ginmakesitallok · 31/08/2015 20:34

I don't think I've ever read anything so hurtful, she's is vile alnd ignorant and Yanbu.

JeffsanArsehole · 31/08/2015 20:34

Yanbu to delete her off Facebook, it's your Facebook

You are unreasonable to argue over text
You are unreasonable to judge her on the smoking so much

smellsofelderberries · 31/08/2015 20:35

I'm so sorry for your loss. She sounds like an utter cunt. I wouldn't bother talking to her ever again.

SaucyJack · 31/08/2015 20:35

I hope for your sake you've made this up.

yummumto3girls · 31/08/2015 20:36

Shocking!! You don't need to have anything to do with someone capable of being so nasty,truly nasty piece of work. Hope you are ok OP?

BackInTheRealWorld · 31/08/2015 20:36

Jesus what a vile bitch. She sounds very Jeremy Kyle.

selsigfach · 31/08/2015 20:39

I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your little baby. This bitch does not deserve to be a mother. Cut her out of your life, not just FB.

NotTodaySatan · 31/08/2015 20:39

The only thing YABU about is ever being FB friends with such a disgusting illiterate specimen.

Block and delete. And take care of yourself Flowers Flowers.

AlphabetStew · 31/08/2015 20:39

What an awful cow. Or, in more mn terms, what a thundering cuntbag. You've deleted her from Facebook now delete her from as many areas of your life as you possibly can.

Flowers Commiserations on your recent loss.

lazycoo · 31/08/2015 20:41

So sorry for your mc Flowers what a vile bitch - you are well rid. Her antagonising you at such a time... She clearly has no idea.

purplepandas · 31/08/2015 20:42

I am really sorry for your loss op. That is no friend. I have no words. I lost a DD and it is not horrendously unfair. Seeing some of the smoking mums outside the hospital used to really get to me as I felt it was so unfair too. It's a difficult time, take care of yourself.

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MrsBertMacklin · 31/08/2015 20:45

That is a Level Ubercunt comment to make, I think that has completely vindicated your decision to remove her.

What's your relationship with her, actual friend, or FB acquaintance: are there any other ties you need to cut?

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