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To have blocked her off FB?

122 replies

Voovinnie · 31/08/2015 20:29

Sorry, I know lots of people cringe at the word Facebook but you don't have to know anything about it to comment, really.

Last Friday I had a miscarriage at 10+ weeks. To cut a long story short, I deleted one of my 'friends' from Facebook because she was always posting about 'need a fucking fag' and people would comment about how their midwives had told them quiting smoking would be more harm than good for their DC, or 'Me and baby girl enjoying a nice cuppa and ciggy' (She is 28 weeks pregnant).

I found her so hurtful and lots of irrational things went through my head, including "why was my baby taken from me, yet she's allowed to remain a Mother?"

Anyway, another friend of mine said I shouldn't have taken her off, and just unfollowed her so I wouldn't see her posts. Thing is though, I found her so shocking, I didn't want her there at all.

Fast forward to yesterday evening, and this is the text she sent me.
Should I have just unfollowed?

Thank you Smile

To have blocked her off FB?
OP posts:
itsraininginbaltimore · 31/08/2015 21:36

Jesus what a skanky, nasty piece of work she is. Un-fucking-believable.

YANBU. Sorry for your loss.

gamerchick · 31/08/2015 21:37

Now block her number.

jorahmormont · 31/08/2015 21:41

What an absolute thundercunt.

YANBU. Block her, but keep that screenshot. The vindictive person I am, I'd post it all over Facebook for all to see what an absolute arsewipe she is, but it could be useful some day even if you don't post it now.

So sorry for your loss Flowers

hattyhatter · 31/08/2015 21:50

Oh she's a horrible, nasty woman Sad

You're well rid, however it happened.

Original poster
Voovinnie · 31/08/2015 23:22

Hi all,
Thank you, just wanted to make sure I wasn't being overly sensitive. I use to be good friends with her, now that's unreasonable.

OP posts:
coconutpie · 31/08/2015 23:27

OMG, what a vile despicable scumbag she is.

I'm so sorry for your MC Sad Flowers

TheMotherOfHellbeasts · 31/08/2015 23:29

Fuck me Shock there are no words. Flowers its a horrendous place that you're in, take care of yourself x.

steff13 · 31/08/2015 23:29

I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had two miscarriages, they are horrifying. Nothing you did caused it.

She sounds like a wretched woman. I'd have blocked her ages ago for her grammar alone.

BitchBags · 31/08/2015 23:30

What a vile person! You are much better off without her. I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

ArgentinianMalbec · 31/08/2015 23:32

God what a complete cunt, you're well rid. Sorry about your mc.

NewLife4Me · 31/08/2015 23:36

What a horrible friend.
So sorry for your loss, of course it wasn't your fault.
I hope all her friends delete her after this Thanks for you x

sleeponeday · 31/08/2015 23:37

How good of her to confirm she is a toxic abomination - you were 100% in the right to get shot of her. I pity her poor baby. No child deserves a mother without a shred of basic human decency.

Flowers I am so very sorry for your loss. There's no justice, is there?

sleeponeday · 31/08/2015 23:42

I am not madly keen on the typing of messages either to be honest but an actual screenshot just seems a breach of privacy to me. I wouldn't like it.

I think the right to mind vanished around the time she decided to be so viciously and needlessly cruel over something this petty. If someone chooses to behave in that manner they have zero right to mind when their behaviour is exposed.

sazza76 · 31/08/2015 23:45

I'm sorry for your loss. This is the last thing you need, you were absolutely right to block her. Thats the last sort of thing you need to see. As for her text well it says everything about her you need to know. She's an ugly, spiteful person. Try to be thankful that your not like her as she's a dispicable person who doesnt deserve a second of your thoughts.
Take care x

Jw35 · 31/08/2015 23:47

YANBU what a vile woman! I'm sorry for your loss Flowers

Rainbowlou1 · 31/08/2015 23:49

She is horrid! You do not need people like that in your life.
I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

TeamBacon · 31/08/2015 23:49

Wow, that's an incredibly awful thing to say, you're worried about blocking her? She sounds like a world class bitch, and I'd be blocking her mobile number too.

I'm so sorry. Enough to go through without dealing with shit like that from people like her.

And fuck privacy in this instance. I've had some people call me stuck up because I've got standards and they want to justify their shitty parenting. Whether it be smoking while pg, getting shitfaced around the kids, not bothering with the right car seat etc. It's not fucking acceptable and they're just pushing their bollocks on to you.

SoleBizzzz · 01/09/2015 01:32

You are better than her. I feel sorry for her unborn child. Thick, sad, shallow nobody.

Sorry for your loss Flowers You did nothing wrong.

sykadelic · 01/09/2015 02:42

Holy crap! Most definitely not unreasonable. Just wow.

You are well rid!

MrsNippyCat · 01/09/2015 07:47

Block her number as well.

Sorry for your loss Flowers

Olddear · 01/09/2015 08:05

She sounds like Waynetta Slob. Why were you ever friends with this creature in the first place?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 01/09/2015 08:16

She sounds hideous. I think you need to decide what to tell any mutual friends.

MummaGiles · 01/09/2015 08:27

Absolutely right to delete her. I can't believe she could say that to you, what a dispicable thing to do. You do not need someone like that in your life.

Verypissedoffwife · 01/09/2015 08:32

Jesus - this person was ever your friend? What an absolute cunt.

shrunkenhead · 01/09/2015 08:47

It's really nasty what she has written and she clearly isn't v bright. I think her viciousness comes from jealousy and embarrassment (though I don't mean she's jealous of your mc of course). From what she writes about you being "Miss prim and proper", the healthy living comment and you (quite rightly) judging her smoking she clearly wishes she could be more like you. Maybe she struggled to give up smoking, decided she couldn't so instead of being embarrassed about it went to the opposite end and bragged about it.
I'm in no way condoning her behaviour, just trying to understand where this comes from.
Like others have said you did the right thing to delete her. I'd block her on your phone too but save message for future reference.

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