To have blocked her off FB?

[Voovinnie]

Sorry, I know lots of people cringe at the word Facebook but you don't have to know anything about it to comment, really.

Last Friday I had a miscarriage at 10+ weeks. To cut a long story short, I deleted one of my 'friends' from Facebook because she was always posting about 'need a fucking fag' and people would comment about how their midwives had told them quiting smoking would be more harm than good for their DC, or 'Me and baby girl enjoying a nice cuppa and ciggy' (She is 28 weeks pregnant).

I found her so hurtful and lots of irrational things went through my head, including "why was my baby taken from me, yet she's allowed to remain a Mother?"

Anyway, another friend of mine said I shouldn't have taken her off, and just unfollowed her so I wouldn't see her posts. Thing is though, I found her so shocking, I didn't want her there at all.

Fast forward to yesterday evening, and this is the text she sent me.
Should I have just unfollowed?

Thank you

[Charlesroi]

She sounds a bit lot thick, but you did the right thing.

You need some of these

[Hissy]

If you weren't justified for removing her before the text, you are NOW!

MoVe on and don't look back... I'm sorry about the MC. It's rough, I know. :(

[AyeAmarok]

Sorry for your MC.

She's vile. Don't be friends with her again.

[Goldmandra]

You are better off without her in your life.

YANBU to judge her for smoking. She may end up judging herself in the future, although I hope she doesn't have cause to.

You also need to consider whether you want to keep the friend who told you off for deleting her in your life. At times like this, you only need supportive people around you.

[Rhine]

As well as being horribly insensitive she sounds like a right thick bitch going from those texts.

YANBU

[KitKat1985]

What a disgusting, vile low-life. Her poor baby having her as a mother. I'm sorry for your loss.

[ollieplimsoles]

Lets hope she's a mumsnetter...

[Gingermakesmesick]

Well, I must say I'm a bit at the entire text and the first name being included.

Obviously, the text is horrible.

I am sorry for your loss. That said, I'm not sure i feel informing someone else of how wrong they are to smoke is wise.

Anyway, I really don't like the fact the pictures included, sorry.

[Chillyegg]

Wow what a massive cunt! Yanbu

Some people eh

[snoozeyoulose]

Wow. Words fails me. Yabu to even be worrying about this waste of space. Delete the message, block her and get on with your own life op. Sorry about your miscarriage don't give that cretin another minute of your time.

[Fuckityhi]

She's a stupid, evil cunt. You are well rid.

I'm sorry for your loss. Xxx

[shortbreadsharon]

Very sorry for your loss What a dreadful skank, how dare she send that to you, you are truly better of without her.

[JuJuMun69]

I was a smoking mum and had a healthy child. So was my mother, and hers before her.

This is not about "demonising" smoking as usual.

Its about her being a horrible bitch and yes block/delete.

[fastdaytears]

Gingers the OP doesn't say that she did say anything about the smoking to this lady. It sounds to me like stirry-friend did that.
Also, not sure what the screenshot problem is. Kelly's not an uncommon name and if the OP had typed out the messages as many people do we'd have the same info.

[Gingermakesmesick]

I am not madly keen on the typing of messages either to be honest but an actual screenshot just seems a breach of privacy to me. I wouldn't like it.

The fact 'Kelly' knew why she'd been deleted did indicate to me that OP had mentioned it to her.

I wish you well OP, and obviously it was a horrible thing for 'Kelly' to do, but I don't have an uncommon name but still wouldn't like my texts to be put on Mumsnet, even the 'ok, see you later x' ones that are generally my forte! I send a text to one person, I don't expect it to be read by one of the most frequently visited UK websites!

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

Sorry for your heart breaking loss, Voo,Why is life so cruel or
At least I've still got my baby, you ain't. I've never heard anything more wicked to come from anyone would be astonishingly evil but from a pregnant women.
As previously said. You're well rid.

[FattyNinjaOwl]

Jesus, I smoked through my first two pregnancies. I feel awful for doing so and I'm lucky in that they are both healthy, but I would never have bragged about it. It isn't something to be proud of, and that message is fucking horrible.
OP. You are better off without her.

[Faye12345]

She is a disgusting human being you did the right thing!

[mysticlogistic]

I seriously can't believe you called this person a friend. If thats the way she is you're better knowing it now than having her around you and treating you like that. Well well rid

[whattodohatethis]

In the interest of being fair, whilst I did quit smoking as soon as I discovered I was pregnant, both the gp and the midwife did actually say that if you are really struggling to quit, cutting back is less damaging to the baby than the stress caused by quitting. So it is possible that she has been told the same and that is why she has continued to smoke.

But that is still no excuse for her vile behaviour. She sounds like the biggest twunt going and I'm still shocked by the text, absolutely vile

[NotMeNotYouNotAnyone]

Yadnbu

I'm so sorry about your miscarriage, I can't believe anyone who considers themselves your friend would say something so awful and hurtful. Actually, I can't believe anyone at all would say that! Delete her, block her, you're much better off without her in your life.

[ShebaShimmyShake]

Jesus Christ!

To taunt you for miscarrying, over a Facebook spat?

Where did you even meet this loathsome piece of shit to start with?

Nobody is obliged to be FB friends with anyone, and you obviously had the measure of her from the start if you went straight to deleting. If she really wanted to know why, she could have asked sensitively rather than coming in so confrontationally.

I have no words for this worthless shitbag of a woman. How dare she say such a thing to you after what you're going through?

Don't even respond, just ignore completely, but do save this screenshot in case anyone asks you.

[gamerchick]

She's thick and you don't need someone that thick around you.. Especially now you know she's slagging you off to all and sundry.

As much as you might want to go down to her level it'll do her head in far far more if you remain aloof and calm. You have rejected her and it'll do her swede in.

I'm so so sorry about your baby