To think this is rude:

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If someone who doesn't involve you in their child's life (like birthdays and other things) and doesnt take interest in your children's life either (doesn't acknowledge birthdays), phones you and tells you to make a cake for a big event their child is taking part in because her whole family will be there and they need a big cake. Then they give you instructions on what kind of cake they want. No invite or comments such as "we'd like you to be there too".

Isn't this incredibly rude?

Just say no.

It sounds it. Why did you say yes? Who is it? In law?

Of course it's rude unless you are a cake maker and they're paying you

Yes. Don't do it, I wouldn't.

Are you a professional cake- maker or something op? Is she after a favour?

Tell her that you're not her personal chef and that she can make her own damn cake

Yes it rude, they appear to be using you. Well unless you're a cake maker, and you're going to bill them.

Tells you to make a cake? It'd be a no from me. With a great temptation to tell them to sod off as well.

Any particular reason for them not including you?

Not U if you are a professional cake maker and they are paying you?

So I take it you said no?

Yes and you would be a bit of an eejit to just produce the cake

In fact, I'd have no further contact and wait for her to turn up to collect the cake she expects from you. Then laugh and say you didn't think she was serious because nobody could possibly be that rude.

I have a feeling the op will make
It.
Why else would you listen to instructions instead of laughing and hanging up the phone.

Captain great idea

I would actually do that

'Bitch, are you on glue?'

Paging TidyDancer

Incredibly rude!

Just tell them you won't be making the cake.

Not sure why NO didn't come up very, very early in phone call op

Is she paying you? I'm a bit confused at this. Are you a cake maker?

Yes it's rude! Unless you do cakes and are getting paid. Are you going to follow the orders? Who has asked you?

Is it family Op

Need more info

Just to be nosey as yadnbu

It has to be TidyDancer on a NC! No one else has friends this entitled!

Yes an in-law. Sil.

I'm not a cake maker, I do make nice cakes for my children though.

I found it so rude that she wants me to make a cake that she will devour with her own family who no doubt have been invited to go and cheer my niece on. I did say to her a few times in the conversation jokingly about where my invitation was. She was shocked i asked and barked back that I don't need an invitation but no one would be at home to lookafter an ill relative if I came.

There is no reason for her not including me. I've always been nice. Long backstory, but this is a woman who breast fed my baby without my permission.

She just came around with ingredients and is getting more tomorrow. I won't be able to get out of it now. I either make a nice cake or make a horrible one. The latter is very petty.

Yes. V rude. Did you tell them to bog off?

What the jeff?
Definitely do not make the cake.

Hate OPs like this. They're like those annoying FB statuses where people put a bit of information on and wait for loads of responses before adding the next snippet.

Tbh, i'm not sure why I'm even replying,