To ask if you equate your partner masturbating to cheating?

[Allisgood1]

Just that really.
I had a friend who caught her dh masturbating to a porn. They went for counseling.
Another friend found out hers masturbated to Game of Thrones. She banned him from watching it and told him he's effectively cheating on her and this is grounds for divorce ??
Am I missing something????

I would have issue with a partner watching porn. It's not something I would ever be ok with personally.

But masterbation? No, that's not a problem. Or it shouldn't be in a healthy relationship.

No, totally natural, even porn I would not mind, its hardly a real life woman, that he is involved in, just fantasy.

They could always give him a hand.,,

I don't like porn because I think the way it's made is exploitative. Amongst other reasons.

I do not, however, think that masturbating by oneself is cheating.

That honestly strikes me as quite bizarre.

These days I have got an issue with masturbating to porn. And doing it to GOT is just ... but not cheating
But, nah, if the silly sod wanted to think about Mary Berry wearing nothing but an apron and a Victoria sponge, he's welcome! Genitals and imagination are personal territory - whatever your gender and sexuality.

Yes, there's something a bit thought-police-ish about wanting to be the arbiter of what your partner can wank to.

Weird.

Which scene in Game of Thrones?

No I don't, that's just daft.

Perhaps this book might help?

Ha ha, those two need to get a fucking grip. Are they for real???

(Probably not the best choice of phrase)

Although, I agree with the others - GOT a little bit of an odd choice.

From a male perspective. I’d say that 99% of men do it. Yes that’s right, as you’ve always suspected. We’re all w***s.

Cheating?! Christ no, how ridiculous

Anyone who thinks masturbation is grounds for divorce should indeed divorce their spouse....................and leave them free to find someone less cuckoo.

I'd rather someone was masturbating than cheating. Cheating involves deceit and the lovely intimacy we have being used somewhere else. Masturbation is normal and healthy.

I find it just as odd that these women don't masturbate themselves. I can't wait for DH to go to work on my day off so I can rub one out.

If people masturbated daily the world would be a more chilled out place.

Exactly, it's up to them what they wank too, I am not running a communist regime!

Exactly fluffy, it's deception, lie, breaking an emotional and intimate bond between a couple, as well as destroying a family.

Which bit of GoT? I mean, the Red Wedding would be disturbing, for example.

What's she going to cite in the divorce papers - he cheated on me - with himself.

It's only cheating if it involves Paul Hollywood and baked goods.

Are you sure Can the silver fox not be the exception to the rule

Not cheating. but it's disrespectful if you don't make sure the other person won't see you.

HHorrible porn would be an issue though!

No.