To be mad with dp for texting instead of dtd?

[bexlass24]

Am raving but dp says I'm completely out of order. Help needed! Last night for the first time in months dp and I had the house to ourselves. All (teenage) dc's were out overnight for various reasons. We went out for the evening and (anyone with dc's will know how difficult it is to maintain any sort of sex life with a housefull) on coming home we went to bed. Assuming he had the same thoughts as me I turned to look alluringingly at him - only to find him texting! I decided to sleep in one of the kids rooms as I didn't want an argument at that time of night. Thought that in the morning I might feel differently. I didn't. So when he got up it flared up and he said I was being ridiculous. We are now not speaking. AIBU?

Er, yes.

Yep!

Box of frogs

Yes.

Yes. YABU.

crazy
didnt you want to dtd?

So who was he texting?

So he was texting someone when you were in bed together?

I don't think you WBU.

Phones seem to interrupt everything in our lives.

Yes. Absolutely.

Absolutely ridiculous to strop off because he didnt notice your alluring look

why did you assume and not talk to him?

Takes 2 mins to text....and then ...

Think you overeacted a tad there Op

I assume the text would have been sent in seconds and you could have dtd then.

It sounds like you wanted a row tbh.

I think YABU, sorry. Did you say something like, oi, when you've done shall we DTD? (Or whatever you and your husband's name for it is), make it a bit of a joke? Yes phones are on all the time, but my husband drops his pretty instantly if he thinks DTD is on the table! Maybe you are a bit over sensitive to this, I would understand that if you have a houseful of teenagers all constantly on the screens.

this is hilarious!!
You mean he wasn't waiting with baited breath for you to do a sexy hair flick and an alluring look?! LTB!

Could he not have done both? Not at the same time, mind.

Bit of an overreaction but I'd be a bit pissed off too...

I think you were very passive aggressive stropping off to sleep in another room. Might it not have been more productive to communicate what was going in for you via the medium of speech??
Who was he texting? Is there some kind of he's always texting back story?

Try talking to him instead of relying on assumptions and alluring looks next time.

You mean you simply noticed he was texting, got a cob on and stropped off to the kids' room without saying anything? Like "fancy a shag, darling?" or similar?

If you did that, then you're nuts and he's right.

IF you suggested sex and he ignored you and carried on texting, then you're right.

did you have your best nightie on and everyfink??

still, at least he didn't start texting WHILE you were at it.

So you just went and slept in another room without saying anything to him - that's not odd or anything

Why didn't you, er, distract him? I'm sure he'd have put his phone down pretty quickly then!