To be mad with dp for texting instead of dtd?

[bexlass24]

Am raving but dp says I'm completely out of order. Help needed! Last night for the first time in months dp and I had the house to ourselves. All (teenage) dc's were out overnight for various reasons. We went out for the evening and (anyone with dc's will know how difficult it is to maintain any sort of sex life with a housefull) on coming home we went to bed. Assuming he had the same thoughts as me I turned to look alluringingly at him - only to find him texting! I decided to sleep in one of the kids rooms as I didn't want an argument at that time of night. Thought that in the morning I might feel differently. I didn't. So when he got up it flared up and he said I was being ridiculous. We are now not speaking. AIBU?

Amy it may surprise you to know that not every man wants sex all the time. And that, you know, we're allowed to say no, or not want to, just as much as women are, thank you very much. I'd love to see what happens when perhaps, at some later date, your bloke loses his drive and how you would treat him then.

As some PPs said, some of the comments on this thread are shocking, quite honestly. And hugely disappointing.

Bone me bab has really really made me laugh

I turned to look alluringingly at him - only to find him texting!

Did you make any 'moves' or did you just expect him to know what you wanted?

Going to sleep elsewhere because you didn't get sex is juvenile. Rowing about not getting sex is ridiculous!

Grow up!

I work on Sunday's so had to ask him several times to stop texting or go out of the bedroom so I could get some sleep Erm...surely sex would have been counter productive to 'sleep' anyway... You were just sulking because you didn't get it. Pathetic.

am amazed so many people think texting in bed is the norm. Am amazed at how many people think sulking if you don't get sex is the norm, tbh!

but you do realise your partner has a right to say no to sex, even if he is a man? Right? Reassure me here, people! Reassured...a woman posted about her dh sulking & sleeping in another room [when she refused sex] recently & her dh got hammered!!

AmyElliotDunne I have a very active sex life despite having tech in my bedroom..of course, being an adult I am also able to tell dh what I want & vice versa....funnily enough, we put down the tech if we both want it.

meowth it's SEX. What the hell is frick fracking/frick? You are young, but it doesn't sound like you are 'more comfortable' around your dh than your older counterparts .. especially if you can't even use the right words!

it's really not that hard to tell someone "bone me bab"

Do adults even say bone me? Sounds odd. And rather like trash talk!

How did he know you wanted sex if you told him to stop texting or leave the room so you could sleep? YABU

Talk about a mood killer...

Some of the posts have been a little harsh.. but i think the OP now has the point!

You should have got your phone and text him something like 'fancy some?' At least that way he would have got the message

DrSeth, if either of us don't feel like it, we still put down the phones, we have a cuddle and a kiss and lo and behold, we both feel like it.

If in the future one of us doesn't, nobody will be forcing anyone against their will, but I can assure you that sitting playing on our phones won't do anything to foster the kind of closeness we need to get intimate with each other.

Only just come back - think north east blythe

Also, differentname, it's making FUN out of it. he's my DP, not my DH, yes I am young, too young to get married, but if I want to make it funny by calling it other names, i'm not going to say "Oh good evening darling can we perform a dab of coitus?"

it's just the way I speak.

Thanks, I shall update your records accordingly.